Perhaps not necessarily gay, but at least human...

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    Oct 07, 2007 1:08 AM GMT
    Guys, Occassionally, I will make a faux-pas in the way I state something or a generalization which I make. It may take the form of something which is (or at least appears to be) racist, ageist, etc, etc.

    Please do not take offense. None is intended. It may be mere ignorance on my part (I don't claim to be omnicient), or may be based on past experience, or it may be my age, as I grew up in a different time, when attitudes were different, generalizations were made, and many people were hurt because of them. Having lived in a foreign country, I have learned to value the differences inherent in humanity, because as is so often pointed out, we are greater than the sum of our parts.

    If someone feels the need to humiliate me as just recompense for inadvertently humiliating them, that's fine. THAT I can deal with, though I wish that you would contact me personally and point out my faux-pas.

    I remember having dinner with a man much older than me, and he offended a young female waitress by using a term of endearment (common during his days as an adult, and my days as a child and adolescent).

    Have any of you had such an experience when offense was taken and not meant by you? How did you feel when you were called on the carpet for that?

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    Oct 07, 2007 4:23 AM GMT
    Welcome to humanism. LOL. I, and everyone I know, has done the faux-pas thing a few times.
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    Oct 07, 2007 11:27 AM GMT
    Not me. Never. I always say exactly the right thing
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    Oct 07, 2007 8:58 PM GMT
    Sometimes the faux-pas isn't yours, it's on the person who misinterpreted something you said or did.

    I used to work for the California 5-a-day campaign, and we all had these silly paper fold-out fruits or vegetables above our desks. Because I was the administrative assistant for the group, people were always looking for me, so I had a paper carrot hanging above my desk pointing straight down.

    We were in a state building, surrounded by lots of other people in a maze of cubicles, so the carrot came in handy for visitors.

    One woman I wasn't acquainted with apparently had heard that I was gay, and interpreted the carrot in some bizarre sexual way. She actually came to my desk and said "You should take that carrot down, I know what it's about and that's just disgusting. I should report you to Human Resources!"

    My response: "Ma'am, it's a carrot. I don't know what you do with it that makes you think it's disgusting, but I chop it up and put it in salad."

    Never heard from her again.
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    Oct 08, 2007 1:31 AM GMT
    About the carrot & the woman-thing...

    She only thinks it's disgusting because it's bigger than HER carrot. icon_twisted.gif