huhwhat said... I've only seriously dated 2 white guys in my life. The rest have been ethnic of some sort....
Race, as a social construct, is a group of people who share similar and distinct physical characteristicshttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethnic_group
An ethnic group or ethnicity is a socially defined category of people who identify with each other based on common ancestral, social, cultural or national experience
To the topic:
This one's actually kind of interesting, not for the same-ol' same ol' it is, but for what it also represents.
And there's a theory of communication which backs the complaint. Hold please; it's been so long since I've studied this shit, lemme see if I can google the correct terminology...
Never mind. Way to complex to peruse quickly and I'm far from my studies on it, but it's a definite thing and it actually makes me wonder if the OP isn't trolling for a class assignment.
I think that if we are honest with ourselves then we will find that we react differently based upon what level of respect (whether that's a place of honor or of fear or even of disgust--i.e. I have respect for the consequences of swimming in a cesspool).
I somewhat recall a study done on something as mundane as backing out of a parking spot. If I remember it right, it showed that if the person waiting for that spot is a female, then the person still in that spot will take longer to vacate it. But if the person waiting is male, then the person currently in the spot vacates it sooner, which shows a level of respect and how that makes us feel.
So it would make sense that the less you respect someone, the less rejection would matter from that person. And certainly if you fear that no one respects you, then you'll think your rejection worth less.
Now, it seems a bit perverted to get your power from your capacity to reject. It doesn't seem a valid source of self esteem simply because how self sustaining could that possibly be? Not at all, right? So while mulling the thoughts can be self enlightening, the applications can be quite twisty, they can further fuck you up.
If you've got perversions about you, it's one thing to explore that so that you understand it. But another to indulge it, especially if they are hurtful to others but also where harmful to yourself. I'd think that using rejection as a measure of self worth in either direction (you rejecting or being rejected) falls into that category.