Gay Dating site - disaster

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    Sep 21, 2015 9:10 AM GMT
    A lot of Gay Dating site's normally give tips on Safe Dating, e.g. Meet in a public place, never give out personal information till you get to know the guy, etc. etc.
    But what happens when you do all this and it ends in a disaster anyway. You meet the guy and he turns out to be a sex maniac, a drug addict, maybe even someone being tracked by the FBI. These are extreme cases. I experienced, such one case. I was living with friends who were supporting me as I was unemployed. Then in 2011, I met a 'charming' guy on a Chat-Site. We met and sort of connected. I slept over a few weekends afterwards. Then one day, I popped the question and asked if he would be interested in starting a relationship. His answer was 'Yes', but that I would have to move in with him. So I did lock-stock-and-barrel. Let me cut this story short #TMI; it ended in disaster for me. In two weeks he kicked me out and I landed on the street. Needless to say, this bruised my ego. I was put off for a long time after to ever venture on Chat-Site's or Dating-Site's. Sorry for the long Forum Post.
  • DCEric

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    Sep 21, 2015 11:41 AM GMT
    That's not what the website is trying to prevent with Safe Dating. They are trying to prevent rape, murder and robbery.
  • Nhlakz

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    Sep 21, 2015 12:03 PM GMT
    Aargh sorry..u dnt just meet such ppl on the internet alone..they everywere and its hard hving to deal with ppl who don hv their shit together.
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    Sep 21, 2015 12:49 PM GMT
    My experience has always been that you get what you are looking for. So if you keep attracting psychos and crazy people, chances are you are some how advertising that is what you really need in your life. Maybe you need more drugs and danger?
    Most of the time, drugs and danger have always been a decent weekend.
  • Antarktis

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    Sep 21, 2015 1:16 PM GMT
    This is why U-Hauls should be left to the lesbians.icon_question.gif
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    Sep 21, 2015 2:02 PM GMT
    Dont think I could top that. I once chatted with a guy who I decided wasn't worth pursuing. We never met in real life. I started getting messages from him saying "Closer...." Over and over again. I realized that he was using the app's distance from each other to pinpoint where I was.
    I finally get a message while at the gym, "I see you. U look sexy when your sweaty" I don't check my phone/dating apps at the gym, so I didn't get it till after I finished and was in the locker room. No one came up to talk with me. I deleted my account then and there, removed the app from my phone. Put my hood up to obscure, went to my car like nothing was wrong to not draw attention, drove to an empty park to see if someone was following me, then went home. Never heard from him again.
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    Sep 21, 2015 4:12 PM GMT
    Nhlakz saidAargh sorry..u dnt just meet such ppl on the internet alone..they everywere and its hard hving to deal with ppl who don hv their shit together.


    Exactly, there are weirdos everywhere not just online. These can be guys you meet in the park, in the bar, on the bus, in the cafe. Just keep your head on and you'll be fine.
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 21, 2015 5:01 PM GMT
    You moved in "lock-stock-and-barrel" while unemployed after knowing him only a few weeks and he kicked you out after two weeks. So far you haven't made a case that the mess wasn't your fault. Did he suggest you get a job? Were you looking for a job? How much stuff moved in with you? Did you expect him to support you just as your friends you were living with were? I'm sorry, but this sounds more like your fault than his.
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    Sep 21, 2015 6:10 PM GMT
    OP: "Then one day, I popped the question and asked if he would be interested in starting a relationship. His answer was 'Yes', but that I would have to move in with him."

    Oh, so he turned out to be a control freak after all. Too bad there weren't any clues.
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    Sep 22, 2015 6:57 AM GMT
    Did you expect a dating guarantee? It wasn't the apps fault. It was you or him.

  • hauyneraille

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    Sep 23, 2015 5:13 AM GMT
    AutumnalStride saidDont think I could top that. I once chatted with a guy who I decided wasn't worth pursuing. We never met in real life. I started getting messages from him saying "Closer...." Over and over again. I realized that he was using the app's distance from each other to pinpoint where I was.
    I finally get a message while at the gym, "I see you. U look sexy when your sweaty" I don't check my phone/dating apps at the gym, so I didn't get it till after I finished and was in the locker room. No one came up to talk with me. I deleted my account then and there, removed the app from my phone. Put my hood up to obscure, went to my car like nothing was wrong to not draw attention, drove to an empty park to see if someone was following me, then went home. Never heard from him again.

    My guess is that he was using a fake GPS location app to track you down. I normaly use this trick to "jump" around the city to check out the guys. There was 1 time when I hit the exact same spot with another dude and Grindr showed that I was 0 meter away from him. He was pretty confused icon_lol.gif.
    Currently for my security online, I always turn on this app so even if another guy tries to track me down using the same method, he would receive a fake location.
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    Sep 23, 2015 2:07 PM GMT
    AutumnalStride saidDont think I could top that. I once chatted with a guy who I decided wasn't worth pursuing. We never met in real life. I started getting messages from him saying "Closer...." Over and over again. I realized that he was using the app's distance from each other to pinpoint where I was.
    I finally get a message while at the gym, "I see you. U look sexy when your sweaty" I don't check my phone/dating apps at the gym, so I didn't get it till after I finished and was in the locker room. No one came up to talk with me. I deleted my account then and there, removed the app from my phone. Put my hood up to obscure, went to my car like nothing was wrong to not draw attention, drove to an empty park to see if someone was following me, then went home. Never heard from him again.


    lol so many freaks on the apps. I'm lucky to not have had a freaky encounter like that. I think most guys would be too afraid to stalk me. Thank god lol