Why Do You Think Men Choose To Escort?

  • NyRuinz

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    Nov 28, 2015 2:51 AM GMT
    I saw this thread on another message board. Most people felt the quick money was what attracted most men to this profession. I thought people who feel they lack skills, and are dealing with self esteem issues tend to escort. thoughts?
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    Nov 28, 2015 3:58 AM GMT
    The "profession" requires little formal training/education. Low startup capital. Most already come equipped with the required tools of the trade. You set your own hours. Work when you want. Be your own boss! Pay no taxes. All cash business.

    I don't judge.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Nov 28, 2015 4:45 AM GMT
    There is no universal answer to your question.

    Every dude is a story for himself.

    Yup. A few dudes are in it because it pays quick bucks, so that they can finance their lives (and possibly addictions) with relative ease.

    The others are in it because escorting can be easy. As Undercoverman pointed out, it does not take a degree in rocket science to start making cash on the fast if you choose to escort. I once met a guy who went into escorting to buy himself a very pricey car.icon_idea.gif

    I am sure that some guys get their thrills out of the fact that they are getting paid, i.e. undeniably recognized as being really worth something to someone. If you have low self-esteem issues, the fact that money speaks much louder than just words, may or may not work for you.

    I have two friends who are escorts. Both of them actually have very nice, regular jobs, and are pretty hottt dudes, too. Both of them say that the extra income comes in very handy with the expensive designer items, fancy holidays, and some emergency savings, too. They have been quietly escorting since their HS days, love NSA, m2m sex, feel that there is something attractive in every dude who is willing to spit out some serious cash for their services, etc..

    I have yet to meet an escort dude who is unaware of the fact that some dudes out there judge him, or do not approve of the choices he has made. Guys, save your breath. The escort dudes, porn actors, strip boys, etc., will keep on running their show regardless of what we or anyone else here has to say.icon_biggrin.gif.

    If they wanted to flip burgers at $9.00 per hour they would be doing that already.

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  • David3K

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    Nov 28, 2015 4:51 AM GMT
    There are several prostitutes in RJ, they should show up and share their own experiences.
  • justken

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    Nov 28, 2015 5:11 AM GMT
    I did it to put myself through school. Came from an immigrant family, didn't have much money, family chose to put a roof over our heads and meals on our table. there was no money for education.

    I was lucky in the sense i didn't grew up hideous and men found me attractive enough to pay for my services.

    And honestly its not the most glamorous job out there and there is some risk involved.
  • Import

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    Nov 28, 2015 5:22 AM GMT
    I find most escorts are usually guys with little to no education, poor family background, etc.. generally from a low-life/lower class background... usually have drug-addicted single moms, etc.

  • Webster666

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    Nov 28, 2015 7:59 AM GMT
    I've known 3 guys who were "escorts."
    All of them had a high sex drive, were very friendly, and could get it up, regardless of the attractiveness (or lack there of) of their clients.

    Why did they do it ?
    It was easy money, and they enjoyed the work.

    No, I wasn't a client.
    They were friends who just happened to be in the business.
    I thought it was fascinating, and something I couldn't do.
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    Nov 28, 2015 9:09 AM GMT
    Import saidI find most escorts are usually guys with little to no education, poor family background, etc.. generally from a low-life/lower class background... usually have drug-addicted single moms, etc.

    Interesting, and perhaps correct. I've had no contact with escorts and rent-boys, just run into the occasional bar hustler and gold-digger. I don't know what clientele they cultivate, but I wouldn't have someone escort ME who couldn't carry on a sophisticated conversation and present themselves with a degree of polish in front of my friends, associates & contacts.

    I know a politician who had a real mismatch of a BF, that we all thought was milking him for his money and business opportunities. No doubt the bedroom sex was good, it had to be something. But then, love is blind.

    And the pol insisted on bringing the BF to all his public functions. Which already was probably a mistake politically, given his older constituency with a more social conservative bent. Plus the BF was a not-too-bright, unrefined embarrassment under any circumstances, completely incompatible at fundraisers with very wealthy & successful potential donors.

    BTW, he lost that election. Ditched the BF and won his next election. Cause & effect? Who can say. But whether BF or escort, I think some men need to have a guy at their elbow who's a little more upscale that the model you describe.

    So I'm not sure if there aren't different "classes" of escorts. I can't imagine how your escort formula could work in all cases.
  • NyRuinz

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    Nov 28, 2015 5:46 PM GMT
    justken saidI did it to put myself through school. Came from an immigrant family, didn't have much money, family chose to put a roof over our heads and meals on our table. there was no money for education.

    I was lucky in the sense i didn't grew up hideous and men found me attractive enough to pay for my services.

    And honestly its not the most glamorous job out there and there is some risk involved.


    Thanks for this post! It's fascinating to hear different perspectives on why people do it. I remember meeting a guy who was honest, upfront and candid about him being an escort and his drug problems.

    Recently I met a guy, who I'm 100% sure is an escort. He had a great personality, but I don't think he wanted me to know what he did. He knew all of these rich and powerful gay men but according to him it was through training, yet training always took place in their homes.
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    Nov 28, 2015 6:05 PM GMT
    If I had legs, I'd do it. I could use some extra cash while I'm in grad school and tbh, I like nice things.
  • Muscles25

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    Nov 28, 2015 6:20 PM GMT
    Why do people go into banking? Being a cop? Real estate salesman?

    Leave your judgment at home.
  • Muscles25

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    Nov 28, 2015 6:22 PM GMT
    Import saidI find most escorts are usually guys with little to no education, poor family background, etc.. generally from a low-life/lower class background... usually have drug-addicted single moms, etc.



    What a judgmental asshole you sound like.

    Anyone who thinks being an escort is easy probably is a jerk.
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    Nov 28, 2015 6:24 PM GMT
    swimjammer saidIf I had legs, I'd do it. I could use some extra cash while I'm in grad school and tbh, I like nice things.

    Oh, I bet there are people out there that have a thing for a guy with no legs. I've heard of much weirder fetishes than that. And the law of supply and demand means you could charge top dollar.
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    Nov 28, 2015 6:31 PM GMT
    We could start a business right here on RJ of escorts suited to "different" tastes. We've got some fat guys, some old guys, some really tall guys, some really short guys, rude guys that would abuse the client, guys with no legs, guys with no brains. Maybe I could get one of those Obama entrepreneurship grants. Or go on Shark Tank.
  • NyRuinz

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    Nov 28, 2015 7:14 PM GMT
    Muscles25 saidWhy do people go into banking? Being a cop? Real estate salesman?

    Leave your judgment at home.


    You need to relax it's not that serious. If you put the above professions in the same category as escorting your delusional. Last time I checked working in a bank does not put you at high risk for contracting an std. I think you may have dibbled and dabbled in escorting in the past or present, and now your in your feelings because everyone does not see it as the ideal profession. I don't judge anyone for what they choose to do, however don't attack people because they don't think the way you do. I asked an honest question, and I'm getting honest answers.
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    Nov 28, 2015 7:14 PM GMT
    I can't see any benefits to escorting. No career advancement, you're likely to "age out" of the business. The only positive would be the quick cash.
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    Nov 28, 2015 7:19 PM GMT
    Geo46 saidI can't see any benefits to escorting. No career advancement, you're likely to "age out" of the business. The only positive would be the quick cash.
    not the safest way to get by.
  • BloodFlame

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    Nov 28, 2015 8:01 PM GMT
    It's pretty much the quick money. And really, I'm sure not all the clients are of the unappealing stereotype. On the woman front, I heard that quite a few of their clients ranged in attractiveness/appeal.

    But no, I definitely feel it's the money because a lot of the guys want to live either a comfortable lifestyle or a rich one (which is usually short-lived unless they are really sought after). I personally don't judge, especially in todays economy. I mean, I won't lie. I've thought about doing it so I could save the extra money towards a side business or something. But it's just too risky.

    And most escorts are well aware of the risks/potential dangers that they can get involved in with this line of work but most don't care.

    Geo46 saidI can't see any benefits to escorting. No career advancement, you're likely to "age out" of the business. The only positive would be the quick cash.


    The only benefit from escorting is financial gain (if they're smart with the money and don't blow it). But yeah, no career advancement. As for the "age out" thing, I've read some stories of escorts (both female and male) who still were able to keep the hustle going well into their 40s. Granted, I'm sure these people do things to stay in tip-top shape physically but regardless, some people can stay in that game for quite some time.
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    Nov 28, 2015 8:12 PM GMT
    Maybe because in America you'r expected to spend your entire life working at a job where you most likely will not make a very prominent impact on the world, thus making atypical jobs appear appealing.
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    Nov 28, 2015 8:38 PM GMT
    Geo46 saidI can't see any benefits to escorting. No career advancement, you're likely to "age out" of the business. The only positive would be the quick cash.

    I agree! Not the best career option.
  • wild_sky360

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    Nov 28, 2015 8:49 PM GMT
    Assuming the client and the escort are not a holes, that there is mutual respect; what's wrong with giving emotional and physical pleasure to someone who may not have another outlet? Is it really that much different than being wined/dined, gifted, kept? I'd think an escort would be getting something out of the arrangement too, besides the cash. Maybe he feels sexy and desirable.
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    Nov 28, 2015 9:56 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Geo46 saidI can't see any benefits to escorting. No career advancement, you're likely to "age out" of the business. The only positive would be the quick cash.


    By your argument then professional athletes shouldn't go into sports either. In fact, they "age out" at a much younger age than escorts.

    Escorts like Zeb Atlas are purported to make $500,000K a year. With that type of cash flow if you don't know how to invest it in order prepare for a secure future then that's a sign of poor self management.

    Your argument is pretty weak.
    Yes, if you are an average athlete, you would also think about your career choice. I doubt the average income among escorts is comparable to what athletes earn. Your exceptional ones don't count.

    Famous athletes have numerous ways to earn money. Advertisement and endorsements would be the biggest one that I can think off, and those aren't always related with sports.
  • NyRuinz

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    Nov 28, 2015 10:01 PM GMT
    I always thought people got in to escorting due to low self esteem. In their mind they believed that was their only option and skill.
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    Nov 28, 2015 10:29 PM GMT
    __morphic__ saidYes, if you are an average athlete, you would also think about your career choice. I doubt the average income among escorts is comparable to what athletes earn.

    I don't know how it works with football, basketball, soccer, etc. but with baseball they have these multiple tiers. At the top is the major league, what everyone knows about. Below that are the minor leagues, at the top AAA, below that is AA, and below that are more levels. I was wondering how much they make in the minor leagues and did a google search; the only thing I remember is an article about a lawsuit from some minor league players about how they make less than minimum wage when you account for the time they spend practicing, travel time to away games, and other stuff. I'd have thought that if they don't make it to the major leagues after a few baseball seasons that they'd move on to something else but many of them make a career out of it. And in the off season they can't be a high school or college baseball team coach because the minor league season starts before the school semester/quarter is over (and school baseball season ends when school gets out for summer), so their job during the off season is usually crappy.
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    Nov 28, 2015 10:31 PM GMT
    Beats working.