ShiftyJK08 saidNot asking this in a way that implies doubt, but how do you know they are asexual? I have not seen prior posts about them so you may have shared more back story that I haven't read.
I've known her since she was in a crib and as adults they followed us down to Florida. So I've also known them together for decades. We talk. I ask questions. So I know their story.
They have sex with neither each other nor with others. They are in every way a married couple but for public recognition and that no sex thang. I know that sounds weird and it took family some adjusting.
I personally tend to think one is more str8 and the other more lesbian but they both identify as str8 while living as asexual. Even while identifying, any such expression never seemed like an actual sexual attraction, rather more like saying so for convention's sake, not unlike a gay guy avoids the conversation or misleads others to get them to think he's str8.
And they tend to be a little weird about sex. I'm not sure if this is the right word, but immature about it, maybe? I've noticed that more than once. They seem to view it not from adult eyes but almost from kid's eyes, realizing each time that "people do that!?!"
Being with them is unlike being with most other people I know who are sexual. I've only encountered that one other time, a guy in college. With him I thought it was inhibitions because I had to teach him how to buy toilet paper in public at the supermarket, in front of everyone. He was that afraid of body stuff. I've lost track of him but I think he identified gay but lived as an asexual though I don't know what became of him. And I didn't figure it out better until later anyway. But on reflection I see similar traits in him that I see in my cuz.
A real different experience than I've had with myself, being on sexual overdrive for most of my life and with my partners, also crazy bastards, and with my tricks, of course, or even with my family and friends, most of whom also are or have been a bunch of horny fuckers.
I could be in a relationship with an asexual person as I'm fully capable of emotional monogamy. I'd want some passionate sex on the side, however. Not as much as I used to require, but nor am I a monk yet.