Text or call?

  • beaujangle

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    Sep 20, 2015 11:29 AM GMT
    How old school are you? Yeah I do miss those days when we had endless chats on the phone.
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    Sep 20, 2015 2:14 PM GMT
    beaujangle saidHow old school are you? Yeah I do miss those days when we had endless chats on the phone.


    There was an article about this a while ago in the NYC, about how phone-averse many people have become. Many millennials won't even leave voice mail.

    It's funny, it happened to me too, even as you get an unlimited talk plan, nobody talks on the phone. Being old, I remember getting handed the phone bill with my calls highlighted and a hand out for the money. Now that's not an issue, and yet I hesitate to just randomly call people.

    Part of it for me is that I spend so much time on conference calls for my job, that it feels weird to just call someone without setting it up via text in advance.

    I have one friend, younger than me, who HATES texting and email, and randomly calls, usually at dinnertime on a Saturday or something, just to chat. He lives far away and has to drive long distances by himself, so he likes "company" on the road, which is probably good as it keeps him awake. Although it feels like an interruption, I actually enjoy it once I'm in it.
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    Sep 20, 2015 3:07 PM GMT
    I have a different take. Some people are just not "phone people" while others are and this has always been the case. Its just that in the old skool, you would just never hear from the non-phone people unless you called them and then you'd often just get their voicemail. Texting, emails, and social media offer more options for the non-phone people to communicate where you may not have ever heard from them at all in the old skool.

    I do agree that the communication effectiveness is severely diminished when it's digital. But there's nothing stopping you from inviting people out for dinner to catch up. I think the real issue is that we're in an instant gratification generation where people don't make as much time for others.
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    Sep 20, 2015 3:31 PM GMT
    sorry boys:
    the relationship is ending when the texting stops flowing.
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    Sep 20, 2015 3:43 PM GMT
    I don't text and my relationships have suffered some because of it. I want to hear the voices of the people I love. But technology seems to have other plans.
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    Sep 20, 2015 4:13 PM GMT
    When I have a friend who has a birthday, I prefer to call rather than text. I think it feels more personal and sincere.
    If I want to chat with someone I prefer email or online site or a chat app for the purpose. My phone plan is good for calls and not good for text messages, that's why I avoid SMS.
    So, I prefer both, each for different purpose.
  • Muscles25

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    Sep 20, 2015 6:09 PM GMT
    I prefer to text until I get to know someone well. Then I'll talk to someone on the phone.

    I don't know anyone under 25 who leaves voice mail. That's just rude. They always say "you can see that I called."

    So what? I don't know what you want. I need to know what someone wants before I'm calling them back.
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    Sep 20, 2015 6:47 PM GMT
    If you don't pick up, expect a text. I'll call you back before I listen to your voicemail. I'm old too and I'm not a texting maniac because I'm saving my thumb joints for more important things like, masturbating.

    On another subject, I can't sex-skype anymore.. Ruined...

    Don't show up with a beautiful body, fuzzy video and a loud buzzing audio. It murders the horny mood I'm in.

    Next time, I'll hang up immediately so you wont hear me giggling in HD and clear sound from an iPad.

    Killed that relationship dead...
  • wellwell

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    Sep 20, 2015 6:49 PM GMT
    CALL
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    Sep 20, 2015 6:58 PM GMT
    My partner and I prefer to voice-call, and we do when were not at work. During work hours it's texting here and there but in the end it's the warm voice of the one you love that wins out for us.
  • mont_33r

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    Sep 20, 2015 7:15 PM GMT
    Being an introvert, I tend to dislike either talking on the phone or texting. Not a popular stand, I realize. Texting is annoying but less intrusive (I hate the idea of bugging people, which put me off calling years ago). But then I get mired in this self-imposed pressure when a text message arrives: answer quickly or else the person will think I'm ignoring. Same thing when a voicemail arrives. Usually, a friend of mine out west will call, leave a voicemail, and end with "gimme a call." (She's a long talker.) Having to endure a long phone conversation is a challenge for someone of my nature. But once I get into it, I'm totally fine. It's the initial hump of dread that I have to overcome.

    But for people's birthdays, I make the call. The "happy birthday" text is probably fine for most people, but for close friends, I feel like I should overcome my dislike of the phone to get in touch.
  • FRE0

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    Sep 20, 2015 8:36 PM GMT
    I refuse to learn how to send text messages. With a full proper keyboard I can type very fast without looking at the keys. Using a faux keyboard would be too frustrating for me.

    Sending emails is another matter. If something is important, one can more accurately expresses what one wishes to convey via writing. There is time to think of just the right word and to edit to ensure that the message is clear. However, there is no substitute for vocal conversations.
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    Sep 20, 2015 8:46 PM GMT
    I honestly cannot remember the last time I sent a text. I do talk on the phone though. If I'm chatting with my brother (which I do every few weeks) we can easily be talking for 2.5 hours.
  • ASHDOD

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    Sep 20, 2015 9:26 PM GMT


    just much more convenient to text then to call, maybe cos we are passive aggressive?
  • Coachfan

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    Sep 21, 2015 12:02 AM GMT
    Either is fine with me. Depends on situation
  • toybrian

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    Sep 21, 2015 12:55 AM GMT
    Would rather talk on the phone for 30 minutes ad hear his voice then text with him for over an hour and not know how he meant the texts.
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    Sep 21, 2015 1:53 AM GMT
    He pisses me off the most when he won't answer my call...He's fucking texting, but can't be bothered to hit the answer icon.
    You don't text:"someone just hit me" then let it go to voice mail when I call.
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    Sep 21, 2015 2:32 AM GMT
    beaujangle saidHow old school are you? Yeah I do miss those days when we had endless chats on the phone.


    Texting is the greatest technological regression of our time. We have a generation of folks growing up that are the most ill-mannered, rude, and of poor communications skills, ever...and, for the first time blocking behavior has been exhibited in humans.

    Texting crashes (in cars, bikes, trucks, walking) now far exceed drunken driving deaths.

    For any plan making, serious conversation, or just friendship, you should ALWAYS call. Texting isn't just dangerous, ambiguous, and slow, it's also just a horrible communications method.

    In time, I suspect voice communications will return, because it's vastly more effective, and WARM.
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    Sep 21, 2015 2:33 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidHe pisses me off the most when he won't answer my call...He's fucking texting, but can't be bothered to hit the answer icon.
    You don't text:"someone just hit me" then let it go to voice mail when I call.


    He's one rude, crude, asshole, and you need not put up with it. Set boundaries around such people.
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    Sep 21, 2015 2:35 AM GMT
    FRE0 saidI refuse to learn how to send text messages. With a full proper keyboard I can type very fast without looking at the keys. Using a faux keyboard would be too frustrating for me.

    Sending emails is another matter. If something is important, one can more accurately expresses what one wishes to convey via writing. There is time to think of just the right word and to edit to ensure that the message is clear. However, there is no substitute for vocal conversations.

    Exactly.

    The only advantage to texting/email is I get to proofread before I hit "send". I identify with being an introvert. If it helps, you'll notice I'm in the middle of something when I dump your call voicemail quickly instead of letting it ring five times.

    I haven't figured out how to receive texts with SIRI yet. The prescription reading glasses go in the locker at the gym.
    I'm not ignoring you. I just don't want to hand my phone to a stranger and mutter "I'm fuckin' blind. Can you read this text to me?"

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    Sep 21, 2015 3:01 AM GMT
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    dustin_K_tx saidHe pisses me off the most when he won't answer my call...He's fucking texting, but can't be bothered to hit the answer icon.
    You don't text:"someone just hit me" then let it go to voice mail when I call.


    He's one rude, crude, asshole, and you need not put up with it. Set boundaries around such people.

    thank you
    VINDICATED


    on the other hand--he's soooooooooo cute and Ginger...
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    Sep 21, 2015 3:09 AM GMT
    Guys who prefer to call are a big turn on

    It's says a lot about a person
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    Sep 21, 2015 8:27 PM GMT
    either is fine with me, talking on the phone seem more intimate and texting is more like quick conversation or leaving cute little notes.
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    Sep 21, 2015 8:38 PM GMT
    RobertF64 said

    I haven't figured out how to receive texts with SIRI yet. The prescription reading glasses go in the locker at the gym.
    I'm not ignoring you. I just don't want to hand my phone to a stranger and mutter "I'm fuckin' blind. Can you read this text to me?"



    Very intuitive, and I LOVE this feature for the same exactly reason you mentioned (glasses in the gym).

    Just say "Siri, read new text messages" If you have more than one, (s)he will let you respond to one, then read the next one. Total godsend. Also, phone talks to my bluetooth so I can listen to and answer them while driving without taking eyes off the road (when the phone is plugged in, you can get hir attention by saying "Hey Siri" and not even have to touch the phone.
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    Sep 22, 2015 3:09 PM GMT
    Texting is lazy,vague, very impersonal.