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  • BlakeWind

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    Oct 24, 2015 2:13 AM GMT
    Hey guys,

    Well kind of a long story. But I have a co-worker that i have a HUUUUUUUGE crush on. He is like perfect in my eyes. Very good-looking guy. I would label myself as average at best. He is presumably straight, and even has a girlfriend. Anyway, we are very close friends at work. From my observation, he doesn't have a whole lot of friends. I think because he can be a little stuck up. and doesn't like too many people. But for some reason, he really likes me. He will always sit next to me at work. But if there isnt a seat that is available next to me at work, he just wont work that day, and sit on a random chair and chat with me for a little bit then go home. He knows im gay. And I swear he does things to tease me. Like a few days ago, he dropped something, and bent down to pick it up, and bent with his ass aiming towards me. And I swore I think I have seen him checking me out a few times. And he also sometimes asks me what kind of guys im into. But yea thats the gist of it. There are a few more things I could add, but i dont want to make it overly long. Anyway, what do you guys think? Do you think he might be gay? or bisexual? or do you guys think im thinking way too much into this? its been bothering me pretty bad for a while now. But like I said, he swears he is straight, and even has a girlfriend. But these days, that does'nt necessarily mean he is straight lol. We havent hung out outside of work yet. Though we have been planning to.
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    Oct 24, 2015 2:20 AM GMT
    Maybe he sees you as no competition and just wants to be your friend. A lot of straight guys like the co. of a laid back gay guy... and yes, you're thinking too much about it.
    Friendships should come natural. If there's more to it, he'll let you know.
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    Oct 24, 2015 2:24 AM GMT
    You said in your post that he doesn't like a lot of people and he doesn't have many friends. He sees a good friend in you so for him, that's rare and he's taking advantage that he has a good friend.

    Just let it be and continue being his friend. Don't ruin your friendship with him because of your crush and curiosity.
  • BlakeWind

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    Oct 24, 2015 2:33 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidYou said in your post that he doesn't like a lot of people and he doesn't have many friends. He sees a good friend in you so for him, that's rare and he's taking advantage that he has a good friend.

    Just let it be and continue being his friend. Don't ruin your friendship with him because of your crush and curiosity.


    Yea thats something I was afraid of. I even told one of my friends that I didn't want to ruin our friendship just because of my stupid crush. I guess I just found it interesting how close he seems to me. Thats why I wanted more opinions! But yea I think im just going to try not to think so much into it and just let it go.
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    Oct 24, 2015 3:49 AM GMT

    Everything here is fine... just try not to grab his boob.icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 24, 2015 4:42 AM GMT
    Why do you care? Your profile says you're already in a monogamous relationship.
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    Oct 24, 2015 5:27 AM GMT
    I wouldn't over analyze things. Trust me it usually gets you into a world of hurt. If he wants to make a move on you he will, knowing that you are gay and all.
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    Oct 24, 2015 5:53 AM GMT
    Get drunk together and see what happened. icon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    Kidding, of course.
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    Oct 24, 2015 12:01 PM GMT
    Don't think too much like fantasizing things, just go with the friendly flow. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 24, 2015 1:34 PM GMT
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    Oct 24, 2015 2:44 PM GMT
    You are in a relationship, the other guy is in a relationship, he seems a tad bit too interested in you to be labeled as "friendly", and you have a huge crush on him.


    The drama potential is strong in this one icon_rolleyes.gif.
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    Oct 24, 2015 2:55 PM GMT
    Razvigor saidYou are in a relationship, the other guys is in a relationship, he seems a tad bit too interested in you to be labeled as "friendly", and you have a huge crush on him.


    The drama potential is strong in this one icon_rolleyes.gif.


    wtf, didn't even realize he was in a relationship. Wtf is wrong with people these days.

    OP I hope he shatters your heart in a million pieces and leaves you there to bleed out.

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    Oct 24, 2015 3:19 PM GMT
    Mesmer said
    wtf, didn't even realize he was in a relationship. Wtf is wrong with people these days.


    Yeah, I wanted to comment, but not before I read everybody else's comments first. And then I noticed some saying he was in a relationship, so I wen't to his profile to check for sure, and he is indeed in one.

    For somebody describing themselves as feeling "average" he seems more than keen on testing the waters to see if there's potential to sit on two chairs at once. Even if the other chair is kind of "occupied as well".

    And then people ask why some feel so beat down and crushed to consider there are no good guys left.

    Look at what the "good", "not arrogant at all", "average" guys do icon_biggrin.gif.
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    Oct 24, 2015 3:29 PM GMT
    Razvigor said
    Mesmer said
    wtf, didn't even realize he was in a relationship. Wtf is wrong with people these days.


    Yeah, I wanted to comment, but not before I read everybody else's comments first. And then I noticed some saying he was in a relationship, so I wen't to his profile to check for sure, and he is indeed in one.

    For somebody describing themselves as feeling "average" he seems more than keen on testing the waters to see if there's potential to sit on two chairs at once. Even if the other chair is kind of "occupied as well".

    And then people ask why some feel so beat down and crushed to consider there are no good guys left.

    Look at what the "good", "not arrogant at all", "average" guys do icon_biggrin.gif.


    He is fucking pathetic. I really like how he says that he is the committed type in his about me. What a prick.
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    Oct 24, 2015 4:10 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidWhy do you care? Your profile says you're already in a monogamous relationship.


    Boom! Great detective work again by UndercoverMan. Would never have known this. Totally changes the thread.
  • mybud

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    Oct 25, 2015 3:50 AM GMT
    Well it states in your profile you're in a monogamous relationship..So would you go for this "str8" guy even if it damaged your present relationship?
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    Oct 25, 2015 5:23 AM GMT
    Your profile says you are "the committed" type. "You want one guy and don't want to share him." But you want hookups on the side - so you won't share your man, but you want him to share you with your hookups.

    Not surprised, given your age. Make sure you have an exit plan for when your BF finds out you've been cheating on him. (You will - if you can't with this guy, there will be another.)
  • AMoonHawk

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    Oct 25, 2015 5:44 AM GMT
    The next time he asks you what kind of guy your into, tell him someone like him, only gay icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 26, 2015 3:23 AM GMT
    Are the personal attacks on the OP really necessary?
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    Oct 26, 2015 4:39 AM GMT
    JacksWastedLife saidAre the personal attacks on the OP really necessary?


    yes, because he clearly doesn't need any answers to his question because he already has someone and so does his crush.
  • BlakeWind

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    Oct 30, 2015 12:06 AM GMT
    Dang. You guys need to chill haha. Iv been single for over a year now. But as you can probably see my post history, I haven't been on in a long time. So I forgot to update it. Sorry for the confusion guys. Though it does actually make me happy you guys were upset by that.
  • BlakeWind

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    Oct 30, 2015 12:12 AM GMT
    Mesmer said
    JacksWastedLife saidAre the personal attacks on the OP really necessary?


    yes, because he clearly doesn't need any answers to his question because he already has someone and so does his crush.


    Don't be so quick to judge please.