paulflexes saidIt's so much common knowledge that when I "came out" to my new BMX crowd (new area, new people) the darker-skinned guys were suddenly standoff-ish for a while till they realized I'm not the "gay stereotype" (i.e. racist, self-loathing, elitist bastard).
I'm sorry to hear this, Paul. We hope we're not the "gay stereotype" regarding racism, either. Nor sexism, or ageism, either, any negative "ism". It's unfortunate if we've gained this reputation as a group.
The only time I ran into it in a major way was a gay couple with whom we had become friends. We drove down to Key West together a number of times, went over to their house for dinners. We hoped we'd found another local gay couple with whom we could become solid friends.
But one of them was from Louisiana originally. And I guess as he got more relaxed with us he started slandering Blacks in our presence, and using the "N-word". I let him know I was uncomfortable with that. He also bad-mouthed the heritage of our Brazilian cleaning lady (who's here legally, in case any of you wonder). Apparently he has a problem with any non-WASPs, as he views them.
I told my partner I couldn't accept that, and he agreed, so we let our relationship with them end. We will not endorse that kind of behavior, those racist attitudes. Fortunately, though, I really don't see that too much in our gay community. I therefore think, Paul, we need to repair our public image, if that's what people believe about us.