lost erection

  • ignaceqbc

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    Oct 20, 2015 3:36 AM GMT
    hi i have a question.
    iam not an experience person as a bottom. i lost my erection when some one penetrate me. is that normal?
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    Oct 20, 2015 4:12 AM GMT
    Maybe at first if it's hurting or something. There's a point after a few minutes where you relax and it may start to feel good. Just act like it feels good until then and then see if you can re-stimulate yourself.

    Note: I have almost 0 experience with this :p
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 20, 2015 4:35 AM GMT
    It is if you are:
    a) not enjoying it
    b) drunk or doing drugs
    c) you're a total bottom
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    Oct 20, 2015 9:55 AM GMT
    The first time I ever bottomed I lost my erection, I think I was concentrating too much plus although I wouldn't say it hurt, it was a bit uncomfortable.

    If you're not very experienced you might still be experiencing some pain/discomfort initially so it's natural to lose your erection. Practice a bit more and don't worry too much about your dick, just focus on enjoying the other sensations and your dick will wake up at some point.

    Try getting the guy to just hold still inside you after a couple of minutes and play with your dick, that will probably help you to get hard again.
  • SwimBIkeRun94...

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    Oct 20, 2015 1:21 PM GMT
    When I bottom, my erection will come and go - it's normal for me.

    But when it comes time to finish, given what I just experienced, it pops right back up for the explosion. icon_smile.gif
  • ignaceqbc

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    Oct 20, 2015 10:02 PM GMT
    JackBoneTX saidMaybe at first if it's hurting or something. There's a point after a few minutes where you relax and it may start to feel good. Just act like it feels good until then and then see if you can re-stimulate yourself.

    Note: I have almost 0 experience with this :p


    how to eliminate the pain?
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    Oct 21, 2015 12:14 AM GMT
    ignaceqbc said
    JackBoneTX saidMaybe at first if it's hurting or something. There's a point after a few minutes where you relax and it may start to feel good. Just act like it feels good until then and then see if you can re-stimulate yourself.

    Note: I have almost 0 experience with this :p


    how to eliminate the pain?

    1. Practice
    2. Get your partner to enter very slowly - and then wait until it goes away.
    3. Try another position - like sitting on top of him
    4. Try practicing with a large dildo?
  • rnch

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    Oct 21, 2015 3:35 AM GMT
    SwimBIkeRun949 saidWhen I bottom, my erection will come and go - it's normal for me.

    But when it comes time to finish, given what I just experienced, it pops right back up for the explosion. icon_smile.gif





    Yup icon_exclaim.gif




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  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 21, 2015 4:22 AM GMT
    That's normal. For me it is like a switch. Dick or ass. Seldom both but both are great. Everyone is different. Just enjoy.
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    Oct 21, 2015 8:28 AM GMT
    ignaceqbc said

    how to eliminate the pain?


    Practice with a dildo in your own time to get used to your body and the sensation of accepting a dick into your ass.

    Make sure he prepares you properly before fucking, with rimming, perhaps a bit of fingering if you like it, make sure he uses plenty of lube (on your ass and his dick) and goes slowly to start.

    Something I read recently which makes sense is get him to press against your asshole very gently with his dick and actively tense your asshole, after a short time your asshole will naturally relax and penetration should be more comfortable.

    A drink or two beforehand could also help relax you.

    Try different positions - everyone is different and some positions might be more awkward and uncomfortable than others for you. A lot of guys like to sit on a dick to start with as then they can control the depth and speed of penetration.

    Good luck!
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    Oct 21, 2015 4:32 PM GMT
    I have no experience about that matter as i don't do anal ( giving or receiving ) , but i have noticed that most of the bottoms on porn videos are soft when being fucked , and most of the time they seem to be in pain ....
    The only time they get hard is one they are jerking themselves to orgasm ...
    So if professional cannot keep it hard , i don't think you should worry about having that problem icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 23, 2015 3:05 PM GMT
    neffa saidI have no experience about that matter as i don't do anal ( giving or receiving ) , but i have noticed that most of the bottoms on porn videos are soft when being fucked , and most of the time they seem to be in pain ....
    The only time they get hard is one they are jerking themselves to orgasm ...
    So if professional cannot keep it hard , i don't think you should worry about having that problem icon_smile.gif


    I don't know what porn you're watching but most of the stuff I watch the bottoms are rock hard throughout. I find it a turn-off if they are soft.

    Perhaps you're watching too much G4P stuff, or possibly the bottoms are soft because they have had a long day filming and it's difficult to keep hard while being relentlessly pounded?
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    Oct 23, 2015 5:56 PM GMT
    I don't know that we 'lose' our bones when we're catching, but i can say that without a little bit of stimulation or hand action we're not as 'rock' hard as we would be otherwise.

    I don't think it's anything to worry about... Just reach down and give yourself a stroke or three when you bottom...

    And like what's been said before... Practice makes perfect!
  • ignaceqbc

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    Oct 25, 2015 3:09 PM GMT
    Thanks for all