Trying to stimulate my prostate

  • uriyasama

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    Oct 09, 2015 6:29 PM GMT
    Ive been trying to bottom for a while and it wasnt very pleasurable...
    I was very consistent on trying that for at least a year and a half.
    Almost every top i meet say they know the feeling of a good prostategasm.

    I tried to relax myself and use a prostate massager. But didnt find anything... a lot of people told me ill instantly know when i hit the prostate. So its kinda weird.
    It seems like it just doesnt exists.

    When i get anal fucked i always feel like i have to piss, which is supposed to happen when i hit the prostate. Thats so weird...
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    Oct 09, 2015 7:11 PM GMT
    uriyasama saidIve been trying to bottom for a while and it wasnt very pleasurable...
    I was very consistent on trying that for at least a year and a half.
    Almost every top i meet say they know the feeling of a good prostategasm.

    I tried to relax myself and use a prostate massager. But didnt find anything... a lot of people told me ill instantly know when i hit the prostate. So its kinda weird.
    It seems like it just doesnt exists.

    When i get anal fucked i always feel like i have to piss, which is supposed to happen when i hit the prostate. Thats so weird...


    You just explained my life when I first did anal sex. I honestly thought my bladder was going to explode, the first time and second, heck I lost count, but eventually it just.. stopped.

    I'm not much of a bottom, but most of the guys that ever were into me were mostly tops (bottoms find me threatening for some reason, oh well) so I had to learn how to bottom efficiently and correctly.

    First and foremost you need to learn about preparation before you have anal sex. We are not like women where you can just stick a dick in and expect things to go fine. I highly recommend douching: 1, it cleans you out so it reduces, and I hate to say this term but, "shit dick". I was topping a guy once and, I just couldn't I had to end it there. 2, it's a great way to open you up, and once all that excess baggage is out of your ass it's a lot easier for erroneous objects that aren't supposed to be there enter more.. hm, how to put it.. gracefully.

    My boyfriend is only a top and asking him to bottom is strictly out of the question, so learning these things were very vital to our relationship. Granted the only thing I struggle with still to this day is just the entering part. It still hurts every time even with a ton of lube, it takes a while to get it in, but, once it's in he can pretty much go to town. I'm not sure if there is a way to a painless penetration, but with the progress I've made in learning how to being a good bottom, I'll take what I can get.

    Hope this helps you out, good luck.
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    Nov 17, 2015 1:38 AM GMT
    ^^ Good advice above, I just want to add one thing.

    Every guy is different. Not everyone's prostate is as sensitive as the next. Some guys can orgasm just from prostate stimulation, some guys get hard and feel pleasure, but can't orgasm, and some guys feel little to no pleasure at all from it. It just depends on your body. And if you're one of those guys that doesn't get anything from it, and it sucks when that happens, there's not really anything you can do about it (and believe me I;ve tried.). But just keep experimenting, because you never know.
  • Suetonius

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    Nov 19, 2015 7:35 PM GMT
    >OP
    Try playing with a vibrator. If that doesn't feel great, I doubt if anything will.
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    Nov 21, 2015 12:46 AM GMT
    1. Trying playing around with putting pressure on your taint (the ridge between your balls and your asshole) while masturbating. If you have a soft rubber ball, you can prop it between yourself and a seat and gently push into it. You can even just rub and put pressure a bit with a few fingers while stroking. This may not work if your prostate is far away from the outer body.

    2. If not, try this during a shower. You want to be relaxed. Jerk off a bit first and get aroused. It'll cause the blood to increase to your genitals and that'll make the prostate easier and more enjoyable to find.

    The prostate is located behind your manhood, inside your body. If you are trying to locate it, you need to hook your fingers up towards your cock and explore. It can be a bit of a tough reach depending on your internal anatomy. It feels like a wet, rough, ridged, rounded spot. Give it a few thumps with your fingers and then you'll know it's the spot. It might make you feel a bit light headed, so you may want to sit in the shower stall.

    3. If it's too hard to reach with fingers, a small toy can help. Be warned though, anything too thin and pointy can actually feel far worse inside you than something with a bit of girth (1" minimum). Once you're lubed up, relaxed and have it slid inside you, angle the toy towards your cock and balls and push upwards. Explore with different angles slowly. Again, do this while seated as stimulating your prostate directly can have very intense results.

    A good top should be able to find your prostate with a bit of gentle fingering and patience. As it's vital to relax and be turned on for bottoming, he should be doing his part by turning you on first and keeping you turned on while he explores. I like making out on top of them while I do this part as I can usually feel my lover tense and moan/sigh when I first find it.

    Once you know this information as a top, it becomes much easier to control how much you directly stimulate the bottom. Similar to the sensitive head of the cock, you have to use the information wisely to have great sex.