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    Sep 25, 2015 10:44 AM GMT
    Why hello everyone! It is late and I cannot sleep. So I decided to write this post. I am here mostly to look for people to chat with. The gay scene in Vegas is not very big and considering that I only came out 2 years ago I really do not have many gay friends. Actually, now that I think about it, I do not have many friends at all.

    I had always been the shy type up until about three, or so, years ago which was my junior year of college. Making friends at that time was even more difficult since I never really saw anyone regularly besides an hour and fifteen minutes two days a week. I have a boyfriend of 2 years but it does get a little lonesome still.

    I hope I will get along with everyone and I am more than happy to talk with anybody. Please do excuse my lack of experience in many things since I have been quite sheltered and protected from being in a VERY traditional Chinese family.

    I still have not come out to my dad but my only sister knows and is ok with it. I am way too terrified to tell him before I am financially independent in case he decides to throw me out and disown me.

    Aside from my issues, I hope I could be of help in some way. If you have any questions feel free to ask! Thanks!

    PS:
    Sorry if I seem whiny or pitiful. I just don't have much experience with these kind of sites and things. I find it difficult to make an introduction. icon_redface.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Sep 25, 2015 5:02 PM GMT
    Welcome to the forums. And RJ. I've been a bit surprised to hear that Vegas doesn't really have a gay community. With all the entertainment and food venues, I'd think there would be a lot of gay guys. Maybe it is the culture that keeps them underground but I'd think that would be changed by now.

    My guy had the same fears about telling his dad, too, but finally did. All went well and his dad and I now get along great even though I can barely understand him. The family had a restaurant and his dad was the cook so he and I bonded over that. Hope it goes well for you, too!
  • Joboesanchez

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    Sep 25, 2015 5:53 PM GMT
    Hey

    I just joined recently too. I joined to connect with more people focused on working out. I understand what you are going through the parents can be very judgemental when it comes to your sexuality, but with time it seems to become normal and not as big of deal as they thought. Just hang in there.


    Best of luck with everything!

    Send me a message if you want to chat.


    Best
  • giodude

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    Sep 25, 2015 6:16 PM GMT
    Well you did a very good job of this introduction!

    And don't worry about being shy, some people find the quality attractive both sexually and in a platonic way.

    Hope you have fun witnessing all the drama unfold. It can get a bit rowdy here sometimes, but this place is a lot of fun - or as fun as any internet based forum can get.

    Happy posting.

    PS you're very handsome.
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    Sep 25, 2015 6:27 PM GMT
    Welcome to the club! :]



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    Sep 26, 2015 1:11 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidWelcome to the forums. And RJ. I've been a bit surprised to hear that Vegas doesn't really have a gay community. With all the entertainment and food venues, I'd think there would be a lot of gay guys. Maybe it is the culture that keeps them underground but I'd think that would be changed by now.

    My guy had the same fears about telling his dad, too, but finally did. All went well and his dad and I now get along great even though I can barely understand him. The family had a restaurant and his dad was the cook so he and I bonded over that. Hope it goes well for you, too!


    I was quite surprised too! I tried to look up various things online but there is barely anything. It is very disappointing. Which is why I hope that when I go to graduate school, I will pick a place with a good sized community. But we will see!

    Oh that is great for him! I am jealous... I hope that it will happen that way too. I have no idea what I would do without my family. It really has only been the three of us my entire life.

    Thank you for the warm welcome!
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    Sep 26, 2015 1:18 AM GMT
    Joboesanchez saidHey

    I just joined recently too. I joined to connect with more people focused on working out. I understand what you are going through the parents can be very judgemental when it comes to your sexuality, but with time it seems to become normal and not as big of deal as they thought. Just hang in there.


    Best of luck with everything!

    Send me a message if you want to chat.


    Best


    I find that being on these forums and seeing all of these normal guys working hard on their body makes me more motivated which is something I kind of need. I used to be really motivated when it came to the gym but after the last few years it kind of left me. I am definitely going to try out this whole 12 week workout thing. I am even dragging my boyfriend into it. So this should be fun! I was getting bored of my old routine and wanted to switch things up. I think I can sift through the abundance of information on these forums and maybe even make a good routine based off of other people's ideas. I think I will have an awesome time.

    That is my hope as well. Sadly, considering how extreme my dad is, I don't think he will take this likely. When my sister moved out he felt that she betrayed him and it took him a few years to finally talk to her again. But still to this day he feels like because of that betrayal he cannot trust her to take care of him. icon_sad.gif

    But I will hang in there! Perseverance is key right? Thank you very much for the welcome. I am enjoying this already!

    Likewise! I am more than happy to chat if you have anything too.


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    Sep 26, 2015 1:23 AM GMT
    giodude saidWell you did a very good job of this introduction!

    And don't worry about being shy, some people find the quality attractive both sexually and in a platonic way.

    Hope you have fun witnessing all the drama unfold. It can get a bit rowdy here sometimes, but this place is a lot of fun - or as fun as any internet based forum can get.

    Happy posting.

    PS you're very handsome.


    English was NEVER my forte. I gravitated more towards the sciences and as a result I am more self conscious about my writing than normally I am. I have read a few of your posts and they seem almost poetic that it makes me feel jealous. Thank you for praising me as it does mean a lot to me.

    I am not as shy as I was before but I find that it is a little to late. It would have served me better, especially in terms of making friends, when I was in high school. I suppose it is better late than never!

    Thank you for the welcome and your flattery is very inviting as I also have a slightly low self esteem when it comes to my image. icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 26, 2015 1:24 AM GMT
    Talon saidWelcome to the club! :]





    Thank you! You guys are awesome!
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    Sep 26, 2015 1:45 AM GMT
    Welcome. I'm fairly new here myself. So far, I've received much insightful info.
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    Sep 26, 2015 2:22 AM GMT
    swimjammer saidWelcome. I'm fairly new here myself. So far, I've received much insightful info.


    I am coming to find out that myself as well. I like to learn new things because it makes life so much more interesting. If you find any cool things to share let me know!
  • giodude

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    Sep 26, 2015 7:29 AM GMT
    TheCodee said
    giodude saidWell you did a very good job of this introduction!

    And don't worry about being shy, some people find the quality attractive both sexually and in a platonic way.

    Hope you have fun witnessing all the drama unfold. It can get a bit rowdy here sometimes, but this place is a lot of fun - or as fun as any internet based forum can get.

    Happy posting.

    PS you're very handsome.


    English was NEVER my forte. I gravitated more towards the sciences and as a result I am more self conscious about my writing than normally I am. I have read a few of your posts and they seem almost poetic that it makes me feel jealous. Thank you for praising me as it does mean a lot to me.

    I am not as shy as I was before but I find that it is a little to late. It would have served me better, especially in terms of making friends, when I was in high school. I suppose it is better late than never!

    Thank you for the welcome and your flattery is very inviting as I also have a slightly low self esteem when it comes to my image. icon_smile.gif


    Thank you for complimenting my writing ability. I pride myself on it. It makes me feel good when people do notice it though.

    You're so courteous. You take the time to answer every single reply on your thread. Makes me feel like some sort of uncivilised neanderthal, hehehe. But keep on keeping on, man! We need nice people in the world. I look forward to reading your posts and perhaps interacting with you more icon_smile.gif Have a lovely day
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    Sep 26, 2015 12:31 PM GMT
    Welcome to the site. Have fun and don't forget to laugh.
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    Sep 26, 2015 2:04 PM GMT
    Welcome to your new family mate !!
    Enjoy the forum , have fun , argue , laugh , cry and be yourself !
    Cheers always
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    Sep 26, 2015 2:47 PM GMT
    Hello & welcome!
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    Sep 26, 2015 2:49 PM GMT
    Joboesanchez saidHey

    I just joined recently too. I joined to connect with more people focused on working out. I understand what you are going through the parents can be very judgemental when it comes to your sexuality, but with time it seems to become normal and not as big of deal as they thought. Just hang in there.

    Best of luck with everything!

    Send me a message if you want to chat.

    Best

    Hello to you as well!
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    Sep 26, 2015 3:21 PM GMT
    TheCodee said...Sorry if I seem whiny or pitiful. I just don't have much experience with these kind of sites...
    hope you have a thick skin for this type of internet sit, are you considering to vote for Trump?

    serious
    its the OP's choice; things have changed and should be no big thing to be out to your family. Big gay drama when you bring your husband home to Henderson for thanksgiving dinner. That is is if there is a real person behind your account.




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    Sep 26, 2015 7:44 PM GMT
    giodude said
    TheCodee said
    giodude saidWell you did a very good job of this introduction!

    And don't worry about being shy, some people find the quality attractive both sexually and in a platonic way.

    Hope you have fun witnessing all the drama unfold. It can get a bit rowdy here sometimes, but this place is a lot of fun - or as fun as any internet based forum can get.

    Happy posting.

    PS you're very handsome.


    English was NEVER my forte. I gravitated more towards the sciences and as a result I am more self conscious about my writing than normally I am. I have read a few of your posts and they seem almost poetic that it makes me feel jealous. Thank you for praising me as it does mean a lot to me.

    I am not as shy as I was before but I find that it is a little to late. It would have served me better, especially in terms of making friends, when I was in high school. I suppose it is better late than never!

    Thank you for the welcome and your flattery is very inviting as I also have a slightly low self esteem when it comes to my image. icon_smile.gif


    Thank you for complimenting my writing ability. I pride myself on it. It makes me feel good when people do notice it though.

    You're so courteous. You take the time to answer every single reply on your thread. Makes me feel like some sort of uncivilised neanderthal, hehehe. But keep on keeping on, man! We need nice people in the world. I look forward to reading your posts and perhaps interacting with you more icon_smile.gif Have a lovely day


    I feel rude if I don't. Besides I like talking to people. Everyone has their own stories to tell and their personalities differ from person to person. It is just fascinating to me I guess icon_smile.gif

    You are by no means an uncivilized neanderthal. Trust me I have seen some of those!

    Thank you! Likewise icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 26, 2015 7:45 PM GMT
    jimib saidWelcome to the site. Have fun and don't forget to laugh.


    Thanks for the welcome! I am having tons of fun. Sometimes I think I laugh to much. icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 26, 2015 7:47 PM GMT
    neffa saidWelcome to your new family mate !!
    Enjoy the forum , have fun , argue , laugh , cry and be yourself !
    Cheers always


    I am not sure about the arguing and the crying but then again I haven't been here long enough to probably experience it yet. I will still try to keep positive icon_smile.gif Thank you for the welcome.
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    Sep 26, 2015 7:48 PM GMT
    Art_Deco saidHello & welcome!


    Hello! Hope to interact with you down the road. Thank you for the welcome icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 26, 2015 8:11 PM GMT
    pellaz said
    TheCodee said...Sorry if I seem whiny or pitiful. I just don't have much experience with these kind of sites...
    hope you have a thick skin for this type of internet sit, are you considering to vote for Trump?

    serious
    its the OP's choice; things have changed and should be no big thing to be out to your family. Big gay drama when you bring your husband home to Henderson for thanksgiving dinner. That is is if there is a real person behind your account.






    I do so too. But it will be a learning experience right? icon_smile.gif
    I admit my political knowledge is poor. From what I have heard and seen, I am not sure if I can trust what he says. To top it off he is very business oriented and I question if he has what it takes to help the people and not just worry about money (albeit it might be just the thing to get us out of our ridiculous debt).

    Yes things have but sadly my dad, who is deep rooted in tradition, did not. One of my distant cousins is gay and the things my relatives and my dad has said is not very good. My dad also has this obsession with his image especially in front of my other relatives. My family tree, especially the older folk, is very twisted. Everything is about image and money. My dad seeks to impress and to have a gay son is like ripping off his face (he has said this before but not to having a gay son but in the event he goes to visit relatives and he does not have any successful kids). Yes that would definitely be a problem but from what I have kind of compared, getting kicked out before I am done with graduate school (In which tuition is 100K+ not including cost of living and from what I hear from the physical therapists that I work with, "DO NOT to work even part time." icon_sad.gif ) vs him feeling hurt that I have had a boyfriend for 2 years, it just seems like not saying anything is the best option for me at the moment. My boyfriend is trying to get into nursing school as well and with having no friends who can help me leaves me with very little choice icon_sad.gif I could be just a little negative or letting my fear get the best of me though...

    Yes I am a real person icon_smile.gif I keep forgetting to verify my account which I am trying to do right now before I forget again icon_biggrin.gif Thanks for the reminder!
  • Joboesanchez

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    Sep 27, 2015 12:40 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Joboesanchez saidHey

    I just joined recently too. I joined to connect with more people focused on working out. I understand what you are going through the parents can be very judgemental when it comes to your sexuality, but with time it seems to become normal and not as big of deal as they thought. Just hang in there.

    Best of luck with everything!

    Send me a message if you want to chat.

    Best

    Hello to you as well!



    Thank you!