I just cheated on my bf but can't stop


  • Oct 21, 2015 1:49 AM GMT
    I might have made it official with my boyfriend too soon... we've been together for 1 month when we had that talk, and now 2 months later, I still don't know if he's the one. I think a huge part of my affection for him comes from his strong feelings for me. We have great chemistry, he's really great to be around, and super cute... but he's not "hot" to me, in the sense that he looks more like a young skinny boy than a man (despite him being 25). In fact, he looks so young that I'm terrified at bringing him to the Christmas party at work. Our sex hasn't been great, at least for me... Often I have to pretend to cum just to get it over with, otherwise I'd be thrusting him forever. The only enjoyable part for me is watching him get off.

    So, while second-guessing this relationship, I reinstalled grindr and reconnected with some of the guys I used to chat with (including some new guys) so I can finally meet them and hopefully confirm that I haven't been missing out. Most of these guys are physically more attractive than my bf, but so far I've had coffee/dinner dates with 2, and they don't compare in terms of personality.

    The second guy was really hot, with a fitness model body, but barely spoke English (he was latino), and when I invited him over to chat more (since we were overstaying our welcome at a busy restaurant), he threw himself at me before I even got Netflix started lol. And I couldn't resist, so we traded handjobs while I was mostly groping him. It's the first time I came without jerking myself off.

    Now he can't stop texting me about my "angelic eyes" and "sexy voice" and how he's falling in love (despite me looking closer to a 5/10 lol), but that's another story.

    And although I felt slightly guilty for cheating, I have every intention of meeting the other 3-4 guys left on my list, and who knows what new hotties might come up. The right thing to do is to take a break with the BF and "find myself" or whatever, but it's so much more tempting to just fake it till you make it... argh!
  • christastic

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    Oct 21, 2015 2:38 AM GMT
    I would tell you to be ashamed of yourself, but...
  • Destinharbor

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    Oct 21, 2015 4:30 AM GMT
    You're being cruel to a good guy, you bf. I don't have a problem with screwing around, but not behind the back of a solid, trusting guy. Just end it and play. Try to be kind about the breakup but do it.
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    Oct 21, 2015 4:44 AM GMT
    All I heard was "whoa is me. I'm a whore". I don't see how the hell you think people would sympathize with you. Do your boyfriend a favor and tell him so he can break up with you.
  • Svnw688

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    Oct 21, 2015 6:43 AM GMT
    OP, on his second post, is an obvious flame-troll.

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    Oct 21, 2015 12:51 PM GMT
    In my opinion it's your prerogative to shag every single guy you meet on Grindr, IF you're single or in a don't-ask-don't-tell open relationship. The problem here is that you're presumably in a committed, exclusive relationship, and you are, by admission, cheating. If I were in your position I would tell my bf about my indiscretion(s) and see where it leads. Pending that discussion, I would stop disrespecting my bf. It's all about respect and your bf deserves it as much as you do.
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    Oct 21, 2015 1:41 PM GMT
    Svnw688 saidOP, on his second post, is an obvious flame-troll


    i agree, wasted effort here, respond to the real threads
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    Oct 21, 2015 2:01 PM GMT
    Destinharbor saidYou're being cruel to a good guy, your bf. I don't have a problem with screwing around, but not behind the back of a solid, trusting guy. Just end it and play. Try to be kind about the breakup but do it.

    Agree. And even if this is a troll's fake thread, as already suggested here, I still think the situation is worth commenting upon. Because like it or not, this behavior is not uncommon with gay guys, and merits some general discussion. icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 21, 2015 2:47 PM GMT
    Svnw688 saidOP, on his second post, is an obvious flame-troll.

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    This. That said, I wonder why people create fake or new accounts only to admit to abysmal behavior.
  • Buddha

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    Oct 21, 2015 5:49 PM GMT
    Maybe you should break up with your fake highschool girlfriend
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    Oct 21, 2015 7:07 PM GMT
    There must be a Laundromat nearby for you to wash your dirty laundry.
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    Oct 21, 2015 9:25 PM GMT
    Worst troll ever. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 21, 2015 10:20 PM GMT
    Troll or not..


    ..People like this exist. And do this.




    I only pray for the other party to realize shit sooner and storm out of the "relationship" and find a more decent partner.
  • BloodFlame

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    Oct 22, 2015 2:47 AM GMT
    Even though this is most likely a fake, I'm sure this does happen in relationships. The point still stands that is a horrible thing to do and chances are, you wouldn't like it your SO was doing that to you. This is why if you aren't ready to commit or are naturally sexually adventurous. Either stay single or find another sexually adventurous person for an Open relationship.

  • Oct 22, 2015 3:53 AM GMT
    Why would I make this up lol. Where else would I air my dirty laundry, besides anonymously on the internet?

    Has no one here cheated before? For some reason, the morality of it hadn't been able to persuade me to stop, so perhaps a more pragmatic reasoning can compel me? Even 6 months ago I could never imagine myself as the kind of person who would even think about cheating... I've never been cheated on but hated people who were like that. Why am I becoming like this??
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    Oct 22, 2015 3:56 AM GMT
    Get therapy.

    Or, get with each of the guys, their brothers, and their fathers. Then, one night, invite them all to meet you at Dave & Busters for arcade night. Have a friend video the priceless reactions when they realize what's really up.
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    Oct 22, 2015 3:59 AM GMT
    ashamedcheater saidWhy would I make this up lol. Where else would I air my dirty laundry, besides anonymously on the internet?

    Has no one here cheated before? For some reason, the morality of it hadn't been able to persuade me to stop, so perhaps a more pragmatic reasoning can compel me? Even 6 months ago I could never imagine myself as the kind of person who would even think about cheating... I've never been cheated on but hated people who were like that. Why am I becoming like this??



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    Oct 22, 2015 4:25 AM GMT
    christastic saidI would tell you to be ashamed of yourself, but...


    ^

    Break up with him or remain a shithead. It's your option.
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    Oct 23, 2015 11:21 PM GMT
    I guess even trolls like the OP want love (or something like it).
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    Oct 27, 2015 4:05 PM GMT
    OP, you are RIDICULOUS! No sympathy from me...

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    Sean

  • Nov 03, 2015 6:42 AM GMT
    He keeps joking "don't cheat on me" whenever we split up for a few hours when he has his work shift, to the point where I began to wonder if he is only half joking. We had our first minor argument, which was easily resolved, and afterward I told him to ask me anything else that is on his mind, because as I told him "we can't have secrets in a healthy relationship"

    He asked me if I know anyone by the name of so-and-so... it was a guy I had a date with several weeks after making it official with my bf. It didn't go anywhere because I was only half-interested, but I responded minimally to the guy's texts for a couple more weeks as I flirted with the idea. My bf saw one of his texts on my phone, and recognized his name as that of a guy who added him on facebook.

    Good thing our bedroom was pitch black because I got really red, but recovered quickly and explained with a laugh that it was a guy I had a date with shortly before we met whom I'm merely being polite to over text, hoping that they'll never have a conversation about exact dates and times. He bought it, and then I teased him relentlessly about his unnecessary anxieties over this other guy.

    Whereas he should have 4 other guys to be worried about. Sigh.
  • Buddha

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    Nov 03, 2015 8:46 AM GMT
    ashamedcheater saidI told him "we can't have secrets in a healthy relationship"


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    Nov 03, 2015 9:13 AM GMT
    The sad thing is that this happens. And I can imagine it happening to me. It's so scary being in a new relationship and trusting again.
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    Nov 03, 2015 9:54 AM GMT
    ashamedcheater saidHe bought it, and then I teased him relentlessly about his unnecessary anxieties over this other guy.

    Whereas he should have 4 other guys to be worried about. Sigh.


    I don't know why your username is 'ashamedcheater' because you're completely shameless.

    You are coming across as a piece of shit to be honest. You really should break up with him and allow him to find someone who is going to treat him with respect.
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    Nov 04, 2015 6:13 AM GMT
    Stop being a hoe!!!!icon_mad.gif