In regards to the camp/effeminate stereotype surrounding gay men

  • Matthew56

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    Oct 28, 2015 9:22 PM GMT
    Are any of the masculine gay men comfortable with the stereotype of gay men being "fairy queens " and acting camp or do you detest it and hate camp acting gay be with a passion
  • tazzari

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    Oct 28, 2015 10:02 PM GMT
    I'm not comfortable with any stereotype, but I have rather effeminate friends, and that doesn't bother me at all - they are who they are, and are darned good people. But camp "acting"? Fine as a joke, but as far as "acting" I prefer people to be themselves.
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    Oct 28, 2015 10:03 PM GMT
    I LOVE flamboyant gay men. And drag queens. And grizzled bulldykes and high butch lesbians. They paved the way for me and I find them all incredibly brave and they know it and love me.

    Even though I don't want to sleep with them.*

    I think I sufficiently answered your implied question, which is:

    "Do masculine gay men date or sleep with flamboyant gay men?"

    * Exception: Muscle Queens. Personally as a top I find the disconnect a huge turn-on. I have the same reaction and disconnect with much older muscular men.
  • tj85016

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    Oct 28, 2015 10:16 PM GMT
    lol, where does this Matthew dude live, 1975?
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    Oct 29, 2015 12:57 PM GMT
    I'm not comfortable around campy effeminate gay men. The catty bitchiness, the pop culture references to Katy Perry, Lady Gaga, etc. go right over my head. The manic prancing around and constant chatter is nerve wracking.

    You average gay man with feminine mannerisms which he doesn't play up for effect is fine.
  • RaulMoonPride

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    Oct 29, 2015 1:11 PM GMT
    I respect and I am ok with that, but I usually don't hang with that kind of people because my lifestyle isn't like theirs, I don't much about Gaga or that kind of things, so I would feel like fish on land. Just Hakunah Matata.icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 29, 2015 1:24 PM GMT
    I'd much rather hang out with a camp gay man than a football freak.
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    Oct 29, 2015 1:48 PM GMT
    The "fairy queens" can be as "camp" as they wish--that's their prerogative and I commend them for being authentic. But I'm afraid that my personality simply does not mesh well with theirs, so I'm going to have to stay away from the fairy dust.
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    Oct 29, 2015 4:37 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'd much rather hang out with a camp gay man than a football freak.
    +1
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    Oct 29, 2015 5:50 PM GMT
    It depends. I found myself surrounded by camp gay men who were rude, and vapid. They would make fun of people they saw around them and will find any minor flaw and magnify them just so they can gossip. But then I found some camp gay men who were really just cool people to be around with and just enjoy their comedic personalities.

    I hung out with these so called "alpha" gay males, and some of them were so self hating it was sad, they have to hate something about the gay people who weren't like them and honestly I found similar with the bitchy queens I've ran into, they were no better. Then I ran into some nice guys that weren't camp and just were like any other guy.

    for me if you feel the need to stereotype then you clearly need to travel more or do some soul searching, and see the world outside of your close minded head. It just shows that you are not cultured, and lack a sense of intellectual poise, and inhibits social insecurities.
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    Oct 29, 2015 7:16 PM GMT
    tj85016 saidlol, where does this Matthew dude live, 1975?


    +1

    Campy/effeminate is just one type of gay self-expression. Masculine jock is another. Be who you want to be and mix it up to the extent you wish to do so.
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    Oct 30, 2015 1:29 PM GMT