Art_Deco saidThere are quite a number of adoptive gay couples in our community, whom I know personally. All those kids look so happy, many of them a racial mix with their adoptive Dads or Moms. They've got a chance at a wonderful life I suspect they would never have had without that adoption.
My only caveat would be this: are they being spoiled? Because there are negatives to that, too. But they're apparently not being deprived, far from it.
I suppose only when these kids become adults, having finished schooling, will it be known if they turned out OK, the adoptive experience a success for them or not. But all I see today are gay & lesbian parents who are in many ways better than a lot of their traditional straight biological counterparts.
Nope. There is no way of knowing what the future for anyone out there holds.
My folks (biological parents) and the family spoiled me beyond repair
. They, too, had been spoiled even more by their ole' folks. Some of my closest friends belong to the club, too.
By far, most of the formerly super-spoiled kids turned out just fine. They are successful guys on their own, and apparently have, on overall, very good lives. Few dudes never made it. If they have not managed to squander their inheritance yet, they sure are on the right path...
In the end, your parents, biological or adoptive can only do both so little and so much for you. The rest is really ALL up to you.
Inevitably, at one time or the other, the going will get tough, and you'll have to show quite some guts to overcome. Some dudes have it in them. And the others do not...