What does it mean to be "shallow" ?

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    Feb 02, 2009 12:29 AM GMT
    I hear guys talk on here of their types of guys they like wether it be skin color, shape, size, hair/no hair, and etc....My bf and I have had this discussion and he says he likes what he likes, but that doesn't make him shallow.

    When does it become shallow? People are attracted to what they are attracted to. Especially men are very visual creatures, so what does it mean to be "shallow"?
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    Feb 02, 2009 12:35 AM GMT
    I've always felt being shallow was you didn't really care whats on the inside, just as long as it was all pretty on the outside..

    OR

    If you found a physical flaw and that did it, no matter how great the guy is, you just can't look past his physical flaws.
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    Feb 02, 2009 12:36 AM GMT
    I think it's someone who is no longer customarily visual but strictly looks-based and wouldn't consider seeing someone that didn't meet their standards.
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    Feb 02, 2009 12:50 AM GMT
    "Being shallow" is applicable to a variety of situations, many of which aren't "gay based"....

    What was said above is very true, but also, aside from looks, "being shallow" can be applied to how someone reacts based on "superficial" facts.... whether it be a problem.. or first impressions. It can be applied to so many situations.
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    Feb 02, 2009 1:20 AM GMT
    Being shallow is judging or dismissing a person based on superficial attributes. There are guys out there that refuse to associate or speak with anyone who they deem as "unattractive", even on a platonic level.

    But it works the other way too. I'm sure there are "attractive" guys that get written off as nothing more than a pretty face with not much going on in the brain.
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    Feb 02, 2009 1:30 AM GMT
    Shallow is not trivializing my faults and praising my good points.
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    Feb 02, 2009 2:48 AM GMT
    I thought "shallow" meant "fuckable."
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    Feb 02, 2009 2:59 AM GMT
    Being shallow is for poolsicon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 02, 2009 3:30 AM GMT
    Here is how I would explain. Shallow is not so much about what you do as what you don't do. Shallow is when someone gives no consideration to what a person is mentally or "spiritually" on the inside. Shallow people simply do not try to look deeper in themselves or other people. Consequentially they are usually marked by lack of compassion or empathy.
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    Feb 02, 2009 3:54 AM GMT
    ActiveAndFit saidHere is how I would explain. Shallow is not so much about what you do as what you don't do. Shallow is when someone gives no consideration to what a person is mentally or "spiritually" on the inside. Shallow people simply do not try to look deeper in themselves or other people. Consequentially they are usually marked by lack of compassion or empathy.


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    Feb 02, 2009 4:01 AM GMT
    ObsceneWish said
    ActiveAndFit saidHere is how I would explain. Shallow is not so much about what you do as what you don't do. Shallow is when someone gives no consideration to what a person is mentally or "spiritually" on the inside. Shallow people simply do not try to look deeper in themselves or other people. Consequentially they are usually marked by lack of compassion or empathy.


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    Feb 02, 2009 5:06 AM GMT
    God, I'd so pay to watch the two of you bumping shallows.
  • cowboyupnorth

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    Feb 02, 2009 5:14 AM GMT
    I thought somebody said swallow.... my bad
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    Feb 02, 2009 5:56 AM GMT
    Oh, I am plenty shallow. I judge people on first appearances all the time. I think we all do. That doesn't mean I won't give people a chance; it just means that I have a notion of what to expect based upon the way they look, act, and dress.

    But I am comfortable with my shallowness. Deeply so.
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    Feb 02, 2009 5:59 AM GMT
    Am i shallow if I think the reason people hate me is because I am just so damn hot and beautiful? icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 02, 2009 6:07 AM GMT
    ActiveAndFit saidHere is how I would explain. Shallow is not so much about what you do as what you don't do. Shallow is when someone gives no consideration to what a person is mentally or "spiritually" on the inside. Shallow people simply do not try to look deeper in themselves or other people. Consequentially they are usually marked by lack of compassion or empathy.


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    Feb 02, 2009 5:32 PM GMT
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  • GQjock

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    Feb 02, 2009 5:37 PM GMT
    Shallow is never having to say you're sorry


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