We've talked about this shit over and over and over again.
If Michael Jackson could change from black to white so can you.
Yeah, this is becoming a broken record. But then I'll also repeat myself, to refute this negativity:
When I came out into the gay "marketplace" I was 46, way outside the ideal gay range. And never physically attractive. But not a fat slob, either, I still had my trim military build, and good muscle tone & definition. Plus I'll admit I had a White guy's advantage in certain circumstances.
But in the White US midwest gay bars I visited being White was no different from anybody else. Where I was no prize, I can promise you.
So I had to work on it. Which I did by studying what the other guys did, noting who were successful, and who were not. What kind of approach and personality got positive attention.
I even would alter my attire, depending on the place I planned to go. My biker leathers in a bear bar, ordinary guy clothes in most other bars, dig out my preppy crap for a professional gay club. The last thing you'd wanna do was dress preppy in a biker bar!
Point is, I made myself successful, despite my considerable liabilities. Hardly ever had a weekend without a nice guy in my bed, my measure of success at that time, and got into several LTRs that way, none of which I regret. If an unattractive guy like me can do it, so can the OP. It just requires some effort with positive thinking. And not being discouraged at all the turndowns one invariably gets.
A consequence of dressing inappropriately for one's surroundings: