Gay Scene in Chicago?

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    Oct 24, 2015 8:21 PM GMT
    I'm moving back to Chicago next month and while I'll initially be living with my parents for a few months before possibly finding my own place in the city, I'm wondering about how the gay scene is there.

    I grew up in Chicago and am familiar with Boystown and the culture in general but have never hung out in Boystown since I wasn't out yet; plus I moved to NYC right after graduating college. Now I'm moving back as an adult to a city that has changed on 6 years since I've been away.

    From my experience with the scene here in New York got exhausting/ frustrating after a while and seemed limited to the stereotypical Hell's Kitchen and Chelsea venues attracting a lot of visitors looking to hookup. I'm a bit of a non-scene guy so maybe that could be the cause frustration with it here. I did have the fortune of meeting my ex BF through a mutual freind but think I may have gotten lucky when I tried dating in NYC- needless to say it left a lot to be desired.

    I don't think gay dating is as hard in Chicago as NY but I'm still wondering... Any insight from RJer's back home in the Windy City?
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    Oct 26, 2015 12:04 AM GMT
    Although I live here, and the gay scene is very active, I have never found Chicago to be a place that was easy to meet someone. I find guys here to be very standoffish. Even on RJ, I have never once had anyone from Chicago even message me.
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    Oct 29, 2015 5:51 PM GMT
    / Really? That's interesting, I had the opposite experience back in my college days when I attracted a lot of closeted guys. Easy to talk with and get close to them but then again that was in a college environment

    In NYC it was hard to meet guys since everyone is always working and their standards are unrealistic in terms of what kind of guy they're looking for since there's hot guys all over NYC and it is one of the Meccas for models. I should count myself lucky since I did meet my former BF here however.....

    I was talking with a native NYer aquaintence who visited Chicago a few years ago and said he found it easier to approach guys there in general; chalking it up to the friendly, laid back Midwesterner vibes.

    Although, now with online dating apps and such everyone might be looking for the perfect guy (who doesn't exist) at home on their mobile phone. It'll be interesting to see when I oriented with the dating scene there.
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    Nov 01, 2015 10:14 AM GMT
    Good luck with your move and your quest of prince charming. The guy I'm seeing/dating serious now, his family is from Chicago, he moved to SoCal here in his 20s. I guess he still has that Midwestern values. icon_smile.gif I get along easier with him than some of the dudes I previously dated. Oh and one of my ex-hook up along time ago was a Dude from Chicago/Wisconsin too! He was hot, sweet and great. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 08, 2015 11:36 PM GMT
    / I think you hit upon an important cultural difference with the Midwestern "values" or aka leaning more toward being traditional and conventional more often than not. Carry's over into dating I think with more of a long term relationship mindset.
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    Nov 09, 2015 12:48 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidGood luck.

    I, personally, couldn't find anyone to date while in Chicago.

    Then, after moving away from Chicago (my hometown) I have been in two relationships.


    I can't believe a guy good looking as you couldn't find anyone to date.
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    Nov 09, 2015 6:39 AM GMT
    The answers here are so cliche.

    Everybody believes their gay scene is the worst. NYC gays think their scene is the bitchest. LA gays think the same. The grass is always greener eh?

    It's what you make it. All big cities will attract certain types. It's up to you to go out there and find your niche.