If your bf were sick and leaving a party, would you go with him or stay at the party?

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    Feb 01, 2009 9:05 PM GMT
    My bf and I were talking about this because of a movie we watched and he said he'd probably stay at the party depending on how sick I was.

    It kinda hurt my feelings...if he was sick in any kind of way, I would leave with him...I would feel to guilty about staying having a good time knowing he doesnt feel well.

    What would you do?
  • ShawnTX

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    Feb 01, 2009 9:07 PM GMT
    I would most likely leave. I guess it would kind of depend on the reason for the party.
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    Feb 01, 2009 9:09 PM GMT
    Leave with my BF or partner. Who knows if he'll become more sick, and need help? Not to mention that you always leave with the guy what brung ya.
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    Feb 01, 2009 9:12 PM GMT
    I'd leave with him.. ya don't dump your hubby just cause you wanna have a good time.. you go.. have a good time together wallowing in your sickness..

    and besides, how unmanly to do that... you look after your mate...
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    Feb 01, 2009 11:54 PM GMT
    Definitely leave the party with him.
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    Feb 02, 2009 12:00 AM GMT
    Leave.
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    Feb 02, 2009 12:01 AM GMT
    depends on the situation.
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    Feb 02, 2009 12:04 AM GMT
    Most probably leave with him.

    Are these cohabitating bfs? If not, then he may not want me to come home with him and prefer being sick alone. If yes, he still may see no reason for me to leave the party when he is just going to lay down anyway and would prefer the house to be quiet. Hmmm.....but if we were cohabitating, then we would probably have come in the same car and that would pretty much settle the question.
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    Feb 02, 2009 12:07 AM GMT
    redbull saidMy bf and I were talking about this because of a movie we watched and he said he'd probably stay at the party depending on how sick I was.

    It kinda hurt my feelings...if he was sick in any kind of way, I would leave with him...I would feel to guilty about staying having a good time knowing he doesnt feel well.

    What would you do?


    Aww, how sweet of you. I guess it really depends on a number of things- current relationship status, events that preceded the party, how you felt about the people attending the party, the food haha

    I would probably tell him I would catch up with him later and stay a few minutes to say goodbye and the such. That way it's like a compromise and you both get what you want icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 02, 2009 12:08 AM GMT
    BF's well-being is so much more important than a party... no question, I'd go home with him.
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    Feb 02, 2009 1:17 AM GMT
    OMG! ... I would send him home and tell him to wipe everything down with a lysol wipe before I get home. .... and sleep in the guest room....I dont want to get the contagion sleeping next to you.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 02, 2009 1:42 AM GMT
    He would kick my ass if I didn't leave with him.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 02, 2009 2:03 AM GMT
    I would leave with him without a second thought.
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    Feb 02, 2009 2:28 AM GMT
    Caslon8000 saidOMG! ... I would send him home and tell him to wipe everything down with a lysol wipe before I get home. .... and sleep in the guest room....I dont want to get the contagion sleeping next to you.


    this is so wrong hahaha

    I would most likely leave with him.....
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    Feb 02, 2009 2:40 AM GMT
    I would leave with him even if he urged me to stay and did not seem all that sick. He would be on mind if I stayed and I would not enjoy myself anyway. Besides, I would enjoy taking care of him. icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 02, 2009 2:44 AM GMT

    Your feelings should be hurt RedBull....you need a new boyfriend, in my opinion....I think it should be me.
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    Feb 02, 2009 2:48 AM GMT
    I would leave with him. That is just common sense.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Feb 02, 2009 2:55 AM GMT
    I can't believe this is even a question.
    If you are with a BF, you stick with him ESPECIALLY when he is not feeling well.
  • ueatzit

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    Feb 02, 2009 2:55 AM GMT
    Definitely leave with him. Something similar once happened to me and it opened up a good discussion about how sidelined that made me feel. Some guys don't think it is a big deal and that is fine for some. For me, it isn't and I told him, he hasn't done anything like it since. If he understands how hurt you feel by something like that he should acknowledge that and avoid doing something like it again. Tit for tat you know? If you would leave with him or factor him into the choices you make then he should do the same right?
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    Feb 02, 2009 3:02 AM GMT
    I'd go with my bf, of course. And I'd look after him.

    I'd do that even if he weren't my bf. . . and "just" a bud, I'd go with him.

  • UncleverName

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    Feb 02, 2009 3:09 AM GMT
    I'd leave and go with mine, but if mine didn't with me when I was sick, depending on the circumstances, it wouldn't bother me too much.
    If I needed a ride, then yes, I'd be mad.
    If I wasn't too sick, but was just feeling crappy and didn't want to be there, then I wouldn't necessarily expect him to leave with me.
    If he had been planning on going to this party for 3 weeks, and it was with friends he hadn't seen in weeks, and we hadn't been 'out' for weeks, especially if it was because I hadn't wanted to go out, I wouldn't be mad if he stayed.
    It all depends.

    My partner Ryan got the flu (and the real flu, not what others usually mean when they say this) on the night of my brother's wedding. I felt so shitty about it because I couldn't stay home with him and take care of him. He was so understanding, even in his delirious state, but it was tough.

    The problem with these hypothetical questions is that the answer, for me, is always "It depends". What's interesting to me is always what factors it depends on.
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    Feb 02, 2009 3:11 AM GMT
    I am very dedicated when it comes to taking care of the ones I love. I would leave with my partner unless MAYBE he insisted that I stay for some reason.

    I had an instance where one of my ex's committed suicide and I was notified by phone at home. My first boyfriend who was there called the current BF at his beer buddies house and told him. He expressed sorrow but had no interest in coming home and sitting with me, so my first boyfriend sat and talked with me about it for a while. The ex expressed that the BF should have come home .. I also thought it was kind of cold.
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    Feb 02, 2009 3:17 AM GMT
    I'd leave with him, what's a party without your guy to share it with.? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 02, 2009 3:33 AM GMT
    If he was sick enough to have to go home from a party - I'd def. drive him home and put him to bed - make him some soup - hot tea - run a hot bath - whatever he would need to feel better. How much fun would it be for me to stay there with him feeling sick? I'm sure all my friends would understand my leaving.
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    Feb 02, 2009 3:34 AM GMT
    leave with him, poor form otherwise