Top edging inside you

  • DancerJock

    Posts: 58

    Nov 15, 2015 3:05 PM GMT
    Another question for guys who enjoy getting fucked: how would you feel about a top using your hole for edging? The idea would be to start fucking and when he gets close, he'd show down or even take a break from pumping, keeping his cock inside you but just making out or something until the edge subsides and he can start fucking again. Might be times where he only gets in one or two strokes before he has to take a break again. (At least that's what it would probably be like for me) Would that be hot or distracting for the bottom guy?
  • takashi

    Posts: 192

    Nov 17, 2015 12:59 AM GMT
    I am an older man and my partners are older men. We have to take our time while we have sex or it will not last too long. So, yes, we take breaks between passionate fucking. I love having a cock inside me, moving or not it feels great to be filled up. He may be on top of me, between my legs, my arms around his neck as we kiss deeply. I try to grind myself into him. I have to keep him hard or he goes soft and slips out of me. Then we need to maybe take a nap, which is good too, love it when I have a meat blanket on me.

    When you are young and have no worries about getting soft, then you could go on for a long time if you pace your body and take rests during sex. Talk dirty to your man. Tell him what it feels like to be in his warm wet body.

    Some times when you are young you need that wham bam thank you man, completely intense fucking. As you get older the time between having sex is so much longer that when you have sex you want to make it last. I also love the time afterwards, my partners know I love this time so they do not put out immediately. We kiss, he hugs me, its almost like being suffocated. Its great to share our bodies and be intimate.
  • DancerJock

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    Nov 17, 2015 6:35 AM GMT
    Thanks for sharing!
  • Ookami

    Posts: 76

    Nov 17, 2015 7:26 AM GMT
    I wouldn't mind at all! lol
    I think it would be fun! Specially if I'm getting some attention... Could be a caress, nice words... You know "silly things"
  • SilverRRCloud

    Posts: 851

    Nov 18, 2015 4:17 PM GMT
    Young or old, if you go into the full speed shafting action, you'll last relatively short. It'll be intense for both guys, and if this is what they want to experience or if this is what their preferred scenario is, both dudes have a relatively easy job ahead of them.icon_lol.gif

    Quite a few guys actually like this kind of play. The top wants to get his rocks off. The bottom can take some serious pounding, and enjoys it but cannot last too long without feeling discomfort. In other words, some dudes are great sprinters and the others make awesome marathon runners. There is really nothing wrong with either kind.

    Enters the heteronormative world, and the tops are being told that it is their duty to last as long as possible, and the bottoms are being told that they have got to keep their legs in the air for hours at a time. If you subscribe to this scenario, possibly because you believe that you may enjoy it, you need to develop some technique to extend the pleasure (if you find it pleasurable) for as long as possible.

    So, the top dudes take their time and start prepping their bottoms with loads of rimming action, dildos, etc., until the bottom dude gives in, and begs to be fucked already.

    Younger dudes have a typically short recovery phase, and can afford to shoot their first or even second load in a row relatively fast, because they know that the the third one will take a relatively long time to accomplish. Older dudes, resort to interruptions, edging, and slower pounding action because their recovery phase is long, and relatively few mature men really enjoy shooting for the third time in row.

    The rest of the gay guys fit in-between the sprinter and the marathon man paradigms, and are more or less tuning it according to their needs, and the actual circumstances of the encounter.

    Try one. Try the other. Try being in the mid-range, too, and choose what works best for you.


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    Nov 18, 2015 8:23 PM GMT
    In my humble experience, bottoms who enjoy long edging sessions are relatively few. It is important for the top (assuming that he is in charge, which may not always be the case) to switch things up periodically - change positions, tempo, maybe pause and cuddle for a while. And encourage the bottom to speak up if he's getting uncomfortable.

    Most bottoms, though, seem to cum in less than five minutes and then want to run off to the shower. icon_cry.gif

    Unless you grab them by the ankle and haul them back... icon_twisted.gif

    Hmm... are we getting conditioned to perform to the length of the typical porn scene? Or does that actually reflect some natural timing...
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 18, 2015 9:28 PM GMT
    As a top, I find I can best accomplish what you describe best by mixing things up. Start in one position, usually missionary, then move on to the side of the bed, the footstool, the stairs, the kitchen counter, bathroom mirror, guest room bed, etc. That allows me to last much longer and it also seems to be fun for my guy. Now sometimes I'm in kind of a slam, bam, thank you, ma'am mood and start to finish is only maybe 10 minutes. Sometimes it is more passion and ear nibble. My point is that for regular partners, variety is the ticket, at least for us. One thing is for sure for me, I never want to stop moving.

    As a bottom, I generally preferred relatively short, intense sessions with a break before going to the next round. I could catch my breath and he could clean himself up a bit. Sometimes we'd even talk in between....
    But the options were open each time and the anticipation was lots of fun.

    Everyone has their preferred positions. Just communicate and also listen. As a top, I don't think I want to go as slow as you describe. But maybe that's because I'm older and my mind would drift to other things I should be doing...
  • DancerJock

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    Nov 18, 2015 11:13 PM GMT
    Thanks guys for all these excellent replies and perspectives! Much to think about, and much to try out!
  • Ookami

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    Nov 19, 2015 6:27 AM GMT
    mindgarden said...Most bottoms, though, seem to cum in less than five minutes and then want to run off to the shower. icon_cry.gif...

    I wouldn't be leaving until the top is satisfied ;3