Should I meet this guy in Brazil?

  • real2

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    Nov 10, 2015 9:37 AM GMT
    So I'm using an online dating site for chubby men and chasers and I start talking to this guy from Brazil. He is really cute, is 22 years old and is in school to be a flight attendant. He literally is one the sexiest guys I have ever seen he has a perfect, face, ass and a big dick and a six pack. He is also a top but said he would bottom for me. I already checked to see if he is using someone elses photos. After a few days of talking he said he wants to marry me. Plus he sent me some videos of him doing marital arts tricks. They are really cool. We got into it over the marriage thing I said I'm not out and I don't want to be right now. He said he doesn't want to get his visa denied again. He said because he has already paid for a visa to the USA and it got denied twice so he would not be able to travel to the US unless he was marrying me. I told him I know one of the best immigration lawyers in my state and I may be able to get a tourist visa for him. He is real as none of his photos show up on the web and we we were friends on Facebook. He said he will spend the rest of his life with me, learn English and we will have so much fun together while we both are young. I have never been in a relationship but I'm not about to just marry someone I don't know but it is tempting. He wants me to come visit him in Brazil and he said he would split the cost of a hotel room with me. Is this too good to be true or should I go for it. What do I have to lose you only live once right?
  • tiger123

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    Nov 10, 2015 12:01 PM GMT
    Have you skyped with this individual yet??
  • FitBlackCuddl...

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    Nov 10, 2015 12:03 PM GMT
    real2 saidSo I'm using an online dating site for chubby men and chasers and I start talking to this guy from Brazil. He is really cute, is 22 years old and is in school to be a flight attendant. He literally is one the sexiest guys I have ever seen he has a perfect, face, ass and a big dick and a six pack. He is also a top but said he would bottom for me. I already checked to see if he is using someone elses photos. After a few days of talking he said he wants to marry me. Plus he sent me some videos of him doing marital arts tricks. They are really cool. We got into it over the marriage thing I said I'm not out and I don't want to be right now. He said he doesn't want to get his visa denied again. He said because he has already paid for a visa to the USA and it got denied twice so he would not be able to travel to the US unless he was marrying me. I told him I know one of the best immigration lawyers in my state and I may be able to get a tourist visa for him. He is real as none of his photos show up on the web and we we were friends on Facebook. He said he will spend the rest of his life with me, learn English and we will have so much fun together while we both are young. I have never been in a relationship but I'm not about to just marry someone I don't know but it is tempting. He wants me to come visit him in Brazil and he said he would split the cost of a hotel room with me. Is this too good to be true or should I go for it. What do I have to lose you only live once right?


    You say: "He is really cute, is 22 years old...he literally is one the sexiest guys I have ever seen he has a perfect, face, ass and a big dick and a six pack. He is also a top but said he would bottom for me."

    So, this visit is JUST for the chance to have sex with his body?
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    Nov 10, 2015 12:43 PM GMT
    FitBlackCuddler said...
    So, this visit is JUST for the chance to have sex with his body?


    Of course it is...he wouldn't even be considering it if the guy was fugly, or a micro-pene.

    -OP. go for it.
    I mean we're all about the "Normative" now and I would run out of fingers if I counted the number guys I knew that picked up a wife over seas.
    I love the scenario where you come out to your family by introducing your Brazilian husband--make sure you film it and get a prenup.
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    Nov 10, 2015 1:02 PM GMT
    Dude, he's gonna rob and kill you. Wake up!
  • blueandgold

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    Nov 10, 2015 1:10 PM GMT
    As someone who has done a fair bit of traveling in south America, I can say that this has happened to me a few times. Most of the people I have met have been wonderful! However, keep in mind that many people there will do or say anything to get into the US.

    Use your big boy brain and realize that people don't propose the kind of marriage you're looking for in such a brief period of time. Meet him, have fun, but keep this in the back of your mind. What you see as love might really just be opportunism.
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    Nov 10, 2015 1:57 PM GMT
    real2 said... He wants me to come visit him in Brazil and he said he would split the cost of a hotel room with me. Is this too good to be true or should I go for it. What do I have to lose you only live once right?


    A kidney?
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    Nov 10, 2015 1:57 PM GMT
    This sounds like one of the plot lines from an episode of the British sitcom "Vicious". Only the OP is "Violet".

    Along less fictional lines, my husband's ex-partner hooked up with a much younger guy from Egypt. Who merely wanted a US visa, it turned out, and who abused this now much older man. I actually witnessed the abuse myself, it was sickening.

    Then, as if the ex hadn't learned his lesson, he next got entangled with a younger Mexican guy. Who couldn't enter the US, that he claimed was due to Mexican tax problems. Presumably if he left he couldn't return.

    Even assuming his tax issues was true, of course he could return. Just facing Mexican arrest one guesses. Though even that scenario seems improbable.

    So the ex was visiting Mexico every other month. Now what could a young, healthy Mexican see in an elderly American, barely able to hear and already starting to require oxygen due to emphysema and needing help walking? And wanting him to make the trip back & forth so often? You tell me. Soaking him for money? Something more sinister?

    So I'm just automatically dubious of these situations. Not to rule out the possibility they can be legitimate, And at least these guys are near the same age. But I would go slowly. Even if both were in the US I would still go slowly.
  • 24hourguy

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    Nov 10, 2015 2:27 PM GMT
    Dude.....really? Has he asked you for money yet?
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    Nov 10, 2015 3:23 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    Art_Deco said... my husband's ex-partner hooked up...

    Art_Deco, you do NOT have a husband, despite it being possible for you and your partner to marry for quite some time now.

    Calling your partner your husband is just as accurate as if you called him your aunt.

    Stop deceiving the membership here into thinking that you have participated in the wonderful thing that is gay marriage simply to increase your own "gay credibility" on here, when the fact is you are NOT married to your partner.

    Thank you.


    Why do you bring this up constantly when it's nothing to do with the thread? It's none of your business who he refers to someone as - if they are not legally married but he calls his partner his husband, why should he need to change that because you don't like it? He's not asking for your permission or approval in how he describes his partner, so keep your comment to yourself. The way you hound him constantly is disgusting bullying.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 10, 2015 3:52 PM GMT
    Amazing... I'm sure he wants the Visa, but the last thing I'd do in "invest money" in a venture like this unless it was clear it was reality.

    I have no doubt you could find a 22 year old with "a big dick", ass, etc, in this country... and maybe someone who might really love you added on, without all the potential issues. I'd suggest you follow a different course.
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    Nov 10, 2015 5:20 PM GMT
    blueandgold saidAs someone who has done a fair bit of traveling in south America, I can say that this has happened to me a few times. Most of the people I have met have been wonderful! However, keep in mind that many people there will do or say anything to get into the US.

    Use your big boy brain and realize that people don't propose the kind of marriage you're looking for in such a brief period of time. Meet him, have fun, but keep this in the back of your mind. What you see as love might really just be opportunism.


    +1

    I've been to Central and South American countries many times, and this has happened more to me in Brasil and Costa Rica, than anywhere else. Let's look at it from an economic standpoint...

    These people make about the equivalent of $600 - $850US a month. This is the reason they get denied US visas. What you are going to be doing is signing your life away, to be potentially arrested by ICE, when they find out that your marriage was a fraud. Essentially, what you are doing is telling the US Government that you will be responsible for this person in the US.

    My latest story was last November I was in Costa Rica. Met these two guys, went out with them, all went well. One, on our second hangout, started talking to me about his desire to come to America, and needing a sponsor. The other BROUGHT THE PAPERS WITH HIM to our 1st hangout. Let's just say that I dropped BOTH like hot potatoes. These guys fall in love, tell you that they love you so you get all googley eyed, and stunt your judgement. Not me, papi! Find it somewhere else. I mean, I am sorry that you have to live under such harsh economic conditions, but I am not your meal ticket to the US. I had to fight hard for my green card, and I did things the right way.

    All I'm saying is, this guy wants to marry you and he has never met you? I would SERIOUSLY question his judgment, or lack thereof.

    Cheers,

    Sean
  • mikesandiego

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    Nov 10, 2015 5:51 PM GMT
    real2 saidPlus he sent me some videos of him doing marital arts tricks.


    Marital arts tricks. Need I say more?
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    Nov 10, 2015 6:11 PM GMT
    Please do not continue conversation with guys with a motive of business negotiation relationships. I had helped a guy for two years of online relationship went through financial and verbal abuse.These people dont know what decent and kindness mean. I lost 80,000 dollars and a car for that man and he is no where to be found. Last I checked my new car that I bought online to help him while he was on active duty. Instead of driving to meet me and returning to me. We found the car was totally damaged and abandoned on a street in Sacramento, CA.2 years later.

    Let me tell you my friend, Based on my experience...99% of the online dating on free dating site is a scam or a catfish. Only 1% or even less is considered successful.Those 1% has to face personal compatibility and real life chemistry challenges. I dont know who you are...but I definitely dont want anyone to get hurt like myself. Please... dating site is for people to find love not to seek benefits. Love is mutual caring and is a beautiful thing in life. For those who hurt people...there is retribution awaits you. This world is always fair and please play a fair game.
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    Nov 10, 2015 6:18 PM GMT
    No. Haven't you seen that YouTube video of the Brazilian cannibals making empanadas out of unsuspecting tourists? Do you really want to be an empanada?
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    Nov 10, 2015 6:27 PM GMT
    Lol he wants a sugar rich usa daddy to get him in the state. Thats being sarcastic. Or it could be true love until he dumps you for someone cuter younger. Or you guys can live happily ever after. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 10, 2015 6:29 PM GMT
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    real2 said... He wants me to come visit him in Brazil and he said he would split the cost of a hotel room with me. Is this too good to be true or should I go for it. What do I have to lose you only live once right?


    A kidney?


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  • giodude

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    Nov 10, 2015 6:40 PM GMT
    You're considering marriage from a few messages? Please reconsider. So far you have spoken more about his body than who this guy is. It can be inferred that you are therefore more sexually than emotionally attracted. That is not something you should base a marriage upon.

    If he is doing martial arts tricks eg backflips forward cartwheels and jumping spinning roundhouse kicks he is doing Capoeira.

    But do go to Brazeil though. I 'd love to go there. Place number one on my go-to list. Enjoy the sights and the culture and the funny Portuguese.
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    Nov 10, 2015 7:29 PM GMT
    Just a little heads up: tourist Visas (B Visa) have a remarkably low 3% refusal rate for Brazilian citizens. The rate is so low Brazil is bound to become a visa waiver country in the next few years, all they're missing are extradition agreement with the US.

    http://travel.state.gov/content/dam/visas/Statistics/Non-Immigrant-Statistics/RefusalRates/FY14.pdf

    Getting a tourist visa refused once is understandable and usually amounts to bureaucratic mistakes on the applicant's part. Having it refused twice is a major warning sign and probably means he has a criminal record that makes him inadmissible to enter the US unless he does it by exceptional means and applies for a waiver(ie marrying a citizen).



    A waiver is available only if

    a. the alien is the spouse, parent, son, or daughter of a US citizen or lawful permanent resident and denial of an immigrant visa and admission to the US would result in extreme hardship to the US citizen or lawful permanent resident spouse, parent, son, or daughter of the alien; or

    b. the activities for which the alien is inadmissible occurred more than 15 years before the date of the application for a visa, admission to the US or adjustment of status, and the alien’s admission would not be contrary to the national welfare, safety, or security of the US, and the alien has been rehabilitated.
  • mladri

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    Nov 10, 2015 7:44 PM GMT
    Dude, I hope that you are kidding...He's just using you to get his green card and your money (because you will have to open bank account with him and your house, car, etc. are gonna be on his name too.)

    Stop thinking with your dick, use your brain.
  • tj85016

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    Nov 10, 2015 7:52 PM GMT
    PulseFit saidDude, he's gonna rob and kill you. Wake up!


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  • hebrewman

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    Nov 10, 2015 8:32 PM GMT
    no. simply put, no.
  • Trackville

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    Nov 10, 2015 8:36 PM GMT
    Man, you can't be serious! This is a total scam! Don't do it! Has you asked you for money yet? It's your cock talking! Same thing happened to a friend from Spain who went to Venezuela to hook up with this hot 26 year old - well he was kidnapped and held for ransom - Spanish Embassy stepped in - was a huge deal. They were able to track him because he advised Embassy of his whereabouts in advance.
    Just sayin'.
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    Nov 10, 2015 8:49 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    Art_Deco said... my husband's ex-partner hooked up...

    Art_Deco, you do NOT have a husband, despite it being possible for you and your partner to marry for quite some time now.

    Calling your partner your husband is just as accurate as if you called him your aunt.

    Stop deceiving the membership here into thinking that you have participated in the wonderful thing that is gay marriage simply to increase your own "gay credibility" on here, when the fact is you are NOT married to your partner.

    Thank you.



    My boyfriend has called me "Baby" for years, but in case you haven't noticed....I am not a literal baby. It's a pet name and people can (and do) refer to their partners any way they choose. What IS mysterious is why you spend so much time thinking about another person's intimate relationship. Is there something you're not telling us?
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    Nov 10, 2015 8:52 PM GMT
    With all due respect, instead of wasting money on some guy you know nothing about, why don't you invest on a life coach who can help you boost your self esteem and self worth. You will be much happier in the end, not to mention ALIVE......