those of ya'll in LTR's: how/when did u know he was "the one"?

  • rnch

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    Feb 03, 2009 5:10 PM GMT
    i think i have a "keeper" with this guy.. a RN/EMT who "gets" my off the wall jokes and humor, after 9 months together we use the "L" word sober and clothed on each other, he puts up with my mood swings, i sleep as well next to him as i do alone, he's introduced me to his close friends, we've exchanged house keys, in spite of being smarter, taller, and better looking than I am and from a prominent new orleans family WAYY above my modest family's social circle he keeps coming back for more of me.....

    how/when did you know u had a "keeper"?

    lifeitsownself ain't as easy as it appears on the LOGO channel, lol
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 03, 2009 5:13 PM GMT
    Well there has only been one for me and in the beginning (10 years ago),
    I was clueless, except for the fact he put up with my attacking him
    sexually for hours on end.

    What clued me in was that he cared, I could tell it and it meant something to him. I remember our first Christmas together in 1998 and what he did..
    one of his gifts was he has a star named after me. We have issues and problems, but he's grounded, sincere and has never screwed me over (and he could have).
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    Feb 03, 2009 5:32 PM GMT
    When I found him outside, next to my car, with flecks of silver across his lips and the chrome missing from my muffler. icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 03, 2009 5:38 PM GMT
    rnch saidhow/when did you know u had a "keeper"?


    When I looked into his heart and saw only good there, and realized I was happy & content with him. I do laundry lists about everything else, but not about love. It either is, or it isn't, one of the few times I let my own heart decide, and the rest of me follows after.
  • Latenight30

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    Feb 03, 2009 9:13 PM GMT
    how he has stuck by me. 7 years since I met him in Atlanta this feb 20th. We've moved more times than most and are happier now then ever before. I love him. I didn't know if he was the one, I just never left and he never kicked me out. I do remeber laying next to him, listening to him sleep and I would whisper I love you!
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    Feb 04, 2009 1:02 AM GMT
    Every time I see him he fills my heart with joy and makes me feel fuzzy and warm inside, I don't see myself with anybody other than him icon_rolleyes.gif.
  • ueatzit

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    Feb 04, 2009 1:14 AM GMT
    Yeesh there are too many to list. But to distill it down to a few key points...

    We sleep each night in the same bed, and we fall asleep snuggled up next to each other after chatting and recounting why we're grateful to have each other. This has been going on from six months into our relationship until now, eight years later.

    We fight for things that are important to us as individuals but also know when we're pushing the other too far. In the end the respect and appreciation you give comes roaring back at you. Treat your guy like how you'd like to be treated while knowing he is an individual and isn't going to do and be everything you want him to be but isn't.

    He can make me laugh, and melt, no matter how upset I am.

    He's the one because time and time again he's proven that he loves me and wants the best for me even when I don't believe in myself or mess up.

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    Feb 04, 2009 2:59 AM GMT

    Hey rnch,

    Here's a topic that can help you....you never did come back to it...



    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/397189
  • styrgan

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    Feb 04, 2009 3:01 AM GMT
    We've seriously done this thread like five times since I've been on RJ.
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    Feb 04, 2009 6:09 AM GMT
    awwwwwwwwwwww....

    For me I knew the one when i couldnt stop thinking about him, id fantasize about being in his arms. Sure sex would be hot with the guy but that wasnt it. When you have a fight and try to get away from him for a bit, there are these weird signs that point to him and dont let you forget him.

    When you sort of cry because he did something sweet for you.
    When you talk about a future family with him.


    When the word love is more then you ever thought it would be.
  • rnch

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    Feb 04, 2009 12:55 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Hey rnch,

    Here's a topic that can help you....you never did come back to it...



    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/397189
    oops! forgot abojut this thread! my bad....icon_redface.gif
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    Mar 02, 2009 11:38 PM GMT
    As many will recall from other threads, I'm the RJ Resident LTR...40 years this coming November 1.

    Ed & I met in a bar in Jacksonville, Florida, that I had been to previously. Although I'd never had much "luck" there, on that particular night, there were at least five guys that caught my eye. Dilemmas, dilemmas...which one do I pick? I'll take the closest one, and if that doesn't work, I'll move on to the next! The closest one is now my partner. We went home together, had a lot of fun; exchanged telephone numbers and addresses, and the next morning I headed back to my home town thinking "that was really fun, but I'll never hear from him again." I was wrong. Ed wrote me a "thank you" note and said he would like to see me again. We got together again the following weekend, and the one after that and the one after that...

    At this point in the story, it's still all physical, and we're getting to know each other. Neither of us has shown the dealbreaker card to the other, so, after six weeks, I bought us matching rings. Two months later, we moved in together. Still learning and growing together. After a year, we bought a small house. Soon thereafter work caused me to move away. For one and a half years, we survived the long distance, although the telephone company made windfall profits from us.

    He joined me in Fort Lauderdale, and somewhere along the line, we fell in love, and I couldn't begin to tell you when. The passion stayed strong for a long time, and then life got in the way and we began mellowing. We evolved and our love evolved.

    Although I've visited this thread multiple times, and have thought about chiming in, my answer didn't seem like the fairy tale everyone would expect. Then this past weekend I visited my 91 year old mother and posed the question to her...she and Dad were married 62 years when he passed away a long time ago.

    Mom and Dad were from neighboring smasll towns in central Florida. Dad saw her for the first time at an annual carnival, and told the guys he was with "That's the girl I'm going to marry!" He learned her name and that she did theater rehearsals after school; he went by after the rehearsal, introduced himself and asked to take her home. She told me that she at first didn't want anything to do with him because he was such "a nerd". Every day for two months he met her after practice and asked to take her home. She finally gave in and allowed him to take her home. They started dating and she learned more about him...that he was quite the gentleman, very ambitious. A year later they were married. Somewhere along the line she fell in love with him and wonders to this day how she happened to get so dumb lucky!