how many dates before sex?

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  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 03, 2015 5:03 PM GMT
    I liked sex before dating. I mean I'd start by being interested in a profile, some back and forth messaging to get some feel for the guy ( and some idea if the profile was legit), and I'd offer a beer or drink and chat for a bit. But if all that was good, go straight to sex. I'd know if I wanted to see him again. I also know that since then the apps have invented proximity sex, which to me is more like back-room sex of long ago. Impersonal. But I found sex before dating could separate interesting guys from uninteresting guys in about a half hour. Whereas you could date a nice guy for months and then discover you two just didn't click sexually. Guys I want to be with have a healthy sexual appetite but some guys have a more feminine attitude of purity/virginity. I don't know how or where they learn how to do it properly.

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    Destinharbor saidI liked sex before dating. I mean I'd start by being interested in a profile, some back and forth messaging to get some feel for the guy ( and some idea if the profile was legit), and I'd offer a beer or drink and chat for a bit. But if all that was good, go straight to sex. I'd know if I wanted to see him again. I also know that since then the apps have invented proximity sex, which to me is more like back-room sex of long ago. Impersonal. But I found sex before dating could separate interesting guys from uninteresting guys in about a half hour. Whereas you could date a nice guy for months and then discover you two just didn't click sexually. Guys I want to be with have a healthy sexual appetite but some guys have a more I don't know how or where they learn how to do it properly.


    you are just a prostitute and don't play that feminine attitude of purity/virginity. Some guys are deeper than a shallow sex addict like yourself icon_lol.gif Mkaes you wonder how many guys went through you until you clicked with someone icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 03, 2015 5:10 PM GMT
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    Destinharbor saidI liked sex before dating. I mean I'd start by being interested in a profile, some back and forth messaging to get some feel for the guy ( and some idea if the profile was legit), and I'd offer a beer or drink and chat for a bit. But if all that was good, go straight to sex. I'd know if I wanted to see him again. I also know that since then the apps have invented proximity sex, which to me is more like back-room sex of long ago. Impersonal. But I found sex before dating could separate interesting guys from uninteresting guys in about a half hour. Whereas you could date a nice guy for months and then discover you two just didn't click sexually. Guys I want to be with have a healthy sexual appetite but some guys have a more I don't know how or where they learn how to do it properly.


    you are just a prostitute and don't play that feminine attitude of purity/virginity. Some guys are deeper than a shallow sex addict like yourself icon_lol.gif Mkaes you wonder how many guys went through you until you clicked with someone icon_lol.gif

    Lol. Man, you must have been rejected by every man you've ever met. What a pathetic excuse for a man. Just a girly bitch.
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    Destinharbor saidI liked sex before dating. I mean I'd start by being interested in a profile, some back and forth messaging to get some feel for the guy ( and some idea if the profile was legit), and I'd offer a beer or drink and chat for a bit. But if all that was good, go straight to sex. I'd know if I wanted to see him again. I also know that since then the apps have invented proximity sex, which to me is more like back-room sex of long ago. Impersonal. But I found sex before dating could separate interesting guys from uninteresting guys in about a half hour. Whereas you could date a nice guy for months and then discover you two just didn't click sexually. Guys I want to be with have a healthy sexual appetite but some guys have a more I don't know how or where they learn how to do it properly.


    you are just a prostitute and don't play that feminine attitude of purity/virginity. Some guys are deeper than a shallow sex addict like yourself icon_lol.gif Mkaes you wonder how many guys went through you until you clicked with someone icon_lol.gif

    Lol. Man, you must have been rejected by every man you've ever met. What a pathetic excuse for a man. Just a girly bitch.


    bitter bitter
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    Oct 03, 2015 5:29 PM GMT
    Nothing bitter about my post. You're the fearful, ugly child spewing venom. Go back to your hole. No one wants you or ever will.
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    Oct 03, 2015 5:33 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidNothing bitter about my post. You're the fearful, ugly child spewing venom. Go back to your hole. No one wants you or ever will.

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    Oct 03, 2015 5:38 PM GMT
    I prefer to have several platonic dates before sex. Although that usually doesn't go over very well with most guys. It's very common when I call a guy up for a second date I get the whole "but I thought you weren't into me" thing. icon_neutral.gif
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    Oct 03, 2015 5:44 PM GMT
    I am here with Desinharbor.

    Realistically, you meet up, talk, have couple of drinks. Fine, if you need to repeat the exercise, do so.

    But how many guys in this time and age will really start seriously dating before they are reasonably sure that the sex bit works for them, too? Some for sure. Many? Nope.

    When you cut the crap, you realize that sex is actually what differentiates good, functioning friendships between the guys from dating.

    It ain't rocket science, really...

    SC
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    SilverRRCloud saidI am here with Desinharbor.

    Realistically, you meet up, talk, have couple of drinks. Fine, if you need to repeat the exercise, do so.

    But how many guys in this time and age will really start seriously dating before they are reasonably sure that the sex bit works for them, too? Some for sure. Many? Nope.

    When you cut the crap, you realize that sex is actually what differentiates good, functioning friendships between the guys from dating.

    It ain't rocket science, really...

    SC


    HIV is not a rocket science either icon_lol.gif
    no wonder hiv is booming, it's thanks to prostitutes

    I just hope I will not meet or consider dating one ( naive ) icon_lol.gif most of them are filled with hiv I am sure
    ( and yes I do realize that not all guys that have hiv are like this, to them, this is not about you )
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    Oct 03, 2015 6:05 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidNothing bitter about my post. You're the fearful, ugly child spewing venom. Go back to your hole. No one wants you or ever will.


    +1 With every day that passes, bonashart shows more of his true self. Just a pathetic little bitch with a nasty attitude. I find it funny that he disappeared the entire time that sonofyoda was here but suddenly crawled out from under it's rock when he was removed. Coinkydink???
  • rnch

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    Oct 03, 2015 6:19 PM GMT
    As Always, it depends on the other guy.

    My ex of 7 years and I were rolling around in bed 2 hours after meeting; and it only got better from there. But that was an unusual case; he and I "clicked" almost immediately.

    Some guys I (and he) have waited 2 or 3 dates.

    One guy I knew for 12 years before we ended up in bed together.
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    Destinharbor saidNothing bitter about my post. You're the fearful, ugly child spewing venom. Go back to your hole. No one wants you or ever will.


    +1 With every day that passes, bonashart shows more of his true self. Just a pathetic little bitch with a nasty attitude. I find it funny that he disappeared the entire time that sonofyoda was here but suddenly crawled out from under it's rock when he was removed. Coinkydink???



    I doubt that. Sonofyoda was all about protecting the reputation of blacks. Bonapart hates blacks. So if it was him he put on a great act.
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    Oct 03, 2015 6:31 PM GMT
    0 so far lol, I'm not in the date pool yet.
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    Oct 03, 2015 6:46 PM GMT
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    Flaguy57 said
    Destinharbor saidNothing bitter about my post. You're the fearful, ugly child spewing venom. Go back to your hole. No one wants you or ever will.


    +1 With every day that passes, bonashart shows more of his true self. Just a pathetic little bitch with a nasty attitude. I find it funny that he disappeared the entire time that sonofyoda was here but suddenly crawled out from under it's rock when he was removed. Coinkydink???



    I doubt that. Sonofyoda was all about protecting the reputation of blacks. Bonapart hates blacks. So if it was him he put on a great act.


    I don't hate blacks, so shut up, don't project your problems with black people onto me

    Thank you
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    Oct 03, 2015 6:48 PM GMT
    And YES I CONFESS I am the sonofyoda icon_lol.gif

    not really
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    bonaparts saidAnd YES I CONFESS I am the sonofyoda icon_lol.gif

    not really


    Poor Yoda, he really should have let you run down his leg. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 03, 2015 7:42 PM GMT
    Could be first date (both of my long term relationships started that way) or could be after several dates. Depends on the chemistry and the logistics. I think sex is by definition a friendly activity, like two musicians jamming. It's one means of relating to another human. It's all good so long as it's safe and mutually respectful, whither it first happens on a first date or on a fifth date or at any other timetable.
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    duluthrunner saidCould be first date (both of my long term relationships started that way) or could be after several dates. Depends on the chemistry and the logistics. I think sex is by definition a friendly activity, like two musicians jamming. It's one means of relating to another human. It's all good so long as it's safe and mutually respectful, whither it first happens on a first date or on a fifth date or at any other timetable.



    True, but sex can also get you entangled too quickly and prevent you from seeing the other person clearly.
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    Oct 03, 2015 7:49 PM GMT
    For me, sex precedes dating. That may not work for others, but it has worked for me in the past. Ultimately, it's a personal decision.
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    Oct 03, 2015 8:20 PM GMT
    Sex first...
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    SilverRRCloud saidI am here with Desinharbor.

    Realistically, you meet up, talk, have couple of drinks. Fine, if you need to repeat the exercise, do so.

    But how many guys in this time and age will really start seriously dating before they are reasonably sure that the sex bit works for them, too? Some for sure. Many? Nope.

    When you cut the crap, you realize that sex is actually what differentiates good, functioning friendships between the guys from dating.

    It ain't rocket science, really...

    SC


    HIV is not a rocket science either icon_lol.gif
    no wonder hiv is booming, it's thanks to prostitutes

    I just hope I will not meet or consider dating one ( naive ) icon_lol.gif most of them are filled with hiv I am sure
    ( and yes I do realize that not all guys that have hiv are like this, to them, this is not about you )


    If you think HIV=prostitutes you are insulting and naive. It's an insult to the generations, legions, of Gay men who died since the start of the epidemic. And the long term survivors (LTS) like myself.

    If you did even a bit of research, in the US it's MSM (men who have sex with men), not sex workers, that fuel the 50,000 new HIV infections every year.....most who don't even know they are positive.

    The subject is DATING and sex.
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    Oct 03, 2015 9:17 PM GMT
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    SilverRRCloud saidI am here with Desinharbor.

    Realistically, you meet up, talk, have couple of drinks. Fine, if you need to repeat the exercise, do so.

    But how many guys in this time and age will really start seriously dating before they are reasonably sure that the sex bit works for them, too? Some for sure. Many? Nope.

    When you cut the crap, you realize that sex is actually what differentiates good, functioning friendships between the guys from dating.

    It ain't rocket science, really...

    SC


    HIV is not a rocket science either icon_lol.gif
    no wonder hiv is booming, it's thanks to prostitutes

    I just hope I will not meet or consider dating one ( naive ) icon_lol.gif most of them are filled with hiv I am sure
    ( and yes I do realize that not all guys that have hiv are like this, to them, this is not about you )


    If you think HIV=prostitutes you are insulting and naive. It's an insult to the generations, legions, of Gay men who died since the start of the epidemic. And the long term survivors (LTS) like myself.

    If you did even a bit of research, in the US it's MSM (men who have sex with men), not sex workers, that fuel the 50,000 new HIV infections every year.....most who don't even know they are positive.

    The subject is DATING and sex.


    I didn't use the word prostitute in the ordinary sense icon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gif you are thick