Nov 18, 2015 11:46 PM GMT
I am new to the looking for a man scene, and have just taken for granted the idea that most gay/bisexual men are into all aspects of sex with another man. Naturally i assumed, and have heard that some men are tops or bottoms but i guess i just thought that perhaps it was more rare or less a defining feature of sexual relations than i assumed.
It's sort of just hitting me, for example that the really cute 18 year old boy at the store the other day that was checking me out, practically raping me, with his eyes.....might have come home with me, for me to find out that he wasn't into me fucking him?
I am less interested in how this relates to casual hook-ups. I understand if you want to be a top or a bottom or prefer blow jobs or whatever, looking for exactly what you want online. For myself, it's not that much of an issue cause i really am fine with just getting a hand job or blow job or whatever in a once off situation. It's more about seeing someone naked and getting off, regardless of the manner. So for one night only, i can bottom or top or whatever...
I do though, find it kind of interesting on how this might work on a long term basis. Like are a lot of guys really that picky in long term relationships about what they will and will not do? And what they want from a sexual encounter? Obviously it's a mix, but i am wondering from all of you who have more experience, what have you found that mix to be?
Is my future boyfriend, going to be fine with mostly hand jobs and blow jobs and maybe anal only a couple times a week? I mean i guess i am looking for a bottom, but he's got to want to top atleast a couple times a month....i mean come on, we're gay aren't we??(that's a joke)
My experience with females, is that they pretty much let you do whatever you want to them aslong as you seem in command. They are all very submissive, even the ones that try and take control, it can easily be taken back from them. I do tend to dominate my relationships, so maybe that's just my experience.
I guess i just sort of thought, whatever guy i end up with is going to be happy enough with what i give him.....how rare is that guy?
Anyways, please share your experiences or how your current relationship works.....
I am used to manipulating females to get what i want from them...i fear it's going to be harder than i realise with men.