Just curious. Bisexual guys: when do you tell someone you're bisexual, before or after you have sex with them?

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    Oct 14, 2015 3:37 PM GMT
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    For some people it might. Do you think it would be rude to ask a guy on a first date if he was bisexual or not? Does that matter icon_question.gif
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    Oct 14, 2015 4:03 PM GMT
    the kinsey scale was from the from the late 1940's and things are more complex than initially proposed. if the bi label, dated as it is, describes a personal preference that someone has, if it is right up there top five they must do it. must be honest like that.
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    Oct 14, 2015 4:29 PM GMT
    pellaz saidthe kinsey scale was from the from the late 1940's and things are more complex than initially proposed. if the bi label, dated as it is, describes a personal preference that someone has, if it is right up there top five they must do it. must be honest like that.


    Okay I'm not bringing something as complex as the Kinsey scale into the subject. I just want to know if bi guys tell the people that they have every intention of fucking that they are bi, before or after they fuck them.

    Okay so if they are 50/50 they should tell the person. Okay thank you for your response I greatly appreciate it.
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    Oct 14, 2015 4:50 PM GMT
    If it's casual sex, it's none of your business. If it's an actual date, then yes they should tell you upfront because it can really complicate a relationship.
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    Oct 14, 2015 4:56 PM GMT
    I always am upfront about it .icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 14, 2015 5:06 PM GMT
    neffa saidI always am upfront about it .icon_neutral.gif


    Why the long face?
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    Oct 14, 2015 5:39 PM GMT
    It doesn't matter, what you should care about is the guy being faithful of not, which has nothing to do with his sexual preferences.
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    Oct 14, 2015 5:44 PM GMT
    David666k saidIt doesn't matter, what you should care about is the guy being faithful of not, which has nothing to do with his sexual preferences.


    That wasn't even what the question was being about. Faithful isn't what is being discussed at the table as of current. The question that was being laid is "when do bi guys tell someone that they want to fuck, that they are bi. Before or after they have/had sex?"

    No need to get so defensive, unless you have something to hide.
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    Oct 14, 2015 5:53 PM GMT
    I think in many cases, bi guys will probably be upfront about that before. A lot of people see that as a plus when it comes to sex. I think the question would be more valid if it came to before or after a first date. That's where the hangups seem to be.
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    Oct 14, 2015 5:58 PM GMT
    tmac saidI think in many cases, bi guys will probably be upfront about that before. A lot of people see that as a plus when it comes to sex. I think the question would be more valid if it came to before or after a first date. That's where the hangups seem to be.


    I can't quite compute on how being bi would be an advantage when it comes to sex? What does being bi have to do with "supposedly" having more benefactors? they have a dick, an asshole, and a mouth just like every other guy.
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:07 PM GMT
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    David666k saidIt doesn't matter, what you should care about is the guy being faithful of not, which has nothing to do with his sexual preferences.


    That wasn't even what the question was being about. Faithful isn't what is being discussed at the table as of current. The question that was being laid is "when do bi guys tell someone that they want to fuck, that they are bi. Before or after they have/had sex?"

    No need to get so defensive, unless you have something to hide.


    I'm not getting defensive only pointing out his question makes no sense from the start.
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:09 PM GMT
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    Besides that I'd question the question, to answer I'd extend the question beyond the question.

    With regard to matching up sexuality which seems the bent of the question, besides that the gamut of possibilities of encounters seems to run from virgin brides who don't even know themselves to anonymous tricking with filling out your own & answering someone else's app-application in between, I'd not just focus on orientation (are you a str8 guy just using me for sex?) but thereby also concern myself with any of the various preferences/fetishes and then I'd answer with something to the effect that: the more disgusting odd unexpected life altering out of the ordinary might be the sexual proclivities of the other guy, the sooner he ought to say so.

    How soon before one of these guys tells you his preferred sexuality (first talk, first date, before sex, before serious):

    A bottom looking for a blow job
    A str8 looking for man sex
    A bi seeking monogamy
    A bdsm seeking an LTR
    A bestiality douchebag seeking human contact.
    A guy who pisses on people seeking cuddling.
    etc etc.

    So some stuff I might never need to know. Other stuff, yeah, I'd probably like some advanced notice. Because finding out after the fact just might ruin that memory, especially if you one day wind up with equine encephalitis but ya know you haven't been horseback riding in quite a while.

    Festive parties should start using proper to the times name tags:

    Hello, my name is....

    And my sexual preferences include but are not limited to....
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:10 PM GMT
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    David666k saidIt doesn't matter, what you should care about is the guy being faithful of not, which has nothing to do with his sexual preferences.


    That wasn't even what the question was being about. Faithful isn't what is being discussed at the table as of current. The question that was being laid is "when do bi guys tell someone that they want to fuck, that they are bi. Before or after they have/had sex?"

    No need to get so defensive, unless you have something to hide.


    I'm not getting defensive only pointing out his question makes no sense from the start.


    No there is validity in what the Open question is about, and quite frankly it makes perfect sense. You only see it as that because no one has ever questioned it.
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:16 PM GMT
    King James, was Bi-Sexual, he had five male concubine's that he enjoyed to frolic with on the side. The entire British Kingdom was aware of this. Strange that he would later endorse 'The King James Bible'. If you 'Hook-up' with someone or start a relationship with someone, it is common sense to ask a few sensible unprying (sexual preference) questions. Not to start a relationship, then out-of-the-blue, your partner one day introduces you to 'The leggy, busty, red-head, called Cindy' or dare say, you catch him in bed with 'Cindy'. Max Headroom, said in the song 'Paranoia', "Come, sleep, slumber, then shower me with thy purple cloak...doesn't even rhyme!"
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:18 PM GMT
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    Besides that I'd question the question, to answer I'd extend the question beyond the question.

    With regard to matching up sexuality which seems the bent of the question, besides that the gamut of possibilities of encounters seems to run from virgin brides who don't even know themselves to anonymous tricking with filling out your own & answering someone else's app-application in between, I'd not just focus on orientation (are you a str8 guy just using me for sex?) but thereby also concern myself with any of the various preferences/fetishes and then I'd answer with something to the effect that: the more disgusting odd unexpected life altering out of the ordinary might be the sexual proclivities of the other guy, the sooner he ought to say so.

    How soon before one of these guys tells you his preferred sexuality (first talk, first date, before sex, before serious):

    A bottom looking for a blow job
    A str8 looking for man sex
    A bi seeking monogamy
    A bdsm seeking an LTR
    A bestiality douchebag seeking human contact.
    A guy who pisses on people seeking cuddling.
    etc etc.

    So some stuff I might never need to know. Other stuff, yeah, I'd probably like some advanced notice. Because finding out after the fact just might ruin that memory, especially if you one day wind up with equine encephalitis but ya know you haven't been horseback riding in quite a while.

    Festive parties should start using proper to the times name tags:

    Hello, my name is....

    And my sexual preferences include but are not limited to....


    There are some guys where if a gay guy or woman knows you are bi will very much dictate whether or not they would like to go on that initial first date to begin with. Now from my personal experience a lot of bi guys were able to bypass barriers due to the fact I thought they were gay. However it's quite interesting as to why they aren't open with their sexuality in the first place?

    At what point in time does a bi guy finally say to someone they are sleeping with that they are bi? It has to come out eventually, correct?

    There is another gay forum I have tried and one of their initial paper cut out fill in the blank self introductions that they have added was sexual orientation. Which to me was quite nice, as I can see before hand on how I should assess my responses depending on their orientation, much like how people should assess what they say to people of different ethnic backgrounds.
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:21 PM GMT
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    tmac saidI think in many cases, bi guys will probably be upfront about that before. A lot of people see that as a plus when it comes to sex. I think the question would be more valid if it came to before or after a first date. That's where the hangups seem to be.


    I can't quite compute on how being bi would be an advantage when it comes to sex? What does being bi have to do with "supposedly" having more benefactors? they have a dick, an asshole, and a mouth just like every other guy.


    I think it's more of a pseudo endorphin, like people who say having bareback sex is better than with condoms.(which may or may not be factually true. I believe it's probably in your head though lol)

    The idea alone of having sex with a bisexual man can be a turn on.
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:30 PM GMT
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    tmac saidI think in many cases, bi guys will probably be upfront about that before. A lot of people see that as a plus when it comes to sex. I think the question would be more valid if it came to before or after a first date. That's where the hangups seem to be.


    I can't quite compute on how being bi would be an advantage when it comes to sex? What does being bi have to do with "supposedly" having more benefactors? they have a dick, an asshole, and a mouth just like every other guy.


    I think it's more of a pseudo endorphin, like people who say having bareback sex is better than with condoms.(which may or may not be factually true. I believe it's probably in your head though lol)

    The idea alone of having sex with a bisexual man can be a turn on.


    Mmm yea, does absolutely nothing for me. A dick going in is still the same whether you are gay or bi.
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:43 PM GMT
    ^ If they're all the same then why do you even care if a guy is bisexual or not in the first place? icon_rolleyes.gif
    As always the blue eyed, but proud asian guy contradicting himself.
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    Oct 14, 2015 6:57 PM GMT
    Does having sex with two guys at once count as being bi?
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    Oct 14, 2015 7:23 PM GMT
    bisexual guys can date other bisexual guys and live happily ever after icon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gif
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    Oct 14, 2015 7:39 PM GMT
    David666k said^ If they're all the same then why do you even care if a guy is bisexual or not in the first place? icon_rolleyes.gif
    As always the blue eyed, but proud asian guy contradicting himself.


    I honestly think you need to get off your high horse. You just sound so bitter, it's quite sad but a bit amusing. For some gay men they would rather not have any physical contact with bisexual males. If that theory butt hurts you so much you should possibly move on to a different thread, oh and take your half-assed personal attacks else where as well. Because frankly if I'm concerned I'd rather have pictures of a person wearing blue contacts floating around the inter-webs rather then a sorry excuse you call a dick that was sent to a fat guy.

    Have a great day.
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    Oct 14, 2015 7:44 PM GMT
    bonaparts saidbisexual guys can date other bisexual guys and live happily ever after icon_rolleyes.gificon_lol.gif

    The whole point of pretending to be bisexual is that you are not happy.
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    Oct 14, 2015 8:02 PM GMT
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    David666k said^ If they're all the same then why do you even care if a guy is bisexual or not in the first place? icon_rolleyes.gif
    As always the blue eyed, but proud asian guy contradicting himself.


    I honestly think you need to get off your high horse. You just sound so bitter, it's quite sad but a bit amusing. For some gay men they would rather not have any physical contact with bisexual males. If that theory butt hurts you so much you should possibly move on to a different thread, oh and take your half-assed personal attacks else where as well. Because frankly if I'm concerned I'd rather have pictures of a person wearing blue contacts floating around the inter-webs rather then a sorry excuse you call a dick that was sent to a fat guy.

    Have a great day.


    Butthurt detected!

    It's obvious you hold an old grudge against me, which is too bad because I have no idea who the hell you are.