I am not sure of he is gay/bi or not! Help!

  • voskosole123

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    Nov 19, 2015 3:16 PM GMT
    Hello guys,

    this is my first post here!

    Let's get to business:
    I got to know a guy that I am not sure if he is into me or not. Because we are at the theater practices together & in the same gym, we meet a lot of times during the week. When we are together, he makes everything in his power to attract attention from me, usually teasing me about everything. We also chat on facebook, where I hit on him a bit (not clearly- between humor and reality) , but he is not sure I am gay as my behavior is manly, but he is really responding to the flirt. And he tries really hard to make me tell him if I am gay or not (through jokes and making fun). Also, when I went for a walk with a openly gay person that he is our friend, he asked me 5 times if something happened or not.

    So, the signs were positive and he was insisting on the 2 of us going for a walk. Be when we met, much to my suprise, he was telling me what girls he had fucked & wants to fuck, and also saying that in a party a gay guy tried to kiss him and he said not, generally trying to look so straight but also trying to understand if I am gay or not.

    What is your opinion? How should I handle it?
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    Nov 19, 2015 4:31 PM GMT
    -realjock dot com has more than its share of virtual members. So if this is not a troll ---

    in n. america your better off being out. the well adjusted citizen dosnt care and you score negative points if you dont know what your doing. the OP listed his location as Thessaloniki, Greece. If true; bet the culture is different.

    if and only if you find him a friend; tell him your gay or whatever. Otherwise play it like it is none of his business. your the smart one; just enjoy him as a friend.

    sex with a straight is a quaint experiment but usually ends with a lot of guilt and not a lot of sex. Gay is not a religion, he cant be converted, made to love you.

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    Nov 19, 2015 4:54 PM GMT
    It sounds like he's heavily hinting that he wants you to say what your sexuality is, and perhaps by being honest with him, he'll be more honest with you. Talking excessively about girls he wants to fuck could be legit or he could be covering up because he doesn't know where he stands with you.

    Make the first move, just say something like "I really like hanging out with you, I hope you realise that I'm gay and that you're cool with that?"

    See where things go from there.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Nov 19, 2015 5:09 PM GMT
    How about
    'Dunno?'
    'Will you help me find out?'icon_eek.gif

    SC
  • voskosole123

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    Nov 19, 2015 8:40 PM GMT
    Thank you guys for the replies.

    I really laughed with last one icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    Personally, I think he is insterested in me but it is hard to admit it to himself and all his reactions are a defense.
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    Nov 20, 2015 4:26 PM GMT
    voskosole123 saidThank you guys for the replies.

    I really laughed with last one icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif

    Personally, I think he is insterested in me but it is hard to admit it to himself and all his reactions are a defense.



    There is a transition process invoved in coming to terms with your sexuality, You aren't fully there yet so you can't expect him to be there either. Watch one of the gay interest movies with him about guys in your situation. There a hundreds of them on u tube . It's seems to be the most popular theme for gay films.
  • spirou

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    Nov 21, 2015 12:46 AM GMT
    well , why not invite him to you'r place ? just to watch a football game or somthing both o you like ?

    in a private setting . thing could get horny .
  • JackNNJ

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    Nov 21, 2015 4:20 AM GMT
    Give him a blow job.
  • YBNB

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    Nov 21, 2015 7:23 AM GMT
    JackNNJ saidGive him a blow job.


    Ask consent first.
    Or you could ask him if he's messed around with guys at all. That helps.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 21, 2015 7:32 AM GMT
    tell him: "are you trying to find out if I'm gay or not? If I am, is that going to be a problem for you?"
  • voskosole123

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    Nov 21, 2015 3:21 PM GMT
    Thank you guys for your comments. They are really helpful!

    Yesterday, we went out together in a club with friends till 7am. I could feel his eyes on me, and when a girl hit on me and started talking, I liked his reaction.

    I will ask him to see a movie with me in my place & see how it goes.
  • buddycat

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    Nov 22, 2015 10:57 AM GMT
    If he asks if you are gay tell him. I would be turned off by someone talking about all the girls he has had sex with. I wouldn't want to get mixed in with that. I think there is some truth about gay guys finding hot straight guys so appealing because if they are out of your league, they will still give you the time of day.
  • mybud

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    Nov 24, 2015 4:59 AM GMT
    He's a str8 guy cock tease..Move on.
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    Feb 07, 2016 8:30 PM GMT
    Justme99 said

    Give me an update if you can.


    Yeah; it's been 3 months - give us all an update - if you still log on to RJ - anything happen?

    Or should we just assume you have since been fucking like bunnies?