As many will recall from other threads, I'm the RJ Resident LTR...40 years this coming November 1.
Ed & I met in a bar in Jacksonville, Florida, that I had been to previously. Although I'd never had much "luck" there, on that particular night, there were at least five guys that caught my eye. Dilemmas, dilemmas...which one do I pick? I'll take the closest one, and if that doesn't work, I'll move on to the next! The closest one is now my partner. We went home together, had a lot of fun; exchanged telephone numbers and addresses, and the next morning I headed back to my home town thinking "that was really fun, but I'll never hear from him again." I was wrong. Ed wrote me a "thank you" note and said he would like to see me again. We got together again the following weekend, and the one after that and the one after that...
At this point in the story, it's still all physical, and we're getting to know each other. Neither of us has shown the dealbreaker card to the other, so, after six weeks, I bought us matching rings. Two months later, we moved in together. Still learning and growing together. After a year, we bought a small house. Soon thereafter work caused me to move away. For one and a half years, we survived the long distance, although the telephone company made windfall profits from us.
He joined me in Fort Lauderdale, and somewhere along the line, we fell in love, and I couldn't begin to tell you when. The passion stayed strong for a long time, and then life got in the way and we began mellowing. We evolved and our love evolved.
Although I've visited this thread multiple times, and have thought about chiming in, my answer didn't seem like the fairy tale everyone would expect. Then this past weekend I visited my 91 year old mother and posed the question to her...she and Dad were married 62 years when he passed away a long time ago.
Mom and Dad were from neighboring smasll towns in central Florida. Dad saw her for the first time at an annual carnival, and told the guys he was with "That's the girl I'm going to marry!" He learned her name and that she did theater rehearsals after school; he went by after the rehearsal, introduced himself and asked to take her home. She told me that she at first didn't want anything to do with him because he was such "a nerd". Every day for two months he met her after practice and asked to take her home. She finally gave in and allowed him to take her home. They started dating and she learned more about him...that he was quite the gentleman, very ambitious. A year later they were married. Somewhere along the line she fell in love with him and wonders to this day how she happened to get so dumb lucky!