Anyone have any good dating experiences with Match.com

  • gymhead_anony...

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    Nov 08, 2015 5:19 AM GMT
    Hey guys so this is a truth post but also need your advice.

    So I'm 32 and never been a real relationship. I have no idea what is wrong with me maybe it's the fact that my standards are too high. I'm full time employed, got an amazing support group(s) of friends, and even have a passion. All in all, that still has not gotten me anywhere. I miss dating and just trying to connect with someone.

    Which brings me here asking your advice about the pay online relationship site Match.com - does anyone have good experiences using it if so please share and if not recommend any dating sites that can be helpful. Only sites/apps I use are POF, Grindr, and Jack'd (which two of those are hookup sites mostly) I look for love in all the wrong places. So maybe my problem is I'm not looking in a good place.

    I'm open to any advice anyone can give because when you are 32 you feel you want to settle already and not feel alone. I keep telling myself I'm worthy of love and the right person will come along. Hopefully soon.
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    Nov 08, 2015 7:55 AM GMT
    You might get a slightly better quality of guys. But in the end, you'll see the same guys you've already seen on Grindr, Jackd, Scruff, OKC, etc.
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    Nov 08, 2015 8:15 AM GMT
    xrichx saidYou might get a slightly better quality of guys. But in the end, you'll see the same guys you've already seen on Grindr, Jackd, Scruff, OKC, etc.


    At least you're honest and that's a risk I'm willing to take - I miss dating
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    Nov 08, 2015 1:14 PM GMT
    I tried Match shortly after my divorce... and totally got catfished.
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    Nov 08, 2015 1:33 PM GMT
    Yeah, I was on match.com. It was a waste of time and $. All the same guys from OKCupid and Tinder. Only straight people should pay for match b/c there's so many of them. In Cincy, the community is so small, I see the same ones everywhere I turn.
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 09, 2015 8:13 PM GMT
    I tried Match, summer before last. Almost every guy I met on there was posting pics that were 10 - 15 years (or 20- 30 lbs) out of date. It was fucking ridiculous. I've had better dates with guys I met on Grindr.
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 09, 2015 8:22 PM GMT
    I don't know much about Match but would certainly look for a site that focuses more on profile than sexual proximity. Just look at this site... There are a ton of guys who are more about being well-rounded and multifaceted than just nearby sex objects. I think most guys are good guys. I think most guys would love to love. Don't let the negative ones dispirit you.
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    Nov 10, 2015 2:56 AM GMT
    I totally agree. My experience with match is that hardly anyone knows how to say hello and have a conversation. What I would do is pick something in someone's profile I was interested in, and ask about it. It was almost as though they didn't know how to respond to an email that actually wasn't "are you a top or bottom.". I find the guys on there to not really be relationship material. Either they are socially inept, or just have a lot of baggage. Then there are the ones whom email you for a date from 1500 miles away. As with everything else, your mileage may vary.

    Cheers,

    Sean
  • BryUSC88

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    Nov 11, 2015 5:42 PM GMT
    I met my best friend on match.com. It wasn't my goal when I signed up but it certainly worked out well. It seems like everyone on there is either too young or too old for me. It's really frustrating because there just aren't that many ways for elegible gay guys to find each other.
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    Nov 24, 2015 3:54 AM GMT
    Ughhh......that site is the WORST. Every time I get a message from someone I know they're going to be awful. OKCupid is a lot better for me but nothing beats Scruff. I get 99% of my dates from Scruff.
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    Dec 26, 2015 5:49 PM GMT
    Having been somewhat geographically isolated, I've tried a number of dating sites and they really don't work for me.

    Firstly, I have never been looking for NSA hookups or for and instant LTR, which seems to be what a lot of people are looking to find.

    Secondly, if you are over 35 then everyone close to your age has baggage, and few people younger than you are interested in someone your age. Also people online seem fixated on age and appearance, moreso than people you meet in real life.

    Thirdly, everyone seems paranoid about deception, and not wanting to tell someone where you work or keep anything else private is interpreted as proof of duplicity. This is not an environment of trust and respect.

    My advice is save your money and use it get involved in local events or groups. At least you will get to spend time face to face with real people.

    Just my two cents,
    FloridaRugbyBear
  • mybud

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    Dec 30, 2015 4:41 AM GMT
    JonSpringon saidI tried Match shortly after my divorce... and totally got catfished.
    I would have used a big worm...jus sayin.
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    Dec 31, 2015 12:09 PM GMT
    What exactly does "Catfished" mean?

    I know there are people who use pictures of models and claim to be different genders or radically different ages than biologically truthful. This is obvious deception and can really dissapointed people since they are investing energy in a fictional person. This is pretty obviously wrong.

    What level of misrepresentation is needed to qualify as Catfishing?

    I was never really a barfly but I had a friend in college who used a different first name which he gave to men he met in clubs.

    On the other hand, Heterosexual women routinely lie about their age and use hair color and makeup to support the deception.

    Most Christmas card letters and online profiles, such as Facebook, promote positive information and leave out negative facts.

    Also some pictures in profiles look pretty out of date to me.

    Any thoughts?
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    Jan 03, 2016 9:22 AM GMT
    I was on match.com a couple years ago and yes I even paid for a membership. A lot of profiles on there seem to be inactive or not real. I only connected like with 1-2 guys on there but it didn't really go anywhere. I find that most guys on there put up a facade (aka lying) and their pics don't match. Which lead me to a weird Grindr meet up, met this one guy on Grindr over a year ago, put up a pic of him 10 years ago. He wanted to blow me but I politely turned him down and told him you Misrepresented yourself. Then he got prissy at me. Luckily nothing happened, I left the hotel he stayed at. Thinking about it now, I could met a real crazy psycho dude!! Hm, not smart at all. Just some advices for OP, my first on/off boyfriend, I met him at a bar MIckys in WeHo to be exact. The second guy, in another gay bar. lol, the third and recent serious ex, he answered my CL ad, lol, turned out he was a normal one but we broke up and I've been single for a while now. I've been dating on and off this one guy for 6 months from OK Cupid, but I decided to end it just before X_mas because....well I don't wanna go into details. So just keep on trying I guess. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 03, 2016 1:10 PM GMT
    FloridaRugbyBear saidWhat exactly does "Catfished" mean?

    I know there are people who use pictures of models and claim to be different genders or radically different ages than biologically truthful. This is obvious deception and can really dissapointed people since they are investing energy in a fictional person. This is pretty obviously wrong.

    You answered your own question. icon_cool.gif

    The worst thing about getting catfished isn't so much the guy's misrepresentation of himself, but my willingness to fall for the misrepresentation. When we did meet, and I confronted him over his very VERY obvious lies, he confessed to stealing the pics he used from a profile on a site called "RealJock"...

    So at least he did me the favor of bringing me here. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 03, 2016 4:00 PM GMT
    GTPSean saidI totally agree. My experience with match is that hardly anyone knows how to say hello and have a conversation. What I would do is pick something in someone's profile I was interested in, and ask about it. It was almost as though they didn't know how to respond to an email that actually wasn't "are you a top or bottom.". I find the guys on there to not really be relationship material. Either they are socially inept, or just have a lot of baggage. Then there are the ones whom email you for a date from 1500 miles away. As with everything else, your mileage may vary.

    Cheers,

    Sean


    LOL this reminds me of the time I sent this guy a message on POF. I wasn't interested in him but was moved by his profile and wanted to tell him he seemed like a great guy and would find a great guy in return. His response was, "are you a top or a bottom?" I laughed to myself and thought. This bitch ass bottom will stay lonely, never mind.
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    Jan 03, 2016 4:04 PM GMT
    laxwill10 saidI was on match.com a couple years ago and yes I even paid for a membership. A lot of profiles on there seem to be inactive or not real. I only connected like with 1-2 guys on there but it didn't really go anywhere. I find that most guys on there put up a facade (aka lying) and their pics don't match. Which lead me to a weird Grindr meet up, met this one guy on Grindr over a year ago, put up a pic of him 10 years ago. He wanted to blow me but I politely turned him down and told him you Misrepresented yourself. Then he got prissy at me. Luckily nothing happened, I left the hotel he stayed at. Thinking about it now, I could met a real crazy psycho dude!! Hm, not smart at all. Just some advices for OP, my first on/off boyfriend, I met him at a bar MIckys in WeHo to be exact. The second guy, in another gay bar. lol, the third and recent serious ex, he answered my CL ad, lol, turned out he was a normal one but we broke up and I've been single for a while now. I've been dating on and off this one guy for 6 months from OK Cupid, but I decided to end it just before X_mas because....well I don't wanna go into details. So just keep on trying I guess. icon_biggrin.gif


    Oh wow I didn't know anything positive happened on craig's list. Craig's list gays are normally the worst of the worst.
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    Jan 03, 2016 4:05 PM GMT
    JonSpringon said
    FloridaRugbyBear saidWhat exactly does "Catfished" mean?

    I know there are people who use pictures of models and claim to be different genders or radically different ages than biologically truthful. This is obvious deception and can really dissapointed people since they are investing energy in a fictional person. This is pretty obviously wrong.

    You answered your own question. icon_cool.gif

    The worst thing about getting catfished isn't so much the guy's misrepresentation of himself, but my willingness to fall for the misrepresentation. When we did meet, and I confronted him over his very VERY obvious lies, he confessed to stealing the pics he used from a profile on a site called "RealJock"...

    So at least he did me the favor of bringing me here. icon_lol.gif


    lmao
  • Apparition

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    Jan 21, 2016 1:56 AM GMT
    there is SQUIRT i met my bf there.
    He is still kinda ticked I agreed to the date because I wanted to see the couch he was pictured on to see if it was an antique. lol.

    Now I live there.