Sex with boyfriend non existent

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    Nov 11, 2015 3:54 PM GMT
    Hi There,

    I am new to the forums so be nice icon_razz.gif

    So my boyfriend and I have been close friends for around 2 years and it was a few months or so ago that we told each other how we really felt about each other and it became a relationship, we are now living together.

    The problem is we have never had sex and never gone further than making out in bed, I have tried to make moves but nothing ever comes of it, the time never seems right - its starting to bother me as I really love him and I know he feels the same way but any form of sex is just completely non existent and I don't know how to approach the situation.

    He is a lot older than me btw. We are very close and intimate in terms of cuddling up to each other, kissing etc.

    Whilst he has more experience, this is my first proper relationship so I am really confused with this and would really appreciate the opinions of you guys.

    Thanks
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    Nov 11, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    2 years is a long time. I just cant imagine how this lasted that long?
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    Nov 11, 2015 5:34 PM GMT
    Blank profile, just joined, first post,, evocative topic - you have to be a troll, and we shouldn't feed you.

    On the slight chance this is not a troll post (and for the benefit of other innocents who may be on here) -

    Unbeliveable that you could think you have a "proper relationship" with a new BF without any sex at all. If you both agreed beforehand that you were both asexual, and never wanted sex, that would be a different story.

    If you want a sexual relationship, you made the wrong choice of partner, no matter how much you like him. So either get your sex somewhere else, or leave.
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    Nov 11, 2015 6:26 PM GMT
    HikerSkier saidBlank profile, just joined, first post,, evocative topic - you have to be a troll, and we shouldn't feed you.

    On the slight chance this is not a troll post (and for the benefit of other innocents who may be on here) -

    Unbeliveable that you could think you have a "proper relationship" with a new BF without any sex at all. If you both agreed beforehand that you were both asexual, and never wanted sex, that would be a different story.

    If you want a sexual relationship, you made the wrong choice of partner, no matter how much you like him. So either get your sex somewhere else, or leave.


    Thanks for your input and I can assure you I am not a troll, I don't really use forums tbh but I had to ask this question.
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    Nov 11, 2015 6:27 PM GMT
    pellaz said2 years is a long time. I just cant imagine how this lasted that long?


    We haven't been in a relationship for 2 years, only a couple months we were friends for a couple years before that.
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    Nov 12, 2015 11:59 AM GMT
    It sounds to me like you're still just great friends.

    Best friends with sex too makes a relationship (when I say sex, I'm generalising - really I mean any intimate activity). If you don't have that sexual element then you're just best friends and you should find someone else.

    If you're determined to make a go of it you'll have to speak to him openly about what's going on sexually between the two of you, nothing we say is going to make any difference.
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    Nov 12, 2015 1:48 PM GMT
    I think it's too early in your relationship not to be engaging in some form of sexual intimacy--and by that I don't mean penetrative penile-anal necessarily (e.g., oral, toys, rimming, role play, etc.). I see this issue arising in long-term relationships where sexual boredom has slowly crept in, but certainly not this early in the relationship. Perhaps both of you need to sit down and engage in a frank discussion. Best of luck!
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    Nov 12, 2015 3:38 PM GMT
    You need to talk to him not to us.
  • johnlesyd

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    Nov 12, 2015 7:26 PM GMT
    Shower together
    Save water
    Your both naked
    You or he cant hide his hard on
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    Nov 13, 2015 1:24 AM GMT
    Just make the move. He wants you to be the aggressor in this relationship; otherwise, he's going to be happy with cuddles forever.
  • Jasjock

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    Nov 13, 2015 3:50 AM GMT
    So what was the outcome?
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 14, 2015 2:56 AM GMT
    seriously. i do not get topics like this. i would never be in a sexless relationship. that makes no sense to me. if my partner or bf or gf did not want to have sex with me than i would move on. there is no discussion we can have that will change my mind. i do not need a roommate. but that is a discussion you should have in the beginning of a relationship.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 14, 2015 2:58 AM GMT
    pellaz said2 years is a long time. I just cant imagine how this lasted that long?

    lol my point exactly. this would have been over