Gay guys react to shocking racism on Grindr

  • metta

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    Nov 05, 2015 10:10 PM GMT
    Gay guys react to shocking racism on Grindr

  • Zigs_01

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    Nov 05, 2015 10:53 PM GMT
    The very dark-skinned black guy said that white guys don't hit on him. However, 20% of white guys were willing to date black guys from studies I saw.
  • whytehot

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    Nov 06, 2015 12:03 AM GMT
    ^^lol the 20% over 40 years old and seeking younger
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    Nov 06, 2015 5:24 AM GMT
    This isn't shocking. I say much worse on a daily basis.
  • BBBBuilder

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    Nov 06, 2015 1:49 PM GMT
    Great clip there, metta.

    I think the issue runs much, much deeper and hits on things like being confident of yourself and willing to meet other people rather than just banging them. And psychological issues; plenty of those.
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    Nov 06, 2015 2:20 PM GMT
    Racism, classism, elitism--all the "isms"--are a fact of life and they will continue to be a fact of life for as long as there are human differences. While I don't condone "racist" social media profiles, I prefer overt (vs covert) racism. At least I know with whom/what I'm dealing.
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    Nov 06, 2015 2:33 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidRacism, classism, elitism--all the "isms"--are a fact of life and they will continue to be a fact of life for as long as there are human differences. While I don't condone "racist" social media profiles, I prefer overt (vs covert) racism. At least I know with whom/what I'm dealing.


    I agree. These guys need to toughen up a bit (not referring to their effeminacy). For these guys to still care about what a few bad eggs on Grindr think after reading such intentionally offensive (possibly made up?) profiles/statements means they may even have bigger problems than the guys they're complaining about. Gay men take rejection so personally, which is so weird because it's never hard to find someone who's fairly hot and willing in this community, especially online.
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    Nov 06, 2015 4:47 PM GMT
    you know what fuck this, you will not make me date somebody I don't like, go fuck yourselves

    people can have preferences
    you don't necessarily need to rub those preferences into other peoples faces though, I think that is wrong, but writing down that you are interested in white men only should be fine. Or if black men prefer only black or asians - asians
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    Nov 07, 2015 5:38 AM GMT
    Preferences are fine and we all have them. Being rude and trying to punish people for not meeting your attraction/needs is something altogether different. And I think that is the problem here. Just like many of us agree that black Americans should be more sensitive and empathetic with gays given all that blacks have endured, I think gays, should equally be more sensitive and empathetic with fellow gays, given all that we gays have endured.

    There are indeed other parallels. There were times when the black community was very fractured... light skin vs darker skinned, pretty hair versus natural hair, educated vs non-educated, rural vs urban, African American vs nigger. Now we as blacks have come a long way in how we see ourselves and others and are way less divided. Our gay community has its own wounds to heal which are reflected in how we see ourselves and how we talk to each other... fat vs fit vs skinny, poz vs unknown vs negative, skin tone vs skin tone, masc vs fem vs I'm not sure, gay vs bi, out vs closeted, mainstream vs heteronormative vs lonely with no place to fit in.

    We have more rights as a group than ever before so I believe we'll get much better at seeing ourselves as people and then we'll be able to see other gay as people too and ultimately TREAT each other better. I've already seen progress in the last 2 years.
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    Nov 07, 2015 11:38 AM GMT
    The one that disappointed me the most was the asian guy who rejected other asian guys! *mind blown.

    This video didn't bother me, b/c there are plenty of beautiful ethnic men for asian men to date. Some of the guys in that video were super cute.
  • mar0302

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    Nov 08, 2015 1:31 PM GMT
    I understand preferences, but I find the whole thing a bit odd.. there are hot guys of every race, background and religion.. I have a mate that's half black that won't even look at black guys.... his mum is black.. and when i suggested he's got some sort of internalised s**t going on, he said if he ever brought home a black guy his mum would be disappointed in him. Seriously, that's messed up.
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    Nov 08, 2015 3:49 PM GMT
    mar0302 said I understand preferences, but I find the whole thing a bit odd.. there are hot guys of every race, background and religion.. I have a mate that's half black that won't even look at black guys.... his mum is black.. and when i suggested he's got some sort of internalised s**t going on, he said if he ever brought home a black guy his mum would be disappointed in him. Seriously, that's messed up.


    I do not understand "preferences". "Preferences" is nothing more than a racist person trying to hide behind a euphemism.
    When I hear someone has a preference it is simply they have a preference for an ethnicity and not a characteristic that transcends all ethnicities. Isn't that the definition of racism?


  • Zigs_01

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    Nov 08, 2015 4:25 PM GMT
    Blondizgd said
    mar0302 said I understand preferences, but I find the whole thing a bit odd.. there are hot guys of every race, background and religion.. I have a mate that's half black that won't even look at black guys.... his mum is black.. and when i suggested he's got some sort of internalised s**t going on, he said if he ever brought home a black guy his mum would be disappointed in him. Seriously, that's messed up.


    I do not understand "preferences". "Preferences" is nothing more than a racist person trying to hide behind a euphemism.
    When I hear someone has a preference it is simply they have a preference for an ethnicity and not a characteristic that transcends all ethnicities. Isn't that the definition of racism?




    Racism is usually thought as a malicious intent. If an individual thought people should be pegged in a negative spotlight for their preferences, people might as well be penalized for preferring to watch shows about their ethnic group.
  • mar0302

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    Nov 08, 2015 8:03 PM GMT
    I understand both comments.. but racism doesn't have to be malicious to be racist.. people can have good intentions but have learned something that's racist and not understand the impact.. similar to when people say "that's so gay"..
  • Zigs_01

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    Nov 08, 2015 8:15 PM GMT
    mar0302 saidI understand both comments.. but racism doesn't have to be malicious to be racist.. people can have good intentions but have learned something that's racist and not understand the impact.. similar to when people say "that's so gay"..


    It's racist to have preferences. I agree with that comment. I made the argument how people shouldn't be pegged in a negative spotlight for it.
  • Zigs_01

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    Nov 08, 2015 8:45 PM GMT
    In regards to the video, the big picture is not whether it's impossible for a black guy to get a white guy. The big picture is how gay black male's master status. People have been told that people were equal since youth. However, when nobody is looking, people had preferences for dating which is incredibly controversial. It appears people weren't equal as people thought they were.

    Black males, do not be too dismayed by the video. The fact is that most people were willing to vote for a black president which is held in higher regard than people's dating preferences.