Former HS Football Star, Son of University of Louisville Head Coach, comes out

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    Sep 17, 2015 2:30 PM GMT
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    http://www.outsports.com/2015/9/8/9271409/bobby-petrino-jr-louisville-football-gay-coming-out

    Outsports(Bobby Petrino, Jr. says) "I played football, basketball, and baseball at Trinity High School in Louisville until halfway through my sophomore year," he told me. "I started as a sophomore, was named first team all-county, and we won the state championship that year. Then we moved to Atlanta where I just stuck to football and played one season at Greater Atlanta Christian School. A year later we move to Fayetteville, Arkansas. I only played football and was named newcomer of the year in Arkansas and first team All-State safety.

    "I then signed to play at the Air Force Academy where I went through basic training and decided it wasn't for me. I think I chose Air Force because I thought it would be a great place where I could continue to hide my sexuality. At that point the Don't Ask, Don't Tell policy was still in effect. I went back to Arkansas and played for my dad until I tore my LCL (lateral collateral ligament) and decided to be done with sports."

    What's interesting about Petrino's coming out story is how much it follows a typical pattern – he was scared and lonely and thought he was the only one. Once he came out as gay, the response was all positive, even from the one man who he feared would take it the wrong way.

    "I wouldn't really say my dad helped me be comfortable with my sexuality growing up," he told me. "He was who I feared the most regarding it. I had a gay uncle on my mother's side and he wasn't really talked about too much. But once I came out to my dad -- and I was dating a guy at the time -- he was great about it. My boyfriends have always come over for family dinner, been on family vacations. And he was really nice to them and was interested in who they were. ... Everyone has accepted me and loved me for who I am. It is a non-issue in our family."

    Petrino felt so comfortable that this year he marched in a pride parade. He attended the Louisville-Auburn season opener Saturday in Atlanta with three gay friends and went down to the sidelines for the second half. He has no role with the team "other than be the biggest fan." Single now, he is graduating in December with an accounting degree from Louisville and told the magazine that he wants to be an elementary school teacher because he loves working with children.
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    Sep 17, 2015 3:16 PM GMT
    The floodgates are finally opening!
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    Sep 17, 2015 4:36 PM GMT

    I don't want guys to stop coming out -- I just don't want it to be news anymore. To me it's just not newsworthy (disclaimer: I'm a journalist so have very specific ideas of what makes news). I understand that there is still the stigma in athletics and some other areas, and that high-profile people coming out is of interest. But someday we'll all be like "yea? who gives a fuck? next story, please..."

    SOON.

  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 17, 2015 4:45 PM GMT
    The more guys who come out, the more people who will have a gay man as a friend.
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    Sep 17, 2015 5:15 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidThe more guys who come out, the more people who will have a gay man as a friend.


    Or, to look at it another way, the fewer people who will have a straight man as a friend.

    Just sayin...

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    Sep 17, 2015 6:32 PM GMT
    He looks really cute in that picture but so different in all the others 10784989_1380828932208094_1446400192_n.j
    David_Lauderdale said
    I don't want guys to stop coming out -- I just don't want it to be news anymore. To me it's just not newsworthy (disclaimer: I'm a journalist so have very specific ideas of what makes news). I understand that there is still the stigma in athletics and some other areas, and that high-profile people coming out is of interest. But someday we'll all be like "yea? who gives a fuck? next story, please..."

    SOON.



    Role-models.
    Up until recently all there have been were flame-y bravo tv style gays...vapid gays.
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    Sep 17, 2015 8:27 PM GMT
    Sincityfan saidHe looks really cute in that picture but so different in all the others 10784989_1380828932208094_1446400192_n.j
    David_Lauderdale said
    I don't want guys to stop coming out -- I just don't want it to be news anymore. To me it's just not newsworthy (disclaimer: I'm a journalist so have very specific ideas of what makes news). I understand that there is still the stigma in athletics and some other areas, and that high-profile people coming out is of interest. But someday we'll all be like "yea? who gives a fuck? next story, please..."

    SOON.



    Role-models.
    Up until recently all there have been were flame-y bravo tv style gays...vapid gays.



    I certainly don't disagree. I just hope that changes soon and these "news" stories will no longer be news -- It'll be like reporting that an airplane landed (yea, they're supposed to land).

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    Sep 17, 2015 10:28 PM GMT
    David_Lauderdale said
    I don't want guys to stop coming out -- I just don't want it to be news anymore. To me it's just not newsworthy (disclaimer: I'm a journalist so have very specific ideas of what makes news). I understand that there is still the stigma in athletics and some other areas, and that high-profile people coming out is of interest. But someday we'll all be like "yea? who gives a fuck? next story, please..."

    SOON.



    While I understand your Journalistic sensibilities regarding this issue, I do however see it most relevant particularly in the current politcal climate of Kentuckians dealing with same sex marriages (County Clerk Kim Davies fiasco). Louisville, is by far a more cosmopolitan city compared to the rest of the state. Kentucky as a whole needs this kind of exposure of closeted gay men coming out and give the citizens more exposure to the gay community. I went to the schools and I can tell you it is a big deal to be gay either Trinity or St. X high school.
  • rwahoo

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    Sep 18, 2015 12:20 AM GMT
    understand the weariness about coming out stories.. but we haven't even come close to the "saturation point." We need to keep having more of these "under the radar" type of guys come out before the first real breakthrough "star" comes out. Once we have a few of those, it'll starting be a non-story. But until then, the more the better.

    And I still get choked up reading these, every time.
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    Sep 18, 2015 5:57 AM GMT
    David_Lauderdale said
    I don't want guys to stop coming out -- I just don't want it to be news anymore. To me it's just not newsworthy (disclaimer: I'm a journalist so have very specific ideas of what makes news). I understand that there is still the stigma in athletics and some other areas, and that high-profile people coming out is of interest. But someday we'll all be like "yea? who gives a fuck? next story, please..."

    SOON.



    Exactly. When there is no "out", then, we've been successful.

    It's important to not act as an enabler to low self acceptance and low self esteem. I don't bring closet cases into my world because it invites stress, deceit, drama, etc.

    In 2015, everyone should like themselves enough not to be that creep; not to be that stupid torso shot; to stand up, introduce themselves with a full name, a handshake and a smile.

    If you've ever studied sexuality, you know that bi is "normal." Not straight. Not gay. Bi. 75% for men. 85% for men. If you're gay, dig occasional dick, or just like a finger up your ass...you're normal. YOU ARE NOT LESS THAN. Stop behaving like it.

    If you're engaged in conformance theory / false belief systems, and those belief cause you pain, walk away from those false belief system. They have no place in a civilized world.

    Lead. Empower. Never coddle. Coddling only makes the weak part weaker.

    I'm Chuck Gudgel. I work in global IT infrastructure. I'm 55 years old, 5'5", #190, a survivor of 3 CABG, and in my 42nd year of lifting, and you should know you are not less than. No need for the stupid torso shot. Act normal, and you'll be treated as such. Pretty simple thing. Feel free to google me, and follow me online.

    YOU ARE NOT LESS THAN.
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    Sep 18, 2015 6:28 AM GMT
    David_Lauderdale said
    I don't want guys to stop coming out -- I just don't want it to be news anymore. To me it's just not newsworthy (disclaimer: I'm a journalist so have very specific ideas of what makes news). I understand that there is still the stigma in athletics and some other areas, and that high-profile people coming out is of interest. But someday we'll all be like "yea? who gives a fuck? next story, please..."

    SOON.



    This. My first thought was "who cares"? Even my straight friends don't give s shit any more. And that's exactly the way it should be
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    Sep 18, 2015 3:20 PM GMT
    I wish Louisville's offense had come out in force against Clemson last night. "They coulda been a contender!"