All we sacrifice

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    Sep 16, 2015 5:55 PM GMT
    My life used to be all whim. I landed where I landed by chance and things always seemed to work out.

    I'm 42 finishing grad school, which I endeavored on a whim, I didn't think I'd be accepted and didn't know what was entailed in completing the program.

    I graduate in December already have a new job, a new professional perspective, a respectable and very well-liked reputation, a 15 year health care career that seemed to just happen and more job prospects than I ever thought possible.
    But with this new professional panache I feel like I lost my heart somewhere...

    While I pursued my career I concurrently was a go go dancer, a fetish model, a stripper, actor, dancer... a dreamer. In my 20s I was a waiter/bartender who traveled every summer to the Mediterranean. My mom called me "her happy wanderer".

    The last 5 years has found me in a crusty boring but safe place. I must change that before my soul is crushed.

    What do you feel you've sacrificed to be who you are?
    If you had to do it over again, what would you do differently if anything?
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    Sep 16, 2015 6:47 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidMy life used to be all whim. I landed where I landed by chance and things always seemed to work out.

    I'm 42 finishing grad school, which I endeavored on a whim

    I graduate in December already have a new job, a new professional perspective, a respectable and very well-liked reputation, a 15 year health care career that seemed to just happen and more job prospects than I ever thought possible.

    The last 5 years has found me in a crusty boring but safe place. I must change that before my soul is crushed.

    What do you feel you've sacrificed to be who you are?
    If you had to do it over again, what would you do differently if anything?


    You are not pleased with the process behind the elegant results you are getting in your life?
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    Sep 16, 2015 6:49 PM GMT
    enjoy your mid life crisis. Be safe.
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    Sep 16, 2015 7:05 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidYou are not pleased with the process behind the elegant results you are getting in your life?

    I am pleased. I'm very pleased. I've accomplished things I didn't think I ever could. Before I always saw myself as a performer not a pragmatist.

    I don't want to abandon what I've accomplished, I'm very proud of it. Just realizing I need more balance.
    Thank you... it feels elegant.
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    Sep 16, 2015 7:05 PM GMT

    Lol, I enjoyed reading the love letter you wrote to yourself.

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    Sep 16, 2015 7:07 PM GMT
    I didn't have to sacrifice anything
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    Sep 16, 2015 7:08 PM GMT
    Oceans_of_Flowers said
    Lol, I enjoyed reading the love letter you wrote to yourself.



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    Sep 16, 2015 7:08 PM GMT
    Oceans_of_Flowers said
    Lol, I enjoyed reading the love letter you wrote to yourself.

    If I don't love myself, who will? icon_smile.gif

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    Sep 16, 2015 7:10 PM GMT
    bonaparts saidI didn't have to sacrifice anything
    Bravo for you, that's awesome.
    Mine are temporary sacrifices that can be regained.

    I did however sacrifice a family.
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    Sep 16, 2015 7:17 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said
    bonaparts saidI didn't have to sacrifice anything
    Bravo for you, that's awesome.
    Mine are temporary sacrifices that can be regained.

    I did however sacrifice a family.


    I finished university when I was 24, I didn't see anythingelse for myself anyway, sacrifice is a stupid word anyway, I mean, if it such a torture for you why even bother
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    Sep 16, 2015 7:18 PM GMT
    The only thing you can't get back is time, so spend it wisely.
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    Sep 16, 2015 7:29 PM GMT
    bonaparts saidI finished university when I was 24, I didn't see anythingelse for myself anyway, sacrifice is a stupid word anyway, I mean, if it such a torture for you why even bother

    You're missing the point.
    It's my masters degree and the last three years have been very challenging all I do is work and go to school. I wouldn't change it but I am changing how I move forward.

    Do you want a cookie for finishing university at 24 or do you want it for being an asshat? You may have finished school but you apparently are very proficient at the latter. Good luck with that junior.
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    Sep 16, 2015 7:32 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said
    bonaparts saidI finished university when I was 24, I didn't see anythingelse for myself anyway, sacrifice is a stupid word anyway, I mean, if it such a torture for you why even bother

    You're missing the point.
    It's my masters degree and the last three years have been very challenging all I do is work and go to school. I wouldn't change it but I am changing how I move forward.

    Do you want a cookie for finishing university at 24 or do you want it for being an asshat? You may have finished school but you apparently are very proficient at the latter. Good luck with that junior.


    do you want a cookie for your fucking bragging thread? icon_lol.gif and please biatch, like you know anything about me

    Nobody cares that you finished grad school and your self pitty ouh sacrifices, who gives a shit, NOBODY icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 16, 2015 8:55 PM GMT
    you aren't that evocative.
    ...actually I know enough about you, you bore me. *snore*

    Now go play with the other kids like a good boy.

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    ...with you.
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    Sep 16, 2015 9:05 PM GMT
    The lucky people in life have a career doing what they enjoy and that they find fulfilling. I worked with a lot of people for whom their job was just a 8-5 job; I felt sorry for them.
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    Sep 16, 2015 9:28 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said

    I did however sacrifice a family.


    How did you sacrifice them?
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    Sep 16, 2015 9:31 PM GMT
    bonaparts saidI didn't have to sacrifice anything

    This times a million. If you haphazardly lead your life and wake up in your forties to find your soul is being crushed, there is only one person responsible for that soul crushing journey.
    Sounds like your on the fast track to complete boredom, bail as fast as possible, after all, your life of whimsy has been pretty good so far, right?
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    Sep 16, 2015 9:40 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidyou aren't that evocative.
    ...actually I know enough about you, you bore me. *snore*

    Now go play with the other kids like a good boy.

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    ...with you.


    That is the real Bonaparts. She ain't fooling nobody. That little girl is in for a rude awakening some day. Ignore her.
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    Sep 16, 2015 9:57 PM GMT
    flguy57 said
    EasilyDistracted saidyou aren't that evocative.
    ...actually I know enough about you, you bore me. *snore*

    Now go play with the other kids like a good boy.

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    ...with you.


    That is the real Bonaparts. She ain't fooling nobody. That little girl is in for a rude awakening some day. Ignore her.


    Ok, real talk, I m fooling WHO with WHAt and HOW? And that ignoring part, please stupid troll, you keep following me around and haven't ignored me even once icon_lol.gif i diot
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    Sep 16, 2015 10:02 PM GMT
    Oceans_of_Flowers said
    EasilyDistracted saidI did however sacrifice a family.
    How did you sacrifice them?

    I wanted kids and was a child myself for most of my adult life. I grew up with a lot of adversity and knew I couldn't provide the home all children deserve. Was my attempt at being responsible... not sure if it was the right thing but as life has played out, it has been.



    smartmoney saidyour life of whimsy has been pretty good so far, right?

    You're right, it was good. But I wanted more and had to set whimsy aside to challenge myself to grow in a meaningful way. I've missed that part of myself and am anxious about what lies where my creativity used to reside.
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    Sep 16, 2015 11:19 PM GMT
    EasilyDistracted said





    You're right, it was good. But I wanted more and had to set whimsy aside to challenge myself to grow in a meaningful way. I've missed that part of myself and am anxious about what lies where my creativity used to reside.



    Dude .... the struggle Is real. You haven't really sacrificed anything; you've changed, Congratulations.

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    Sep 17, 2015 3:08 AM GMT
    EasilyDistracted saidWhat do you feel you've sacrificed to be who you are?
    Nothing. Rather than letting my career shape who I am, I shape my career the way I want it to be (the wonders of self-employment).

    EasilyDistracted saidIf you had to do it over again, what would you do differently if anything?
    I'd change my childhood/upbringing if I could, but other than that, I wouldn't change a thing. In fact, being gay is what helped catapult my life out of the sticks and into a fun career (otherwise I'd still be a farm boy and probably married to some fat old huzzy).
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    Sep 17, 2015 4:13 PM GMT
    Oceans_of_Flowers said
    Dude .... the struggle Is real. You haven't really sacrificed anything; you've changed, Congratulations.


    I like your style and perspective. Thank you for that, I'm taking it with me.

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