Being ignored on Grindr

  • Matthew56

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    Oct 19, 2015 7:22 AM GMT
    Have you ever been ignored on Grindr what I mean is by you have sent a message to someone but they clearly ignored you. When that happens how do you feel do you feel hurt, ugly ??
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    Oct 19, 2015 9:36 AM GMT
    My understanding of it is that this is pretty much THE most common response. Don't take it personally.
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    Oct 19, 2015 9:54 AM GMT
    Yeah, Grindr is too...artificial to even consider it to have any bearing on how you feel.

    It goes both ways: many times I've had guys message me on Grindr, and I've responded once or twice, but since I was driving...they just so happened to see me but I couldn't follow up. One minute I'm in Atlanta, next minute in Fort Lauderdale...and lots of guys message in between.

    I try to follow up and say hi, thanks for responding, unfortunently I'm not in the area anymore. Just so they won't feel ugly.

    Grindr is just a piece of crap interface with lots of fake profiles. I assume everyone is fake until we meet, and even then there's no guarantees.
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    Oct 19, 2015 11:18 AM GMT
    Matthew56 saidHave you ever been ignored on Grindr what I mean is by you have sent a message to someone but they clearly ignored you. When that happens how do you feel do you feel hurt, ugly ??


    First, silence ≠ ignore
    Second, non-responsiveness ≠ I'm ugly
    Bottom-Line, Grindr ≠ The Measure of My Self-Worth

    If you are feeling hurt or ugly because of what happens when using the app, delete it. You don't need that kind of energy/emotion in your life.
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    Oct 19, 2015 1:58 PM GMT
    I don't take it personally, It's an app. No one can get a full picture of who you are on it.
  • FitBlackCuddl...

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    Oct 19, 2015 2:16 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidHave you ever been ignored on Grindr what I mean is by you have sent a message to someone but they clearly ignored you. When that happens how do you feel do you feel hurt, ugly ??


    I use none of the "gay" apps, but I imagine being ignored on one is like being ignored/rejected at a pub or online. After all of this time, my reaction is...NEXT!
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    Oct 19, 2015 2:42 PM GMT
    Grindr is a GPS based app designed to link you with people in your immediate vacinity, which means that for any number of reasons you may not get a response and most of those are due to the person of your desire not watching the app. I used to live near Bronte beach which is 1 of the most beautiful places in the world but even though 8km from city centre & Oxford street precinct, it's a gay backwater, so when I would visit places such as Darlinghurst and Surry Hills or Newtown I would often turn Grindr on for a few minutes and laugh and joke about how many people were online and so close by. Then I would turn off app and not use it for weeks and would have lots of messages. This is a not uncommon scenario and an example why you shouldn't be worried about a no response. I would sometimes respond to the weeks old messages but only occasionally get another response. That's Grindr for you
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    Oct 19, 2015 4:15 PM GMT
    There's no reason to be on a gay app, all they do is make you comforted when life is meant to bring you out of our comfort Zone, and in the end the app leaves you lonely or looking for something more that isn't there. It's the easy road, every bodies doing it. I've decided to take the hard road in life and avoid falling into those dilemmas and addictions. Sticking to working hard on myself and avoiding the comfort zone and temptation to rely on a dating / gay app.
    Better to stay busy With healthy things rather than making unhealthy decisions.

    Maybe one day I'll meet a guy that feels the same. Until then, I'm not lookin.
  • ASHDOD

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    Oct 19, 2015 4:43 PM GMT
    i send and forget, if they answer it a nice surprize' thats all.
    the only one who can make you FEEL ugly,is YOU.
  • lomograb

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    Oct 19, 2015 4:57 PM GMT
    It's mean they do not like you. If they didn't like you, so why they need to answer and say something rubbish ? It will makes you feel more dissappointed than ignored at first
  • ASHDOD

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    Oct 19, 2015 5:01 PM GMT


    To the OP ,are you ever going to stop posting this self defeating self destructive posts [ like one a week or more ,smae style], or it will go on and on until RJ or you disappears ?
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    Oct 19, 2015 6:07 PM GMT
    if someone ignores you just keep messaging them, it might work...icon_redface.gif kidding just stop n get over it
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    Oct 19, 2015 6:40 PM GMT
    The same guy with whom I had hooked up once blocked me when I called him slut. icon_lol.gif
  • sportsjockla

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    Oct 19, 2015 6:50 PM GMT
    robbaker saidLol so sad that you all want to feel and be accepted at a sex site like grindr just for some dick and ass


    LOL! Perfect response. Don't get upset over an app. It's not the end of the world. Get over it!
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    Oct 19, 2015 8:16 PM GMT
    If someone sent me a grindr message, icon_eek.gif it would sometimes be a week or two before I discovered it.
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    Oct 19, 2015 8:31 PM GMT
    the best looking guys on grindr receive about 30-40 messages a day at first and it whittles down to 5-10. Responding to them all is pretty much impossible. It doesn't mean you're unattractive, it just means you're not the #1 guy on his shortlist, if he's even looking to pursue something at the moment.
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    Oct 19, 2015 8:43 PM GMT
    Oh, yeah I'd forgotten that bit.
    If I turned it on at home... "Ho hum, the same five fat guys and four kids who are on all the apps, all the time."
    If I drove to the city and turned it on... Bam 20 messages. New Meat Syndrome. Impossible to respond to most (even if you want to) because if you log in to respond to a message, ten more come in. I imagine that dies down after a while, for most people.
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    Oct 19, 2015 10:27 PM GMT
    Matthew56 saidHave you ever been ignored on Grindr what I mean is by you have sent a message to someone but they clearly ignored you. When that happens how do you feel do you feel hurt, ugly ??


    Whenever I do have the app, I ignore like 95% of the messages. Telling someone 'sorry I'm not attracted enough to you to hook up' will only open an uneccesary time and energy consuming..can of worms.
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    Oct 20, 2015 1:45 AM GMT
    Spainobain1234 saidThere's no reason to be on a gay app, all they do is make you comforted when life is meant to bring you out of our comfort Zone, and in the end the app leaves you lonely or looking for something more that isn't there. It's the easy road, every bodies doing it. I've decided to take the hard road in life and avoid falling into those dilemmas and addictions. Sticking to working hard on myself and avoiding the comfort zone and temptation to rely on a dating / gay app.
    Better to stay busy With healthy things rather than making unhealthy decisions.

    Maybe one day I'll meet a guy that feels the same. Until then, I'm not lookin.


    +1

    Very well said!
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    Oct 20, 2015 2:26 AM GMT
    Grindr is to relationships what "reality television" is to reality...

    ITS NOT REALITY!!!



    You only see people in their "Best" moments" or best "Selfies" and they portray an image of how they want you to view them. Don't take Grindr so personally. I have made 3 good friends on Grindr, and ironically we made out and such but never had sex.


    Don't take it too seriously. When you meet someone in real life and they hang out with you, then you should take it seriously.

    Dr. Phil on Oprah said you can have an online romance, but if you don't meet each other in real life and hang out and do real life things together, then you never had a relationship to begin with! I agree with him 100% on that statement!
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    Oct 20, 2015 4:29 AM GMT
    If I wanted to be ignored on Grindr, I would just go back to highschool.icon_lol.gif
  • Svnw688

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    Oct 20, 2015 4:47 AM GMT
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    Matthew56 saidHave you ever been ignored on Grindr what I mean is by you have sent a message to someone but they clearly ignored you. When that happens how do you feel do you feel hurt, ugly ??


    First, silence ≠ ignore
    Second, non-responsiveness ≠ I'm ugly
    Bottom-Line, Grindr ≠ The Measure of My Self-Worth

    If you are feeling hurt or ugly because of what happens when using the app, delete it. You don't need that kind of energy/emotion in your life.


    Jesus in Heaven this. Grow a bit of a skin or, seriously, please seek professional or spiritual help as you should not be this pissed from an ignored message. I don't even know if I would remember an ignored message. Does Grindr send an update that you've been ignored? If you send a few other messages that "ignored" message is such history I don't thin it shows up unless you specifically inquiry that person's profile again--in which case get over it. Move on. Plenty of Fish in the sea.
  • Webster666

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    Oct 20, 2015 7:13 AM GMT
    Because you're communicating with people on the internet, which is largely impersonal, you have unrealistic expectations.
    The best thing to do is to send a message to them, THEN FORGET ABOUT IT, and go on to something else.
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    Oct 20, 2015 7:16 AM GMT

    First, silence ≠ ignore
    Second, non-responsiveness ≠ I'm ugly
    Bottom-Line, Grindr ≠ The Measure of My Self-Worth

    If you are feeling hurt or ugly because of what happens when using the app, delete it. You don't need that kind of energy/emotion in your life.[/quote]

    +1
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    Oct 20, 2015 8:23 AM GMT
    Sydneyrugbyjock73 saidGrindr is a GPS based app designed to link you with people in your immediate vacinity, which means that for any number of reasons you may not get a response and most of those are due to the person of your desire not watching the app. I used to live near Bronte beach which is 1 of the most beautiful places in the world but even though 8km from city centre & Oxford street precinct, it's a gay backwater, so when I would visit places such as Darlinghurst and Surry Hills or Newtown I would often turn Grindr on for a few minutes and laugh and joke about how many people were online and so close by. Then I would turn off app and not use it for weeks and would have lots of messages. This is a not uncommon scenario and an example why you shouldn't be worried about a no response. I would sometimes respond to the weeks old messages but only occasionally get another response. That's Grindr for you


    My anecdote is a little Long winded but I was giving an example of why the reactions shouldn't be taken so seriously. At that time I didn't take any app or online dating site seriously and preferred meeting in person.

    I even one time, decided to do an experiment on how to get lots of hits, since had a bunch of friends over we decided to make a new profile, we made the profile mention all the things each individual Friend who was present thought would get maximum responses.

    Turns out after several changes trying everyone's ideas that group sex and having a big dick or the suggestion of it got most hits and without a face pic on the profile. Who can take something like this seriously when that is the main criteria to be popular

    Personally with my real profile, I get more hits by not approaching anyone and having a short eye catching phrase and a pic that shows me as a fun guy being myself. No negative messages don't put what you don't like on profile only what you do like