I NEED A RELATIONSHIP GUYS

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    Nov 23, 2015 6:47 AM GMT
    I been single for years and for me it's not a nice feeling. Is there any guy that feels the same? Please contact me.
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    Nov 23, 2015 7:37 AM GMT
    I know these feels. I nvr have dated a guy before or been on a date. Last time I was in a relationship with a girl was like 7 years ago when I was in high school. Honestly I don't really even know what its like to be in a relationship or anything like that.
  • Ironman4U

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    Nov 23, 2015 2:03 PM GMT
    Some friendly advice...by saying you "need" a relationship and soliciting folks to contact you, you come across as desperate and needy which is not going to attract anyone (except maybe other desperate and needy guys).

    I get it. You want to be in a relationship. You're lonely. You want someone to complete you. But you're going about it the wrong way. If you don't enjoy being alone with yourself, who else will? Work on yourself, develop relationships with other folks (make friends), get yourself out there and engaged in the world doing things you enjoy. Find and express your passion and find others who share that same enthusiasm.

    What kind of man do you want to attract? Would that kind of man be attracted to you? Do you offer all the things you want from someone else? If not, there is more work to do.

    Also, it doesn't hurt to believe that you will find the right someone when the time is right. Don't give in to a defeatist attitude of "it's never going to happen." If you do, you're probably right.
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    Nov 23, 2015 3:28 PM GMT
    i can see how the OP (claims he is 40yr old) NEEDS a relationship. Its a good stable time in a gay man's life.

    He is fearless to post this on realjock dot com
  • Destinharbor

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    Nov 23, 2015 4:10 PM GMT
    Ironman4U saidSome friendly advice...by saying you "need" a relationship and soliciting folks to contact you, you come across as desperate and needy which is not going to attract anyone (except maybe other desperate and needy guys).

    I get it. You want to be in a relationship. You're lonely. You want someone to complete you. But you're going about it the wrong way. If you don't enjoy being alone with yourself, who else will? Work on yourself, develop relationships with other folks (make friends), get yourself out there and engaged in the world doing things you enjoy. Find and express your passion and find others who share that same enthusiasm.

    What kind of man do you want to attract? Would that kind of man be attracted to you? Do you offer all the things you want from someone else? If not, there is more work to do.

    Also, it doesn't hurt to believe that you will find the right someone when the time is right. Don't give in to a defeatist attitude of "it's never going to happen." If you do, you're probably right.

    Well said. Good advice.
  • NerdLifter

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    Nov 23, 2015 4:30 PM GMT
    Ironman4U saidSome friendly advice...by saying you "need" a relationship and soliciting folks to contact you, you come across as desperate and needy which is not going to attract anyone (except maybe other desperate and needy guys).

    I get it. You want to be in a relationship. You're lonely. You want someone to complete you. But you're going about it the wrong way. If you don't enjoy being alone with yourself, who else will? Work on yourself, develop relationships with other folks (make friends), get yourself out there and engaged in the world doing things you enjoy. Find and express your passion and find others who share that same enthusiasm.

    What kind of man do you want to attract? Would that kind of man be attracted to you? Do you offer all the things you want from someone else? If not, there is more work to do.

    Also, it doesn't hurt to believe that you will find the right someone when the time is right. Don't give in to a defeatist attitude of "it's never going to happen." If you do, you're probably right.

    These are words of wisdom ^^^ Summed up all my thoughts and experiences on the matter quite tactfully.
  • btm7969

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    Nov 23, 2015 5:06 PM GMT
    I wouldn't say I need as much as I would love to be in a relationship with someone who will give me the love I have for him.
  • JackNNJ

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    Nov 23, 2015 11:22 PM GMT
    You need a relationship like Rachel Maddow needs a rock hard cock.
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    Nov 24, 2015 2:14 AM GMT
    JackNNJ saidYou need a relationship like Rachel Maddow needs a rock hard cock.


    I think Rachel already has a rock hard cock... lol.
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    Nov 24, 2015 5:34 AM GMT
    JackNNJ saidYou need a relationship like Rachel Maddow needs a rock hard cock.


    Are you jealous Rachel's more of a man than you are? Seriously, what's your malfunction? Umbilical cord wrapped around your neck at birth, doctors never bothered to remove it?
  • FirstLast

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    Nov 24, 2015 9:54 AM GMT
    Hi Major and everyone else. I appreciate what Ironman discussed, but here I am having lived to the age of 49 and I see we have a cultural problem:

    1. in the gay community that "once a man hits 30-years of age, he is disposable and holds no value for the other men that only worship youth."

    2. In general, (no particular sexual orientation), our society has problems when friends/family/spouses are all sitting across one another at a table and not talking, but they pay more attention to their phones and human communication. It seems that the latest technologies are meant to keep people from having sincere and respectful communications instead they create barriers to communication.

    Our future is NOW, so the fact that Major sincerely wants a relationship NOW is just fine by me. If he does not actively seek and pursue it, then let's be honest. How many of us earned a college degree by denying a passion to learn new skills and actively pursue them each and every course we took?

    I concur that life is passing me by and I cannot comprehend why I should have to live alone as it all seems so pointless. Over the decades, starting around the late 1980s, I began putting online advertisements on gay dating sites and here I am decades later still feeling lonely. I have invested decades into writing countless thousands of notes per year and at this point, I have a complete recognition that I am more likely to live my life alone than to ever find my Mr. Right.

    No matter the sexual orientation, I see so many men cheating on their spouses (male or female).

    Ironman, "good things" do not happen because people just procrastinate into wonderful scenarios, it is an active and sincere pursuit each day to make positive efforts for positive results. I saw that, but I remain alone.

    I wish you well on finding your Mr. Right. At least be true to yourself and I would encourage you to actively pursue REASONABLE EXPECTATIONS FOR YOUR MR. Right.

    Best wishes,
    B
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    Nov 24, 2015 4:30 PM GMT
    I don't understand this whole "need" for another person. You don't "need" a relationship. Relationships are a luxurey for some, and for the vast majority of gay men a distant dream that are only found in the gay fairy tales.



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    Nov 24, 2015 7:30 PM GMT
    Mesmer saidI don't understand this whole "need" for another person. You don't "need" a relationship. Relationships are a luxurey for some, and for the vast majority of gay men a distant dream that are only found in the gay fairy tales.

    So did you finally dump your boyfriend?
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    Nov 24, 2015 9:05 PM GMT
    Thank you guys for commenting on my topic. I was hoping that,I will get a response from guys who understtand what am going through. I think most gay guys are so good at giving advice other than being realistic. Anyway if there is a guy out tthere that's looking for a serious relationship please do contact me.
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    Nov 25, 2015 11:36 AM GMT
    Major saidThank you guys for commenting on my topic. I was hoping that,I will get a response from guys who understtand what am going through. I think most gay guys are so good at giving advice other than being realistic. Anyway if there is a guy out tthere that's looking for a serious relationship please do contact me.


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    Nov 25, 2015 2:12 PM GMT
    What is interracial dating central? @ Boaxe
  • Apparition

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    Nov 28, 2015 1:55 AM GMT
    nobody gets to be lonely or needy or "not in a relationship" until they get off their ass and ask out 100 guys in person if need be, on a first date. Nobody is going to come to you, everyone wants to be asked out like a girl. Start asking. And not "anyone want to date" I mean. Hey steve...would you go to coffee with me on 7th street tuesday kinda asking.