How can I know if I'm a top, bottom or versatile?

  • anthonybs

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    Nov 21, 2015 4:28 PM GMT
    Just for the record, so far I've only had sex twice.Before doing anything sexual, I used to imagine how I was a bottom and how much I liked feeling powerless in some strong masculine top's hands. But during my first time, it felt painful and not as pleasant as I'd been imagining it. But the thought of being a top doesn't turn me on at all. I do get turned on by watching porn videos and hot beefcakes and I'm totally gay but still, I can't truly say what I like better. Can anyone give me any advice? Thank you.
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    Nov 21, 2015 4:34 PM GMT
    The first time is a bit uncomfortable. Bottoming for your first time is better if the top is patient and understanding and copious lube is applied.

    Also, there is more to gay sex than tops and bottoms. Try not to limit yourself. Versatile is the way to go. However, over time you will find you may top more than bottom or vice versa.
  • anthonybs

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    Nov 21, 2015 4:40 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidThe first time is a bit uncomfortable. Bottoming for your first time is better if the top is patient and understanding and copious lube is applied.

    Also, there is more to gay sex than tops and bottoms. Try not to limit yourself. Versatile is the way to go. However, over time you will find you may top more than bottom or vice versa.


    Thank you. I guess it's all about the emotions and how the guy treats you.