So I had my first sex last night..

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    Nov 03, 2015 7:49 AM GMT
    Hey everyone, I just had a one night stand during my travel in Europe. I found this guy on planet Romeo and we really had a fun time together. He even drove me back to train station once we finished.

    We did the standard kissing and oral sex. However we didn't do anal because he said my ass was still too tight, he did fingering but it didn't really help to loosen my butthole

    Since we didn't do anal sex, am I still considered a Virgin?

    I realized that I am not really comfortable being a bottom
    I am just curious because it looked pretty and romantic on porn movies, but when he fingered me I felt I wanted to poop

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    Nov 03, 2015 9:18 AM GMT
    ophis said
    I realized that I am not really comfortable being a bottom
    I am just curious because it looked pretty and romantic on porn movies, but when he fingered me I felt I wanted to poop



    That's normal, it's an unusual sensation to get used to when it's something new. Try practicing on yourself to get used to it and how your body works. Maybe it will turn out you're just not built to bottom, and that's fine.

    Glad you had fun. Technically you're still a virgin I guess!
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    Nov 03, 2015 9:29 AM GMT
    Happy "I lost my V-card" day! Though it isn't like you reach enlightenment after doing the sex, but still. And as for anal, that's totally normal. Like PulseFit said, try practicing yourself. Fingering with lube and searching for your prostate gland will help. Maybe try small toys to gradually stretch your hole and then once comfortable have anal.

    Anal is totally worth it! I'm a bottom and it feels amazing once you're comfortable with it. Every man should have a prostate orgasm at least once in their life! It will get you ad-DICK-ted lol
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 03, 2015 6:32 PM GMT
    Congrats, man. As said above, anal takes some practice and the best way is to practice on yourself with small toys. Learn to relax and use lots of lube. If you think about it, you're asking your arse to do the exact opposite of what it has been doing all your life so don't expect to get there overnight. That poop feeling will go away, promise. Watch some porn and have some fun with it. That said, some guys never learn to like it and some guys are simply mentally wired to be a top. I read once that to be a really good top you first have to learn what it feels like to be a bottom and I think that is true. It's one huge advantage we have over heteros so give it a go. I think the top/bottom/vers thing is never physical but mental. Which position do you fantasize being in when getting yourself off? Follow that as your lead.

    Congrats!
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    Nov 07, 2015 5:09 AM GMT
    ophis saidHey everyone, I just had a one night stand during my travel in Europe. I found this guy on planet Romeo and we really had a fun time together. He even drove me back to train station once we finished.

    We did the standard kissing and oral sex. However we didn't do anal because he said my ass was still too tight, he did fingering but it didn't really help to loosen my butthole

    Since we didn't do anal sex, am I still considered a Virgin?

    I realized that I am not really comfortable being a bottom
    I am just curious because it looked pretty and romantic on porn movies, but when he fingered me I felt I wanted to poop



    I am happy for you
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    Nov 08, 2015 1:28 PM GMT
    Technically, you'r not a virgin anymore. Oral is sex. Anal will come with time, don't rush it. And do it with someone you care about. That way you'll be more relaxed and it will be a special memory.
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    Nov 08, 2015 7:54 PM GMT
    I had my second one night stand, the guy tried to shove his dick into my ass, God, I felt like I was being stabbed with a spear. There was no pleasure at all.

    I am not sure if I can be a bottom at this rate. Maybe will stick to oral and pseudo-bottom during sex.
  • rnch

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    Nov 09, 2015 6:05 AM GMT
    Check into buying a small bottle of poppers; inhale the aroma (NOT the liquid) about 10 to 15 seconds before your top wants to enter. You'll loosen up.
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    Nov 09, 2015 6:14 AM GMT
    Actually the guy me to inhale that, but I wasn't sure what was that. I thought it was opium or something
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    Nov 09, 2015 12:30 PM GMT
    ophis saidI had my second one night stand, the guy tried to shove his dick into my ass, God, I felt like I was being stabbed with a spear. There was no pleasure at all.

    I am not sure if I can be a bottom at this rate. Maybe will stick to oral and pseudo-bottom during sex.


    Don't base your bottom-preference (or not) on that - if it's just shoved into you, it will NOT be fun.

    You need to experience bottoming with someone who is a skilled and considerate top (where you are prepped properly, eased into it, don't experience any pain etc), before you can decide if it's not for you. If you do after that, then that's fine.
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    Nov 13, 2015 8:28 PM GMT
    I think I just had my worst hookup ever.

    This Italian guy slammed my ass without foreplay and only with minimum jelly (I was really scared when knew he was using jelly based, but the condom didn't break). My ass now feels painful. There was no pleasure at all.

    After he came, he said it was done. I didn't even cum yet. I felt like a whore.

    Anyway, the worst part, I noticed blood spilled from my ass when I cleaned them using toilet paper. Should I start to freak out now? Should I abstain from anal sex? How long it will recover?
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    Nov 13, 2015 8:57 PM GMT
    ophis saidActually the guy me to inhale that, but I wasn't sure what was that. I thought it was opium or something



    Please stay away from this shit. It's video head cleaner and therefore a solvent. Whenever a guy pulls this stuff out I know I'm dealing with a trashy person. It's the equivalent to huffing glue or paint thinner. It can cause panic attacks, make your head feel like it's going to explode, severe headaches, rapid heart beat and some people can have heart palpitations for several days after using it. And using it with Viagra or other substances can give you a heart attack and kill you. Not to mention it can cause an emotional dependency as well. Many gay men cannot get an erection without it they're so addicted to it.

    Anyone who needs drugs to enjoy sex is doing it wrong.