Where can you meet bi discreet guys?

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    Sep 19, 2015 4:33 AM GMT
    Why is it so difficult to meet bi guys? Where are they hiding? Lol
  • confusedbi

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    Sep 19, 2015 5:25 AM GMT
    I saw a few on Grindr, only met one in person though.
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    Sep 19, 2015 6:03 AM GMT
    John1994 saidWhy is it so difficult to meet bi guys? Where are they hiding? Lol


    Judging by your thread title I'd wager that they would be in the closet, hiding so that nobody would know they are bi...
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    Sep 19, 2015 7:12 AM GMT
    ask david666k
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    Sep 19, 2015 10:04 AM GMT
    They're with their girlfriends. Duh!

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    Sep 19, 2015 10:17 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidThey're with their girlfriends. Duh!

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    Right, when they are not with their girlfriend or without a girlfriend, they will find you.
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    Sep 19, 2015 10:59 AM GMT
    The easy answer is EVERYWHERE... I know... I used to be one. But you won't just find them. They stifle their gaydar pings, and are skilled at not being noticed, or not noticing your attraction to them. You need to go where the inhibitions are low, and the womenfolk are not present.

    It used to be that every... and i mean EVERY sales convention I'd go to there'd be a slew of reasonably hot guys who were reasonably friendly to other reasonably hot guys... the catch was that ALL of them, finally away from their girlfriends or wives and in a hotel room, were all hankering to get down with their M4M desires. We'd meet, have tawdry affairs, and then go home.

    Some, I stayed in touch with... became friends with... colleagues in other cities.. and we may or may not hook up if we came to each other's town...

    So yeah... go where the guys are and the girls aren't... let them find you.
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    Sep 19, 2015 11:51 AM GMT
    JonSpringon saidThe easy answer is EVERYWHERE... I know... I used to be one. But you won't just find them. They stifle their gaydar pings, and are skilled at not being noticed, or not noticing your attraction to them. You need to go where the inhibitions are low, and the womenfolk are not present.

    It used to be that every... and i mean EVERY sales convention I'd go to there'd be a slew of reasonably hot guys who were reasonably friendly to other reasonably hot guys... the catch was that ALL of them, finally away from their girlfriends or wives and in a hotel room, were all hankering to get down with their M4M desires. We'd meet, have tawdry affairs, and then go home.

    Some, I stayed in touch with... became friends with... colleagues in other cities.. and we may or may not hook up if we came to each other's town...

    So yeah... go where the guys are and the girls aren't... let them find you.


    Wow I feel sorry for all the wives whose husbands were all douche bag losers fucking around with other men and then going back to their family; and to think some of these men would kiss their children good night with the same mouth.

    Gross!
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    Sep 19, 2015 8:26 PM GMT
    confusedbi saidI saw a few on Grindr, only met one in person though.


    Really? I just feel like you can't trust anyone on the internet, their all sketchy.
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    Sep 19, 2015 8:29 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidThey're with their girlfriends. Duh!

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    Haha yea that would make sense icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 19, 2015 8:42 PM GMT
    Go up behind guys at the gym and *sniff*...If you smell moth balls..GO FOR IT.
  • confusedbi

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    Sep 20, 2015 2:34 AM GMT
    John1994 said
    confusedbi saidI saw a few on Grindr, only met one in person though.


    Really? I just feel like you can't trust anyone on the internet, their all sketchy.


    So you won't trust anyone here then hehe? Yes some people will be sketchy, but there are also some good people on there because it's simply convenient.
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    Sep 20, 2015 3:56 AM GMT
    being bi myself, I use planetromeo, grindr, and scruff. I have seen some bi on planetromeo more than any other apps.

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    Sep 20, 2015 5:37 AM GMT
    Just use any gay app. It's basically all the headless profiles, like the OP. icon_lol.gif
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    Sep 20, 2015 5:58 AM GMT
    DryMoan said
    JonSpringon saidThe easy answer is EVERYWHERE... I know... I used to be one. But you won't just find them. They stifle their gaydar pings, and are skilled at not being noticed, or not noticing your attraction to them. You need to go where the inhibitions are low, and the womenfolk are not present.

    It used to be that every... and i mean EVERY sales convention I'd go to there'd be a slew of reasonably hot guys who were reasonably friendly to other reasonably hot guys... the catch was that ALL of them, finally away from their girlfriends or wives and in a hotel room, were all hankering to get down with their M4M desires. We'd meet, have tawdry affairs, and then go home.

    Some, I stayed in touch with... became friends with... colleagues in other cities.. and we may or may not hook up if we came to each other's town...

    So yeah... go where the guys are and the girls aren't... let them find you.


    Wow I feel sorry for all the wives whose husbands were all douche bag losers fucking around with other men and then going back to their family; and to think some of these men would kiss their children good night with the same mouth.

    Gross!


    I agree with this. What I hate about bi men is how low and secretive they are, as if they were hiding something. I never liked playing in the shadows, especially with my bi encounters. They would always make promises but every single one of them would break them. They are notorious of stringing men and women along, why anyone would want to put up with that bullshit is beyond me. If you have time to waste by all means bi men are where you need to be at.
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    Sep 20, 2015 1:09 PM GMT
    The real question is, why would any healthy person want to meet up with closet crazy?
    Why not seek people who are healthy and not confused about their sexuality? Over time, every "bi" guy I have known has come out as completely gay, so what you are dealing with when searching for the elusive closet bi is akin to riding a unicorn.
    Unhealthy people tend to seek out more of their type, so keep searching, but at some point you too might want to be a healthy grounded person, who will run from the concept of closet bi types.
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    Sep 20, 2015 2:37 PM GMT
    If you like a nice Beefy Sausage that has been dipped in a wet stinky rotten fish, then pressed into a firm pair of buns. I think I wouldn't 'Bi' it!
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    Sep 20, 2015 2:55 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidThe real question is, why would any healthy person want to meet up with closet crazy?
    Why not seek people who are healthy and not confused about their sexuality? Over time, every "bi" guy I have known has come out as completely gay, so what you are dealing with when searching for the elusive closet bi is akin to riding a unicorn.
    Unhealthy people tend to seek out more of their type, so keep searching, but at some point you too might want to be a healthy grounded person, who will run from the concept of closet bi types.

    Maybe that's the answer there.
    Or preferring another bi guys because most likely it would be more discreet.
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    Sep 20, 2015 2:59 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidThey're with their girlfriends. Duh!

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    Laughing really, really hard at this because its true in my experiences. I trip over bi guys all the time and I get along really well with them. Not all are the same. There are the "I'm sexually into girls and guys but prefer chicks for everything else" type. There is also the "I'm mostly into guys but wanted a family" types mostly. Finally, there are the "I don't know what I want" types. From my experience these guys are discreet/not out so they've hit me up on the typical sites, but especially a4a and Craigslist (people still use that yes)
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    Sep 20, 2015 3:14 PM GMT
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    Erik101 saidThey're with their girlfriends. Duh!

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    Laughing really, really hard at this because its true in my experiences. I trip over bi guys all the time and I get along really well with them. Not all are the same. There are the "I'm sexually into girls and guys but prefer chicks for everything else" type. There is also the "I'm mostly into guys but wanted a family" types mostly. Finally, there are the "I don't know what I want" types. From my experience these guys are discreet/not out so they've hit me up on the typical sites, but especially a4a and Craigslist (people still use that yes)

    That's interesting.
    And let me just say, from my experiences, some bi guys feel some pressure if they were with a gay man.
    There was this guy who was interested in me, we're having a conversation, and he talked about himself.
    and I responded, "Oh, I see, so you're bi?"
    That stopped him. And it looked like he didn't know anything to say anymore. It took me a while to realize that he thought I was already judging him and that I lost interest in him.
    I assured him that his sexuality was none of my business. Afterward he told me some stuff, for which I assumed he did that to make me know, that men turned him on more than women. That he was more into men, and so on. It's like he wanted to assure me that I wasn't wasting my time.
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    Sep 20, 2015 4:57 PM GMT
    Narnia?
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    Sep 20, 2015 7:20 PM GMT
    Maybe they are on the other side of the glory holes or maybe they are hiding behind the park bushes. Car parking is another spot.icon_idea.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Sep 21, 2015 2:24 AM GMT
    anyone want to wager on the number of "Hi"s John got in his mail box?

    Sorry, buddy but you're going to need to learn Spanish then line them up around the block.
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    Sep 21, 2015 2:44 AM GMT
    John1994 saidWhy is it so difficult to meet bi guys? Where are they hiding? Lol


    Why would you want to deal with that drama of insecure, deceitful, and duality of life. Dumb.

    I have an assignment for you. Read The Kinsey Studies. It's about $15 on Amazon.

    You'll find something you did not know. 75% of all men will have same gender experiences in their life. 85% of women.

    BI IS NORMAL despite any taboos or false belief systems.

    If you've studied any level of human sexuality you should know this.

    The biggest turn off is the lack of self acceptance. The major turn off.

    Personally, I won't act as an enabler to that ignorant behavior. Study. Ditch the false belief systems, and like yourself.

    Bisexual has a much higher distribution than straight, or gay: just the facts.

    Read The Kinsey Studies.

    End your ignorance.

    P.S. Being pathetically lazy is also a huge turnoff. You couldn't make time to complete your profile? You plan for failures.
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    Sep 21, 2015 6:42 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidanyone want to wager on the number of "Hi"s John got in his mail box?

    Sorry, buddy but you're going to need to learn Spanish then line them up around the block.


    Excuse me? And what exactly are you inferring? Wow ignorant and racist