Black gay men on the west coast truly disgust me

  • zelon1

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    Nov 08, 2015 11:17 PM GMT
    Wow, they're truly a self-loathing bunch. Once I graduate I'm taking my black ass BACK to the east coast cause I cannot get w/ the normal dating preference designed for the average black man out here. I will not subscribe to self-hate....and I will not chase down any guy that's white/non-black like so many of these other of these black gays. You can hide your self-hatred under the guise of "preference" all you want but you know deep inside you've been conditioned to hate your own black skin.
  • LostSailor

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    Nov 08, 2015 11:31 PM GMT
    Another race thread....
    ::: yawn :::
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    Nov 08, 2015 11:33 PM GMT
    I'm guessing things didn't go well with the guy you were see? Your a good looking guy, angry but still good looking. You'll find a great guy. Just don't run him off with your anger.
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    Nov 08, 2015 11:34 PM GMT
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  • zelon1

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    Nov 08, 2015 11:43 PM GMT
    MrFuscle saidI'm guessing things didn't go well with the guy you were see? Your a good looking guy, angry but still good looking. You'll find a great guy. Just don't run him off with your anger.


    Actually I'm still with Sterling and things are great
    Thank you
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    Nov 08, 2015 11:59 PM GMT
    zelon1 said
    Actually I'm still with Sterling and things are great
    Thank you

    But you also posted:

    "Once I graduate I'm taking my black ass BACK to the east coast cause I cannot get w/ the normal dating preference designed for the average black man out here."

    So who is this "Sterling" and why is West Coast dating an issue for you if things are "great"? This is contradictory & confusing.
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    Nov 09, 2015 12:00 AM GMT
    zelon1 said
    MrFuscle saidI'm guessing things didn't go well with the guy you were see? Your a good looking guy, angry but still good looking. You'll find a great guy. Just don't run him off with your anger.


    Actually I'm still with Sterling and things are great
    Thank you


    So why do you care so much about other gay black men just grow with your man and pay those jaded queens dust.
  • Leftswiper

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    Nov 09, 2015 12:32 AM GMT
    Strange. I've always heard that the West Coast is more progressive with race. When I was growing up back east, I had extremely hot non-whites flocking to me, whereas here I don't get nearly as much attention from them lol =(
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    Nov 09, 2015 12:44 AM GMT
    This thread will not end well for white people. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Nov 09, 2015 12:50 AM GMT
    Flaguy57 saidThis thread will not end well for white people. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I don't know why that tickled me so much
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    Nov 10, 2015 2:44 AM GMT
    zelon1 saidWow, they're truly a self-loathing bunch. Once I graduate I'm taking my black ass BACK to the east coast cause I cannot get w/ the normal dating preference designed for the average black man out here. I will not subscribe to self-hate....and I will not chase down any guy that's white/non-black like so many of these other of these black gays. You can hide your self-hatred under the guise of "preference" all you want but you know deep inside you've been conditioned to hate your own black skin.

    You have one bad experience, and you're dismissing all west coast black men?

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    Nov 10, 2015 3:00 AM GMT
    MrFuscle said
    Flaguy57 saidThis thread will not end well for white people. icon_rolleyes.gif


    I don't know why that tickled me so much


    it is pretty funny
  • mcbrion

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    Nov 10, 2015 3:51 AM GMT
    Things must have changed since I lived in San Francisco starting around 1975. I didn't find the brothers self-loathing, but I have noticed when I go on forums in general, that the way people talk to each other is pretty nasty. Not my experience before the Internet.
    However, I think there will always be people who don't like themselves, and given that Blacks are only 12% of the population, it would seem that there are just as many White gay men who don't like themselves. Truth to tell, I found that to be more the case, and I lived there until 2002.
    Self hate starts early in life, before you're even 5. Nature/nurture plays a big part in how we grow up - or don't grow up. The easiest way to tell if you like yourself is simply how well you respond to a compliment: do you say "thank you," (non-self hating) or "Yeah. Right." (low self-esteem)? If I encounter a guy and pay him a compliment, whether it's just someone I know casually, or someone I'm interested in, that response alone tells me whether or not I can enjoy the person's company or if I'm going to have to fight through his self-protective defense mechanism (and I don't waste time doing that anymore. At 64, the remaining part of my life will spent with those who can enlighten my consciousness). Einstein gave up on the human race towards the end of his life because he thought mankind gave up on itself, and lost its capability for remaining curious (therefore, open to learning). When people only know facts and, in a conversation (or many conversations) spout nothing but "information", and are not sensitive to others, there's a good chance they're not happy with themselves. I always translated, "Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself," as "if I don't like myself and can't be kind to myself, I certainly can't genuinely care for another person and be kind (most of the time) to them." Sounds like you're meeting a certain type of brother. You might consider what environments you're frequenting that you're running into this type of brother. When I was growing up in the 60s, we had an expression, 'he's an angry Black man." I guess that's coming back, huh?

    Where were you (which part of the West Coast, since you didn't say) that you encountered what you say you observed?
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    Nov 10, 2015 6:18 AM GMT
    MrFuscle saidI'm guessing things didn't go well with the guy you were see? Your a good looking guy, angry but still good looking. You'll find a great guy. Just don't run him off with your anger.


    It's amusing that he's trying to paint a stereotype while also emulating one icon_lol.gif

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