I feel really lost and trapped in my career/work life

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    Nov 24, 2015 3:46 AM GMT
    I'm 25 and I do sales and marketing for a small sign company. I work for my friend (yes, my straight friend who I'm in love with and is basically the main reason why I started working there in the first place) and there are 2 other employees.

    I will FINALLY be graduating with my Bachelor's in Business Management this coming spring. I originally wanted to be a pharmacist, then a Physician Assistant, and I'm pretty sure a few other things. I switch/transferred schools a million times and took some semesters off in between.

    I ended up settling with a business degree for now, because it's easy for me and I just want to graduation with SOMETHING. I figured I can always go back to school for something else after if I really want to.

    I do enjoy my job now (and no, not just because I work with my friend). It's not really a stressful job, and since there's only 4 of us all day, it's a lot of fun and a very laid-back environment.

    There may be potential to make decent money down the road, but right now, I wouldn't be able to live off of this salary if I ever want to move out of my Mom's house. I'm afraid of my student loans as well, which I'll be paying back come May (probably 50-60k total).

    I still feel like I might want to go into the medical field, and was contemplating a 2-year Radiologic Technician program. I know money isn't everything, but I want to at least make a pretty comfortable living. I'd like to own a nice house one day, go on vacations, and maybe even have a vacation home one day, etc.

    The only thing is that I am just so burnt out from school, I don't know if I have the mental stamina to take any more classes anytime soon after I graduate.

    Any tips/advice? Should I make the best of my business degree and just look for a job after I graduate?

    My Mom works for a big hospital system here on Long Island, and she could potentially get me a job in the business end of the hospital. They also pay for you to go back to school to get your Master's in Healthcare Administration. So that's always an option.
  • mystery905

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    Nov 24, 2015 4:28 AM GMT
    If you like where you are working now, is there a chance of future advancement that might allow you to earn sufficient income to move into your own place?

    If so, what kind is the timing of this, and can you wait that long?

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    Nov 24, 2015 1:50 PM GMT
    mystery905 saidIf you like where you are working now, is there a chance of future advancement that might allow you to earn sufficient income to move into your own place?

    If so, what kind is the timing of this, and can you wait that long?

    Well, my friend's business that I work for is part of a franchise. There's always the chance of getting a job in corporate, although I'm not sure how I'd like that. I might enjoy it though.

    As far as staying at my current job, there is a decent earning potential for me, as we are already growing in the past 2.5 years since my friend/boss took over as the owner. However, it could take a few more years or possibly more for me to take home a decent amount.

    I think he plans on giving me a raise after I graduate, because he really wants me to stay with him. I guess I'll have to see exactly how much that is. I get a base weekly salary, and then 10% commission at the end of the month.
  • 24hourguy

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    Nov 24, 2015 1:57 PM GMT
    I have a friend who hates his job but he's been there too long to be able to make any kind of change without taking a serious pay-cut (not to mention getting out of his comfort zone). Our conversations usually go something like this; "8-years, 7 months and 28 days until I can be happy"....how awful.

    You are still plenty young enough to change course. Take a job bar-tending for a couple years while you contemplate what you like. Life is too short to spend it doing something you hate
  • Nhlakz

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    Nov 24, 2015 2:37 PM GMT
    Its not only u who is afraid of the future..but i'd advice u to get into what u really love...being young and under pressure to make a name for ourselves can b emotionally draining...u need to remember thatsome people in todays world are employed by small businesses..
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Nov 24, 2015 3:23 PM GMT
    You may want to go into some deep introspection here. The decisions you are about to make are likely to have far-reaching consequences for your future.

    Basically, you want to honestly answer one question.

    Do you want to have a stressful, turbocharged career that will pay your loan, buy you a house + vacation home; give you lots for discretionary spending, etc.?

    Or would you rather have 'a laid-back, take-it-easy life' surrounded by your friendly folks, while possibly struggling to make the ends meet in view of the your loan, etc.?

    Regretfully, there are very few, if any mid-way options available these days. We made it to the winner-takes-it-all society long time ago. That's how it is...

    Some people have very little difficulties with this choice. If you know yourself, you know what is the right thing to do.

    I went for the kill. It was a horrific ride at times, and many people around me burnt out completely. I did not. And got to reap the many benefits.icon_biggrin.gif

    Choose wisely!

  • josephmovie

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    Nov 24, 2015 5:57 PM GMT
    I'm older than you so I'm not going to hit you with the "do what you love advice". If I were you I'd go where the money is. You already have substantial debt and you need to get it paid off as soon as you can, otherwise it is going to be very difficult for you to get a house of your own, let alone a holiday home and a stack of money for discretionary spending.

    Having said all that, do try and choose something that is in your field of interest. If you don't know what that is then, like I said, just go for the money.