I'm starting to like Sundays no more. What do you do on Sunday's?

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    Oct 19, 2015 6:47 AM GMT
    It seems the day of the week I dread the most is Sunday. It seems Everytime it comes around, I have no plans, no one asks to hang out that day, everyone is with family or watching football.

    For the most part, I been getting halfway thru it by getting drunk the night before, and sleeping til 1 or 2 pm.

    Sunday's can sometimes be a good date day...but trying to survive it through football season is brutal. I know many areas have the "beer bust" on Sunday's where all the gays gather...but I can't do that every Sunday. And for some reason, beer makes my stomach and shits fucked up the next day. Then it leaves me dry mouthed and beer bellied.

    I just realized at the end of the day, I didn't do anything this Sunday. This has been the worse day of the week. The guy I went out on a date with Friday didn't call me today, 1 of my gay friends was with his kids, the friend I hung out with yesterday blew me off, and the person I was with last Sunday did the same thing. And not one person that I know has bothered to invite me to do a single thing today.

    The one person who did contact me was an ex, but we kinda go back and forth tryin to reconnect again...it doesn't work. and it's not the same as it was 2 years ago. Out of the blue he's been texting me for weeks now, and we've already been there before. I finally told him I appreciate him reaching out, but I'm not on the same page

    I know too Sunday is church day, but I have no family within 700-1,800 miles, and I have no connection or belonging to anyone. Ugh, today has been one of those days where I struggle to find the value of life, when you've done things to try to change it, but it just doesn't work out.
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    Oct 19, 2015 7:26 AM GMT
    Why dont YOU invite someone to hang out instead of complaining so much??
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    Oct 19, 2015 9:36 AM GMT
    Sundays, day of rest, recovery day, from some Saturday nights, drive home from a road trip, brunch. Enjoy the day doing nothing. But....tell me why I don't like Mondays.
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    Oct 19, 2015 9:41 AM GMT
    I've invited plenty of people to do things on Sunday. Like I said, majority of people be in their own or family agenda. I offered to meet with someone today...they acted like they were interested up until 3 pm, then disappeared.

    If you Feel I'm complaining, and you have nothing to contribute, exit stage left. Dont come here starting shit with me.
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    Oct 19, 2015 9:44 AM GMT
    Aunty_Jack saidSundays, day of rest, recovery day, from some Saturday nights, drive home from a road trip, brunch. Enjoy the day doing nothing. But....tell me why I don't like Mondays.


    Yeah, well like I say not every Sunday has been nothing...but for the most part during American football season, seems like most people are glued inside, or at a bar drinking beer. Which I don't mind, but I don't have a regular group of people to do that with. It's like one Sunday I'll be hanging with one group, then the next Sunday they're off doing something else.
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    Oct 19, 2015 9:58 AM GMT
    FuzzyPecs27 saidAnd not one person that I know has bothered to invite me to do a single thing today.


    See, that's your problem right there. Why are you expecting other people to entertain you? If you want to do something, decide what you want to do and go and do it. There's no need for you to sit at home alone and moan unless that's what you want.

    Ever heard of that expression "only boring people are bored"? There's a million things you could do.
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    Oct 19, 2015 10:13 AM GMT
    I like Sundays. The gym is usually empty on Sundays so you can workout to your heart's content. I work on Sundays too, so I feel like the day has been fulfilled. I don't go to church either, but it's not bad to go alone. They'll definitely welcome you and you can make some good friends that way.

    I like to think of Sunday as "Your Day". Time to reflect, think about things, and prepare for the week ahead. As well as do whatever you want.
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    Oct 19, 2015 2:00 PM GMT
    I used to dread Sundays but not for the reason you articulated. I dreaded it because it signaled the end of my restful weekend--which meant that I'd be working 12-14 hours everyday (again), dealing with law firm politics (again), addressing countless human resources issues (again), dealing with unreasonably difficult clients (again), seeing the faces of my money-grabbing law partners (again), and the list goes on. I woke up one beautiful Sunday morning and I said to my self, "enough of this bullshit," and I made one of the best decisions of my life. Moral of the story: no one can make you happy except you.
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    Oct 19, 2015 2:04 PM GMT
    You seem to want other people to invite you or to provide you with entertainment.

    Why dont you dedicate Sunday as a day of giving yourself&time to others?

    Im sure you could find somewhere to volunteer your time&energy?
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    Oct 19, 2015 2:47 PM GMT
    What are your areas of interest? Find a meetup.com group that shares your interest and meet new people.

    I join a hiking group and board game group, and it is good.
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    Oct 19, 2015 2:53 PM GMT
    The 2 of us are busy enough during the rest of the week that we truly do welcome Sunday as our "day of rest" and try to use it that way. Some Sundays we never bother getting dressed, never once go out, just lie around the house all day, grateful to be doing nothing for once. Or maybe he putters around in the kitchen or his patio herb garden, while I attend to some minor fix-it project (and I stress "minor").

    But not these last 2 Sundays, nor a remaining third next week. We got corralled into selling raffle tickets for a bicycle each Sunday, the money going to a namesake bicycle team this cafe bar is sponsoring. And their team in turn is raising money for HIV/AIDS causes.

    But it's not bad duty. We sit inside during their Sunday brunch, and can have all their buffet for free, along with unlimited drinks. (Not too many drinks or we're unfit to be doing our sales pitch for the bike parked there)

    And yesterday they had all their TVs showing the multiple Sunday football games. So many different teams the management labeled each TV screen with the teams playing, just like they label their buffet food items.

    And guess who the majority of the noisy and enthusiastic audience is? Lesbians, of course. Many of them wearing their team shirts. I guess many of the gay guys stay at home to watch TV and drink to their teams in private with their friends. And perhaps avoid the hordes of shrieking females at the bars. But no mind to me, our cafe was packed and we sold a lot of tickets again.

    We've got one more Sunday to do, and then, pray gawd, we can return to our Sunday routine of doing nothing.
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    Oct 19, 2015 7:12 PM GMT
    Thursdays are my day off and it's my payday so... Thursday >>
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    Oct 19, 2015 10:34 PM GMT
    I usually work and go to the gym on Sunday. Once I start taking voice lessons I'll start going to kareoke on Sunday as well. I recently changed my work schedule to go to church on Sunday. When I lived in fort Lauderdale I would go to the Buddhist center on Sundays so it was a highlight of my week. This Sunday I took a lymphatic drainage class and fell in love with the technique so it was a good Sunday.
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    Oct 19, 2015 10:35 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMy boyfriend and I hang out on the weekends but Sunday is my favorite day with him. After a late morning work obligation that only takes a couple of hours at most, I spend the rest of the day with him.

    We do lots of things together. Aside from having playtime we either run errands, or I'll do some gardening while he works on his website. He just bought a new mattress this weekend and we had fun breaking it in. icon_cool.gif


    He and I really like to cook so we're usually making dinner together or he will make dinner while I find ways to torture you guys here. icon_lol.gif Then we do a little bit of TV marathon watching while we enjoy some shows before bedtime.

    Life is good!


    I love this post, you give me hope for gay men in general
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    Oct 19, 2015 10:57 PM GMT
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    Oct 19, 2015 11:03 PM GMT
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    By the time I go to Sunday School at 10AM, then rush to be at church by noon, I barely have time to make dinner before the evening choir practice at 6PM and the evening church service at 7PM!
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    Oct 19, 2015 11:04 PM GMT
    FuzzyPecs27 said
    Aunty_Jack saidSundays, day of rest, recovery day, from some Saturday nights, drive home from a road trip, brunch. Enjoy the day doing nothing. But....tell me why I don't like Mondays.


    Yeah, well like I say not every Sunday has been nothing...but for the most part during American football season, seems like most people are glued inside, or at a bar drinking beer. Which I don't mind, but I don't have a regular group of people to do that with. It's like one Sunday I'll be hanging with one group, then the next Sunday they're off doing something else.
    I understand where you are coming from in terms of literally everyone being glued to the idiot box watching the NFL. Fall Sundays can be quiet and boring because so few are out and about. Try to find activities that you enjoy doing or make Sunday a gym day. Also meet up with people who don't give a rats ass about NFL football. There are a lot more of them out there then you realize.
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    Oct 19, 2015 11:30 PM GMT
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    By the time I go to Sunday School at 10AM, then rush to be at church by noon, I barely have time to make dinner before the evening choir practice at 6PM and the evening church service at 7PM!

    Hmph, my church doesn't have Sunday school.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/St._Priapus_Church
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    Oct 20, 2015 12:42 AM GMT
    Again and again, in your OP, you've mentioned that you've been waiting for others to contact you, in order to get together. Here's an idea. YOU CALL THEM.
    At Sunday beer busts, you don't have to drink beer.
    Go to a park and enjoy the scenery.
    Make Sunday one of your workout days.


    As for myself, on Sunday I download a bunch of crossword puzzles, make myself a nice breakfast or lunch or dinner, read a book, do a little gardening, and play around on the computer.
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    Oct 20, 2015 12:47 AM GMT
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    By the time I go to Sunday School at 10AM, then rush to be at church by noon, I barely have time to make dinner before the evening choir practice at 6PM and the evening church service at 7PM!

    Hmph, my church doesn't have Sunday school.

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/St._Priapus_Church



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    Oct 20, 2015 1:20 AM GMT
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    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidMy boyfriend and I hang out on the weekends but Sunday is my favorite day with him. After a late morning work obligation that only takes a couple of hours at most, I spend the rest of the day with him.

    We do lots of things together. Aside from having playtime we either run errands, or I'll do some gardening while he works on his website. He just bought a new mattress this weekend and we had fun breaking it in. icon_cool.gif


    He and I really like to cook so we're usually making dinner together or he will make dinner while I find ways to torture you guys here. icon_lol.gif Then we do a little bit of TV marathon watching while we enjoy some shows before bedtime.

    Life is good!


    I love this post, you give me hope for gay men in general


    Thank you. icon_smile.gif

    I'm sure I can speak for many, if not all of us, when I say I've had more than my share of ups and downs with guys whom I didn't connect with. I'm really lucky.

    Regardless of sexual orientation, it can be a struggle for nearly everyone. I think it may seem harder for gay men because the dating pool is a lot smaller compared to straights.


    I was referring more to the attitudes of gay men. So many gay men are more interested in sexual intimacy than any other type of intimacy. I've begun loose respect for gay men as a group but guys like you keep me from doing that completely
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    Oct 20, 2015 2:43 AM GMT
    My BF works on Sundays now, which kinda sucks for our social life and church attendance, but I've been trying to keep busy usually doing stuff I enjoy but he doesn't, or hanging out with friends of mine that he's not crazy about so he doesn't feel like he's missing out.

    This week I went with a friend of mine to Open House New York, where they invite the public to check out all kinds of places that are normally not accessible. But during the summer I would paddleboard or ride my bike, anything to be outside.
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    Oct 20, 2015 5:56 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidAgain and again, in your OP, you've mentioned that you've been waiting for others to contact you, in order to get together. Here's an idea. YOU CALL THEM.
    At Sunday beer busts, you don't have to drink beer.
    Go to a park and enjoy the scenery.
    Make Sunday one of your workout days.


    As for myself, on Sunday I download a bunch of crossword puzzles, make myself a nice breakfast or lunch or dinner, read a book, do a little gardening, and play around on the computer.
    Now those are excellent activities for Sundays when the weather is lousy and chilly.
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    Oct 21, 2015 1:51 PM GMT
    It seems you have no problem filling the rest of your days with people and activities. Why not make Sunday your day. Spend quiet time with yourself. Have a spa day. Meditate. Crossword puzzles. Long walks. Quiet introspection. Read the newspaper from cover to cover. Get a hobby and set Sundays aside as a day to enjoy it. Jog. Walk. Volunteer.

    Ask yourself: If I have to be surrounded by people all the time, what is it that makes me uncomfortable being alone?
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    Oct 21, 2015 1:54 PM GMT
    pretend its Saturday again