Life in Los Angeles???

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    Nov 27, 2015 6:12 PM GMT
    I moved from Atlanta to Dallas, TX after college to work for a consulting firm. We have a lot of offices across the US.

    So, I was thinking about relocating to either NYC or LA.
    But I am more set on LA.
    I actually never been to LA myself, but I did visit NYC.
    Just wondering what's life out there in LA as a gay (black) man and if it's easy to get acquainted.
    Any advice or experience welcomed. Thanks y'all.
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    Nov 27, 2015 6:56 PM GMT
    What do you mean by "get acquainted?" It's easy to get acquainted with anyone, becoming friends is a different story, especially in LA.

    Why are you set on LA? I'm sure you've heard it before, but LA (and SoCal in general) is very superficial.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Nov 27, 2015 6:59 PM GMT
    swimjammer saidWhat do you mean by "get acquainted?" It's easy to get acquainted with anyone, becoming friends is a different story, especially in LA.

    Why are you set on LA? I'm sure you've heard it before, but LA (and SoCal in general) is very superficial.
    So are all the other US coastal locales like San Francisco, New York City, Boston, and Miami.
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    Nov 27, 2015 7:18 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob said
    swimjammer saidWhat do you mean by "get acquainted?" It's easy to get acquainted with anyone, becoming friends is a different story, especially in LA.

    Why are you set on LA? I'm sure you've heard it before, but LA (and SoCal in general) is very superficial.
    So are all the other US coastal locales like San Francisco, New York City, Boston, and Miami.

    Yes, but he was specifically asking about LA. Have you seen all the hot bodies down here?
  • tj85016

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    Nov 27, 2015 7:46 PM GMT
    having lived in New York for a long time and LA for 3-4 years (well, Santa Monica and Hermosa Beach), I would opt for NYC - especially as a black gay guy

    but LA is a lot cheaper than NYC (Manhattan) - other than within 3/4 of a mile of high tide, most of LA is a cesspool - but other than Manhattan, parts of Brooklyn, NYC can be pretty crummy also

    NY doesn't require a car, LA definitely does

    NY is more "urban" generally landscape-wise

    a lot depends on your nature and what you hope to do, find, explore, etc

  • roadbikeRob

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    Nov 27, 2015 11:58 PM GMT
    Another drawback of LA is the earthquake risk since it is situated in the Pacific Ring of Fire, a massive region of geologic instability and volcanic activity. The Hollywood Fault is becoming something to be very concerned about because of the Seismic stress building up on it. This LA Area fault line is due for a major rupture in the near future. Something to consider.
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 28, 2015 1:08 AM GMT
    Yep, watch out for them earthquakes!!! Haha!! I'm glad they keep so many nutbags from moving here...

    What we DON'T have, and which annually cause much more death and destruction in other parts of the country than all LA earthquakes in my lifetime put together have caused here:

    Hurricanes
    Tornadoes
    Blizzards
    Ice storms
    Floods
    Lightning (except for extremely rare occurrences)
    Mosquitoes (no encephalitis or West Nile fever worries here)

    But to address the OP's specific concern...

    The LA gay black community is large enough that there are regular events specific to that population. I've known quite a number of black men who play in the gay flag football league. Some of them date other black men and some date almost exclusively white men, so whatever your preference is, there seem to be people here that would be interested in you. And you won't find near as much prejudice here as you're probably accustomed to dealing with in Texas.

    Plus, the weather's a whole lot better here than in New York. And our sewers are alligator-free.
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    Nov 28, 2015 1:30 PM GMT
    Los Angeles is a great city - great food, great beaches, lots to do outdoors all year. It's easy to meet people if you put yourself out there.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Nov 28, 2015 4:44 PM GMT
    I have lived in both. I still have 75% of my family scattered in New York.

    I wouldn't leave Los Angeles.

    I will say the food is much much better (NY and long island).

    Also, research the area you want to live before making the jump,there are drawbacks & bonuses to towns/villages/areas in both cities.
  • Artdoorsman

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    Nov 28, 2015 5:13 PM GMT
    Being gay in Los Angeles is something nobody even bats an eye at. Of course I don't have any idea how it is to be a gay black man, so take my response for what it is.
    It probably depends on the area you live in. You may not know, but LA is EXTREMELY spread out and marbled with good and bad areas.
    There's anything you could possibly want to do here, and yeah, there's a high level of superficiality, but as with anywhere, you need to be selective about the people you surround yourself with.

    Now NYC is an awesome place, much easier to get around, much easier to meet people because people are constantly out doing things and walking/using public transportation (whereas in LA you're in your house, in a vehicle, in your destination, back in your vehicle.. which makes it hard to approach strangers).

    I've never lived in NYC and LA isn't where I want to spend my live, but I'm sure you can find a happy environment in either.
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 28, 2015 6:50 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 said
    bro4bro said And you won't find near as much prejudice here as you're probably accustomed to dealing with in Texas.


    Totally ludicrous remark from the liberal, elite leftist on the "enlightened" west coast.


    I moved to California from Texas, you fucking nutbag. I knew people there who still told "nigger jokes".
  • bro4bro

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    Nov 29, 2015 12:26 AM GMT
    Here's some "evidence" for ya...

    a) I said people in Texas are more prejudiced against blacks than people in Los Angeles.

    b) I've lived in both Texas and Los Angeles.

    and

    c) You're a fucking nutbag.

    No "anger management" needed because it wasn't said in anger (in fact I was pretty much laughing).

    Seriously, do you think ANYONE on or off this site would dispute that claim? If so, produce your witness.

    Case closed.
  • Sincityfan

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    Nov 29, 2015 3:32 AM GMT
    "If I didn't want to have life I'd move to L.A."
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    Nov 29, 2015 4:18 AM GMT
    IF you want sun, beach, tan, cute tall guys fit culture, then go to LA. Do you like driving or get stuck in traffic or the LA Hollywood scene?? There's a gay Blacks night at Club Rage in WeHo every Sunday. I've been there twice. As far as NYC goes, I think it's too much of everything, too expensive, too cold weather, too fast-paced, and living in SoCal, I'm accustomed to the nice weather here in SoCal. I lived in LA in the past, there's a strong presence of a gay black community in the area. Go for it.
  • TroyAthlete

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    Nov 29, 2015 1:59 PM GMT
    FollowingRivers saidI moved from Atlanta to Dallas, TX after college to work for a consulting firm. We have a lot of offices across the US.

    So, I was thinking about relocating to either NYC or LA.
    But I am more set on LA.
    I actually never been to LA myself, but I did visit NYC.
    Just wondering what's life out there in LA as a gay (black) man and if it's easy to get acquainted.
    Any advice or experience welcomed. Thanks y'all.


    Message me. Los Angeles is a great town with a lot of opportunity, but not nearly all that it's cracked up to be, especially in terms of race relations in the gay community. L.A. gays tend to be, on average, much LESS inclusive and integrated than gays in other cities, I think due to the superficiality and white-is-better attitude of the fashion and entertainment industries centered here. Black and Asian gays tend to be more isolated here than in other comparable cities -- NYC, Chicago, London, San Francisco, Copenhagen, Paris etc. The gay community in L.A. is shockingly segregated and racially hostile, much more so even than the straight, Southern communities in which I grew up. If you're white (either of non-Hispanic or Hispanic descent) and decently-attractive, you'll have guys falling all over you here. Otherwise, getting a group of reliable gay friends can be tough. And there are exceptions, of course, but I'm speaking in generalities.

    That said, L.A. does have its perks and many wonderful attributes -- as long as you do not get hung up on socializing in Hollywood and West Hollywood, or on impressing other people, comparing yourself to others, and looking outside yourself for validation. Message me.
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    Nov 29, 2015 10:11 PM GMT
    FollowingRivers saidI moved from Atlanta to Dallas, TX after college to work for a consulting firm. We have a lot of offices across the US.

    So, I was thinking about relocating to either NYC or LA.
    But I am more set on LA.
    I actually never been to LA myself, but I did visit NYC.
    Just wondering what's life out there in LA as a gay (black) man and if it's easy to get acquainted.
    Any advice or experience welcomed. Thanks y'all.

    Come out to LA and spend a week or two here. It's a large city. And there are many neighborhoods and cities that surround LA.

    The thing is, the sprawl is what makes LA great and not so great. There's something for everyone. But not everyone has the patience to go out and explore the land.

    Yes, there are fake people here. But the reality is, these fake people are transplants trying to reinvent themselves in a new city. The LA natives are chill as fuck and will be the best people to show you around and help you find your way.
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    Nov 30, 2015 1:48 AM GMT
    The WEHO glam life is no longer affordable and that's not a big deal. Drugged out drama queens/elite wanna be's and the other hot mess!

    The beach, sand and sun still rule.

    No water other than salt. But who cares?

    I love my coastal beach going fun!!

    Welcome to SO CAL!

  • 24hourguy

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    Nov 30, 2015 4:25 AM GMT
    I like the idea of LA more than the reality of LA, but that applies to all of Southern California for me; great place IF you got $$$ and lots of it....otherwise it's a struggle
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    Nov 30, 2015 5:44 AM GMT
    Some time when you have the flu, and are layed out on the couch, watch some of those old movies from the 30's and 40's and pay attention to the background. LA really was paradise once upon a time. Then the fuckers mowed it all down and covered it all up with asphalt. icon_cry.gif

    My friend's Mom once told me, "Oh, you could always tell when the train was pulling in to Los Angeles... you could smell the orange blossoms." W. T. F. icon_confused.gif

    The problem is, any particular paradise is never big enough for everybody.
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    Nov 30, 2015 6:41 PM GMT
    24hourguy saidI like the idea of LA more than the reality of LA, but that applies to all of Southern California for me; great place IF you got $$$ and lots of it....otherwise it's a struggle


    yep, your description reminds me of "Hotel California"

    it's alluring, but once you're there for a while, it tends to be a hellhole
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    Dec 01, 2015 3:58 AM GMT
    24hourguy saidI like the idea of LA more than the reality of LA, but that applies to all of Southern California for me; great place IF you got $$$ and lots of it....otherwise it's a struggle

    This is such a myth. It's only expensive if you choose to live in the expensive parts of LA and have a lavish lifestyle on top of that.
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    Dec 01, 2015 4:00 AM GMT
    azure1000 saidWhite guys in America tend to stick with other white gay men. I've asked this too , but slot of white gay men in L.A don't want to admit it,But I guess americans don't like to admit things like that. In America gay white guy will look at me and approach me more than other types of men also.

    All the white guys in LA loooove light skinned Latinos like you. If you come visit, it will be a non-stop dick parade. icon_lol.gif
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    Dec 01, 2015 9:08 PM GMT
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    24hourguy saidI like the idea of LA more than the reality of LA, but that applies to all of Southern California for me; great place IF you got $$$ and lots of it....otherwise it's a struggle

    This is such a myth. It's only expensive if you choose to live in the expensive parts of LA and have a lavish lifestyle on top of that.
    How can that be a myth when most people who move to coastal big city locales end up struggling regardless whether they live in the ritzy areas or in the ghettos.icon_question.gif
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    xrichx said
    24hourguy saidI like the idea of LA more than the reality of LA, but that applies to all of Southern California for me; great place IF you got $$$ and lots of it....otherwise it's a struggle
    This is such a myth. It's only expensive if you choose to live in the expensive parts of LA and have a lavish lifestyle on top of that.

    You can buy a house and live much more cheaply in some beautiful rural area of Idaho. But of course there are no jobs there and it's deadly boring and the weather sucks compared to LA (and Idaho has been invaded by lots of Mormons). Places are expensive because they're popular and lots of people want to live there.
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    Dec 02, 2015 6:47 AM GMT
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    xrichx said
    24hourguy saidI like the idea of LA more than the reality of LA, but that applies to all of Southern California for me; great place IF you got $$$ and lots of it....otherwise it's a struggle

    This is such a myth. It's only expensive if you choose to live in the expensive parts of LA and have a lavish lifestyle on top of that.
    How can that be a myth when most people who move to coastal big city locales end up struggling regardless whether they live in the ritzy areas or in the ghettos.icon_question.gif

    There's more to LA than just downtown. Affordable housing exists. You might have to make some compromises, like commute a little more or take on a roommate. The ones that are struggling are just bad with money and make poor lifestyle decisions in general.

    If you're talking about buying a house, then yes that's more of a challenge. But not everyone is interested in being a homeowner.