How do you define cuddling?

  • DiogoT94

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    Nov 21, 2015 2:17 PM GMT
    I'm sorry if this sounds random. But I'm in this situation with this guy, and he is always talking about cuddling. But sometimes I don't know how to aproach it properly,because it seems that cuddling for him is from casual sex to casual kissing.
    How do you define "Cuddling"?
  • RaulMoonPride

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    Nov 21, 2015 2:25 PM GMT
    All starts with a hug, you may be sitting, standing up, spooning on bed, etc. You may add some smooching and snuggling.

    PS: that guy lied...
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    Nov 23, 2015 12:48 AM GMT
    Cuddling is like holding each other, and being intimate. Cuddling does not mean sex, but in the gay community, the term "cuddling" has been misconntrude as meaning "let's have sex in a informal way. It's bullshit really. The term cuddling doesn't mean cuddle anymore, it just means sex, and that to me is wrong. That guy is an asshole!
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    Nov 23, 2015 12:56 AM GMT
    COCK up your ass, I think?

    I dunno, HARD to please some!!
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    Nov 23, 2015 1:34 AM GMT
    Cuddling is something you do with someone you love.
    I prefer to be the big spoon and cradle my man in my body on our sides, while watching a movie or laying in bed.
    Sometimes I can just lean back on him and let him fiddle with my hair or lightly rub my chest or shoulders from behind.
    I enjoy holding or being held when relaxing.

    Not all guys are wired that way and can stand being that close to someone. For some guys it's a control thing and they're not willing to relax enough to enjoy it.
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    Nov 23, 2015 2:33 AM GMT
    ^ +1

    I find it hard to believe that one would want to "cuddle" with anyone for whom he not have loving feelings toward, unless it was during after-sex time. I cuddle with my husband at night, used to with prior BFs, and sometimes after sex with a new partner.

    I know that straight soldiers in the field have been known to sleep together, holding each other in each other's arms (buddies and all that), but other than that situation, it just doesn't make sense to me that guy friends, straight or gay, would be "cuddling".
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    Nov 23, 2015 4:53 AM GMT
    Anything that involves exchanging bodily fluids is out.

    Any squirting is also inappropriate for cuddling. So a handjob doesn't count as cuddling. I say that because I had a straight coworker who said that it's ok for a woman to give you a handjob if you have a girlfriend/wife; it's not cheating. I disagreed and expressed my doubt but he insisted; who am I to tell a straight guy what's appropriate sex?
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    Nov 23, 2015 3:32 PM GMT
    Cuddling is a gay code word for "I will spoon with you or lie very close to you with my head on your chest or yours on mine and gently caress your body in the hope that it turns into sex."
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    Nov 25, 2015 12:03 PM GMT
    I love cuddling.