Want to date around, but...

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    Oct 16, 2015 3:09 PM GMT
    ...I'm insecure about my body, not due to the amputations--I've gotten over that, but I have a lot of scars. I told the last guy I was seeing about that and he said scars can be sexy, but after we got busy one time he mentioned that you do have a lot of scars. This is probably my biggest insecurity because most guys have perfect (scar-less) bodies. It's more I have this large oval scar on my chest that I've had ever since I was young and has always been an insecurity for me. I don't mind the scars from the accident because those are small and I think they're actually cool, but the big one is very noticeable.

    I know I just need to meet people who don't care, I have a feeling that the majority of guys that are interested in me are interested in me for my face anyway (the last two guys I was with kept telling me it's my face that they love.) My worry is when we start getting nekkid.
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    Oct 16, 2015 4:19 PM GMT
    I have plenty of body scars due to a bad accident . After spending 3 month in the hospital , i was happy to be able to regain my mobility , scars are only bad reminder of bad experience .
    If the person you are dating is bothered by your scars , pleas look elsewhere , because he definitely is selfish snd not worth your time and effort .
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    Oct 16, 2015 4:53 PM GMT
    Once you have a scar it's forever. But an unsightly scar can often be revised to make it less noticeable. A consultation with a plastic surgeon would help you figure out if the scar can be revised to some thing less noticeable.
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    Oct 16, 2015 6:43 PM GMT
    It's kinda sad that you feel the only thing you have to offer is your outward appearance..We're more than our bodies.
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    Oct 16, 2015 7:05 PM GMT
    mybud saidIt's kinda sad that you feel the only thing you have to offer is your outward appearance..We're more than our bodies.

    I know this, but I also know how superficial the gay community can be, especially when looking for someone to have fun with.
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    Oct 16, 2015 7:29 PM GMT
    There are gay people who are not superficial and I hope you find that special someone who will appreciate you for who you are.
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    Oct 17, 2015 12:56 AM GMT
    I assume that while wearing pants, your condition is not apparent. So if you meet someone when not wearing shorts, you just have to tell them about it so they are not surprised - and you are disappointed by their reaction. There are men out there who won't care - just a smaller number of them. Try leading as active a lifestyle as your prostheses allow (I recently saw a legless hockey game on TV), work on your upper body, and be available.
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    Oct 17, 2015 3:47 AM GMT
    DOMINUS saidThere are gay people who are not superficial and I hope you find that special someone who will appreciate you for who you are.


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