For The Men Who Use To Live A Straight Life

  • NyRuinz

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    Nov 14, 2015 1:38 AM GMT
    How did you react when you first fell in love with a man? Did you freak out, try to avoid the situation, or did you accept it?
  • LostSailor

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    Nov 14, 2015 1:47 AM GMT
    Fell in love or had sex with?
  • NyRuinz

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    Nov 14, 2015 1:49 AM GMT
    LostSailor saidFell in love or had sex with?
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    Nov 14, 2015 1:52 AM GMT
    we are still together
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    Nov 14, 2015 2:05 AM GMT
    It was all so perfectly natural.
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    Nov 14, 2015 4:02 AM GMT
    I'm clueless. I didn't think anything of it when I had my first intense crush on a close college friend. I didn't say I was gay, though... It would be 6 years later when I considered the possibility that I was at least bi. Then another four years when I finally realised that I was fully gay.
  • NyRuinz

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    Nov 14, 2015 5:22 AM GMT
    swimjammer saidI'm clueless. I didn't think anything of it when I had my first intense crush on a close college friend. I didn't say I was gay, though... It would be 6 years later when I considered the possibility that I was at least bi. Then another four years when I finally realised that I was fully gay.


    I was asking because a friend told me he freaked out, when he experienced his first same sex attraction. I guess people can really be scared of the feelings they feel for someone.
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    Nov 14, 2015 1:26 PM GMT
    NyRuinz saidHow did you react when you first fell in love with a man? Did you freak out, try to avoid the situation, or did you accept it?

    I embraced the situation, as well as him. I was thrilled, first time in my life I felt so great. Every day when I'd return home from the University I'd call out "Hello, my love!" Then we'd kiss. I'd never done anything like that before, and I was over 50, but it just popped out of me, I was so happy. icon_biggrin.gif
  • FitBlackCuddl...

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    Nov 14, 2015 4:19 PM GMT
    "For The Men Who Use To Live A Straight Life"

    Now, having experienced "being gay", do you miss it?

    LOL!!
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    Nov 14, 2015 4:39 PM GMT
    Since they were straight, I guess they're bent now.
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    Nov 14, 2015 5:56 PM GMT
    Scared as shit.
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    Nov 14, 2015 6:40 PM GMT
    terrified but it felt so damn good and natural.
  • FitBlackCuddl...

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    Nov 14, 2015 8:31 PM GMT
    FitBlackCuddler said"For The Men Who Use To Live A Straight Life"

    Now, having experienced "being gay", do you miss it?

    LOL!!


    People I know who have had wives/kids, left them for the "gay" lifestyle say they want to be with a man but miss the domestic peace and sense of belonging they had with their families. Also, they learned and appreciated domestic responsibility and giving as a father/husband. They don't see this among "gay" men.
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    Nov 14, 2015 11:32 PM GMT
    Was a bit scared at first, but it felt natural for me.

    Cheers,

    Sean
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    Nov 15, 2015 1:30 AM GMT
    It actually felt natural. Weird considering I was married but something was missing for so long. Very hard to describe but loving a man and being intimate with a man just felt right for the first time.
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    Nov 15, 2015 4:51 AM GMT
    It felt the same as when I had fallen in love with females, honestly. Awesome, warm, distracting and breathtaking... and heart wrenching when it was over.
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    Nov 15, 2015 5:48 PM GMT
    It felt better and just natural to me....I didn't have to "try" so hard and ....well, sex was a joy and not an effort....getting and staying hard was easy, the first time I had sex with a man, and I topped....I came so fast because it was just so exciting and easy to be natural and not concentrating on an almost scripted sex format....
  • Farmboy8

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    Nov 16, 2015 2:52 PM GMT
    It didn't feel weird for me, probably because I had suppressed my true feelings for guys that were friends for so long. Finally when I was honest with myself it was a huge relief. Being intimate with a guy was at first pretty awkward, but I fell in love with a guy and it seems the timing was perfect for us both. We got married in May.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Nov 17, 2015 1:38 AM GMT
    Are you telling me that there are really ex-straightsicon_question.gificon_lol.gif
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    Nov 17, 2015 2:43 AM GMT
    It was 2 weeks after coming out. I was already freaked out by how the role reversal was at gay bars I was going to compared to straight. ( the way guys hit on you, & some say hardcore sexual things really pissed me off initially, & reacted by threatening to punch them in the face). When my first boyfriend came along I was just so relieved to find what I didn't realize I'd always wanted. I'm not sure how much was real love, & how much was infatuation, attraction, first love. Anyway my main reaction was surprise at how natural it felt for the first time ever.
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    Aug 31, 2016 10:21 PM GMT
    I freaked out the first few times and destroyed my first few attempts out of fear.
  • tyspen96

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    Aug 31, 2016 10:35 PM GMT
    I was pretty freaked out the first time. Wasn't sure how to react. It took me a while to accept and embrace it!
  • nick773

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    Aug 31, 2016 10:57 PM GMT
    freaked me out too then I got use to it and felt natural being with a dude.
  • AnonymKOIA

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    Aug 31, 2016 11:17 PM GMT
    It must have always been there. It can't be just boom. You feel it when you are watching tv, sitting on your old neighbors lap or teacher in front of class. Thus the moment he let himself go and fall hard for another man it must be freeing, huh?
  • Kraken

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    Sep 02, 2016 8:05 PM GMT
    For me it hasn't been denial so much as just ignorance, not following up on what I really found attractive. So now at this point, its intimidating and honestly a little scary, but so far every step I've taken leaves me feeling better about myself than before. I hope it keeps on feeling more and more natural.