Friends w/ Benefits...

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    Oct 13, 2015 6:34 PM GMT
    I could be wrong but I see fwb as being different than a fbuddy. Fbuddies being someone you just have sex with. A friend with benefits is where you hang out and can have actual conversations, grab a beer, do things like friends do, but you also have sex.

    Ideally, friends with benefits sounds perfect. But I have found in the last 2 years that it has destroyed 3 potential friendships to the point where I wish we had never even flirted much less hooked up. And I'm hearing the same from other guys too. In each case, one of us started to have romantic feelings for the other or one of us sensed that the other person was falling for us. It threw off the trajectory of the friendship. Whoever fell in love, felt rejected and chose to end the entire friendship, cutting off all ties instead of pushing through.

    I have two platonic friends that I'm getting to know and I can see that it's starting to happen again with both. I have straight male friends and this is never an issue there obviously. What have your experiences been?
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    Oct 14, 2015 12:56 AM GMT
    My friends with benefits usually started out as romantic boyfriend relationships then when it cooled we sort of slipped into FWB until one or the other of us moved onto another romantic relationship; although, we remain friends.

    I had a fuck buddy but he went back to his boyfriend so it ended.

    All that's ended now. I'm married.
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    Oct 14, 2015 1:36 AM GMT
    woodfordr said

    Ideally, friends with benefits sounds perfect. But I have found in the last 2 years that it has destroyed 3 potential friendships to the point where I wish we had never even flirted much less hooked up. And I'm hearing the same from other guys too.


    what is this a guy finally self realizing that sex could possibly have consequences? icon_lol.gif