Do you ever see random guys in public, and compliment them?

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    Oct 01, 2015 9:30 PM GMT
    Notice I said "compliment", not hit on. But, I guess with enough nonverbal communication, it could be considered hitting on lol.

    Lately, I've just been feeling a little less timid about things. I think with gay, bi, and even curious becoming more normalized, I just been wanting to go outside of the box. I'm getting tired of always feeling like I can only hit on guys in a gay bar or online. All that stuff is so limiting.

    So most recently, I've seen about 3-4 guys I thought were really hot out in public, and threw a lil flirt to them. Non of them minded at all, and were like thank you...nobody cursed me out or called me fag or anything.

    I don't hit them up expecting sex, or make me feel uncomfortable. I have a friend like that, and even though he gets some success, the quality of the guys who are receptive to him are questionable. I also don't hit on guys unless they are alone. I won't do it in front of their friend, girlfriend, or family. It's all about the right circumstances. If they're at work, I've hit on guys and they get so giddy and happy lol. It also depends on WHO. I feel out their personality first before I say anything

    To me, it's kinda fun...but at the same time, it's an excercise on just being comfortable and working on myself to approach people more, and let them know I'm not just the stereotypical gay or black guy...and to leave the door open and expand my horizons beyond a stupid gay bar and fucking phone app.
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 01, 2015 10:14 PM GMT
    Yeah, I do a little of that, too. I've never had a bad reaction.
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    Oct 01, 2015 10:38 PM GMT
    Yeah I generally fist pump fellow spartan runners when I see them with the shirt. I also give compliments when I see guys wearing bioware clothing, especially if it's N7 related.
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    Oct 01, 2015 11:06 PM GMT
    Lol, well I try to be somewhat direct with it, because usually there isn't much time. I told one guy today at GNC, who I see pretty often he works there. The way he smiled and blushed I never seen him do that. Usually he's serious looking, he's the manager there.

    i don't like to "plan" it out either. You just have to know when the appropriate opportunity is available, and go for it.

    NOW: DISCLAIMER, i still don't practice that at the gym. I try to do it when I know i won't be obligated to see the person again, in the event shit goes left. Plus, at the gym people aren't alone. It's too obvious. And a compliment can come off like you're creepy or watching them. No, no, no. , unless you can somehow find the opportunity, which I have before, but it's rare.

    On a side note, I seen a guy in the Home Depot garden section not too long ago. When I seen him, my gaydar clicked instantly, but he was with a woman. I was trying to assess the situation, but the woman factor was there...Later that night, I seen a message from him on Grindr, with his picture, saying he seen me! I was soooo mad for not saying something lol.

    So there's an exception to every rule.
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    Oct 02, 2015 12:49 PM GMT
    A guy said to me yesterday. "Nice Ass". icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 02, 2015 1:06 PM GMT
    To me you can usually get away with a physique comment or admiring a tat as an ice breaker. I saw a guy this weekend with pretty much my goal body and told him so. He definitely liked it, and we ended up talking for a few minutes.
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    Oct 02, 2015 2:38 PM GMT
    tmac saidYeah I generally fist pump fellow spartan runners when I see them with the shirt. I also give compliments when I see guys wearing bioware clothing, especially if it's N7 related.


    Only if they agree the mass effect 3 ending was bull shit. Bioware destroyed so much good will with that. I was a die hard fan since kotor until that.
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    Oct 02, 2015 2:43 PM GMT
    In Houston I do this less often and I've pretty much stop complimenting black guys in Houston. When I lived in florida I complimented men and women all the time. I feel that if you have a nice thought about someone share it. The only compliments I've received from dudes in Houston have been dudes hitting on me so I understand when I compliment a dude here they get confused. Especially the black guys. Asian guys seem to love compliments though.
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    Oct 02, 2015 2:53 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs27 saidLol, well I try to be somewhat direct with it, because usually there isn't much time. I told one guy today at GNC, who I see pretty often he works there. The way he smiled and blushed I never seen him do that. Usually he's serious looking, he's the manager there.

    i don't like to "plan" it out either. You just have to know when the appropriate opportunity is available, and go for it.

    NOW: DISCLAIMER, i still don't practice that at the gym. I try to do it when I know i won't be obligated to see the person again, in the event shit goes left. Plus, at the gym people aren't alone. It's too obvious. And a compliment can come off like you're creepy or watching them. No, no, no. , unless you can somehow find the opportunity, which I have before, but it's rare.

    On a side note, I seen a guy in the Home Depot garden section not too long ago. When I seen him, my gaydar clicked instantly, but he was with a woman. I was trying to assess the situation, but the woman factor was there...Later that night, I seen a message from him on Grindr, with his picture, saying he seen me! I was soooo mad for not saying something lol.

    So there's an exception to every rule.


    Nothing wrong with giving a compliment in the gym if the guy has earned it. If you've noticed a guy has gotten more muscular you make his day. Same thing with guys who have lost weight. I would say your inability to compliment guys in the gym is a Gay trait. You are looking at it from the eyes of a predator not a bro. Straight guys in the gym compliment each other all the time. Just watch them.
  • MadeinMich

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    Oct 02, 2015 2:58 PM GMT
    No. I'm too shy. But a guy once walked by and said "hey pretty eyes". Made me feel good. If you see a guy who you think is family and has an attractive feature, you should compliment him. You never know what self esteem issues he's dealing with.
  • rnch

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    Oct 02, 2015 3:16 PM GMT
    Here in my self-contained New Orleans gayborhood, I have no problem with passing on a sincere compliment to an appealing man.

    Out in the Real World, I am somewhat less confident in complimenting strangers.

    I make sure I add the modifier "Dood" somewhere in the compliment.



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    Oct 02, 2015 3:34 PM GMT
    Yep, why not , it costs nothing to be friendly.
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    Oct 02, 2015 3:43 PM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    tmac saidYeah I generally fist pump fellow spartan runners when I see them with the shirt. I also give compliments when I see guys wearing bioware clothing, especially if it's N7 related.


    Only if they agree the mass effect 3 ending was bull shit. Bioware destroyed so much good will with that. I was a die hard fan since kotor until that.


    You're gonna hate me then lol. I'm actually ok with the ending. I felt that the 3rd game alluded to those choices the whole time. Plus my shep lived to tell the tale icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 02, 2015 3:56 PM GMT
    MrFuscle saidIn Houston I do this less often and I've pretty much stop complimenting black guys in Houston. When I lived in florida I complimented men and women all the time. I feel that if you have a nice thought about someone share it. The only compliments I've received from dudes in Houston have been dudes hitting on me so I understand when I compliment a dude here they get confused. Especially the black guys. Asian guys seem to love compliments though.


    There definitely is a regional difference. Where I live (greater NYC) there seems to be a lot of "no-homo" concern among the bro population. Just spent a few days in the PNW where this seems to be less of a thing; guys were more likely to smile and make eye contact, and I had my t-shirt complimented a few times (not like I made it or anything).
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    Oct 02, 2015 4:01 PM GMT
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    MrFuscle saidIn Houston I do this less often and I've pretty much stop complimenting black guys in Houston. When I lived in florida I complimented men and women all the time. I feel that if you have a nice thought about someone share it. The only compliments I've received from dudes in Houston have been dudes hitting on me so I understand when I compliment a dude here they get confused. Especially the black guys. Asian guys seem to love compliments though.


    There definitely is a regional difference. Where I live (greater NYC) there seems to be a lot of "no-homo" concern among the bro population. Just spent a few days in the PNW where this seems to be less of a thing; guys were more likely to smile and make eye contact, and I had my t-shirt complimented a few times (not like I made it or anything).


    I think in NYC there's just little opportunity for small talk so people will see through you but they'll notice something that's significant and will give you a nod or a compliment. I have a lot of shirts and hoodies with funny phrases.

    "Don't bro me if you don't know me"

    or

    "Don't piss me off, i'm this close to leveling and you look like just enough exp"

    etc and I get compliments from time to time.
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    Oct 02, 2015 4:55 PM GMT
    Whenever I see a handsome guy light up a cigarette, I look him in the eye and say, "C/mon, man, you're too good lookin' to be smokin' that shit!" They always smile, sometimes blush, but never get pissed.
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    Oct 02, 2015 5:22 PM GMT
    MGINSD saidWhenever I see a handsome guy light up a cigarette, I look him in the eye and say, "C/mon, man, you're too good lookin' to be smokin' that shit!" They always smile, sometimes blush, but never get pissed.


    I'm always disappointed when I see a good-looking guy light up. I guess I should be disappointed when I see anybody light up, but if they are otherwise hot it just compounds it.

    The best is the gaggle of men, often quite buff, smoking in the fenced in playpen outside NYC's attempt at a gay sports bar, called "GYM".

    Actually that's the second best. The best is when they smoke outside the actual gym. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 02, 2015 5:37 PM GMT
    no
  • LostSailor

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    Oct 02, 2015 5:46 PM GMT
    I TRIED to pay a compliment to a BEAUTIFUL Filipino guy yesterday.
    That didnt last long....
    He got too hot the closer I got to him...I wound up hitting on him.


    ...and no he wanted NO PART of it either.
    I suck.
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    Oct 02, 2015 6:03 PM GMT
    MGINSD saidWhenever I see a handsome guy light up a cigarette, I look him in the eye and say, "C/mon, man, you're too good lookin' to be smokin' that shit!" They always smile, sometimes blush, but never get pissed.


    They blushed because they didn't want to say what they thought. MYOFB
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    Oct 02, 2015 6:08 PM GMT
    I once complimented on how this guy is a great father while I was cashiering him on baby products. Which was stupid since he was only a few years older than me, but you never know. He laughed and said it was for his niece and he was single. So I told him he would be a great future father and he said it's hard to get with women because they're complicated. We had a long conversation about women. Then he asked if I was single. I said yes and he said "If you were a chick I'd date you or maybe even as a guy...lol just kidding dude."

    Don't know if he was into me or not but damn, I would have dated him so hard if he was into me. I'm bad at detecting if people like me.
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    Oct 02, 2015 9:22 PM GMT
    I find if I give their little tushie a squeeze as I compliment them on its shapeliness, it usually defuses an otherwise awkward moment.
  • TealSock

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    Oct 02, 2015 11:29 PM GMT
    fuck no too embarrassed, and afraid of getting ass kicked
  • roadbikeRob

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    Oct 03, 2015 12:01 AM GMT
    kscott6671 saidA guy said to me yesterday. "Nice Ass". icon_eek.gif
    Were you running in your skimpy, short, running shortsicon_question.gificon_lol.gif
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    Oct 03, 2015 1:39 AM GMT
    TealSock saidfuck no too embarrassed, and afraid of getting ass kicked


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