How do I attract younger men?


  • Nov 28, 2015 5:07 PM GMT
    I'm seeking younger men from 18 to 30 for companionship or more, but none of them seem to give me the time of day. My friends, who are close to my age, also have had no luck with anyone younger, unless the younger guys is really overweight or unattractive. Then I stumbled upon this site, where older men seem to report a lot of success getting younger guys... how do you people do it?

    Any advice will be much appreciated, thanks!
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    Nov 28, 2015 5:15 PM GMT
    Make a lot of money and then use that money to your advantage.
  • dilfforrent

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    Nov 28, 2015 5:19 PM GMT
    Yes it comes down to being generous. I've long since realized that the "success stories" here are just men angling to appear more desirable... a fake-it-till-you-make-it kind of scenario.
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    Nov 28, 2015 5:22 PM GMT
    Try being less ugly and less trollish. icon_lol.gif

  • Nov 28, 2015 7:28 PM GMT
    ?? What's your problem with me? You don't exactly look much better icon_mad.gif
  • BloodFlame

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    Nov 28, 2015 8:29 PM GMT
    Well, from what I've observed, the older men who are able to attract younger men fall into 3 categories.

    1. Rich. These men are usually the "generous" kind. Some young guys are attracted to well off men with money and well... Want a sugar daddy. The daddy provides them financial income, the young guy provides companionship and sex.

    2. The older man takes very good care of himself. Older men who work out and try to stay in shape can be quite attractive to younger men. Like, take this site for example, a lot of these big muscular guys are well into their 40s-50s-60s and show that aging doesn't have to deteriorate your body. And I think a lot of young guys admire that. I know I do.

    3. Pure luck. There are young guys who genuinely like older guys regardless if they are rich but I find that this one is very rare.

    But those are just my personal observations. One thing you need to do though is ask yourself this. When you were around these young guys' age (say 18-25), were you wanting a guy around your age? I know this sounds "ageist" but I'm just trying to be realistic. Chances are, you may have been looking for guys around your age. So you have to remember that. If a younger guy rejects you based on your age, yeah it sucks but you have to try to not take it personally. I say this because a lot of guys I tend to attract are men in their 50s-60s-70s and I'm just not looking for a guy who is 30+ years older.

    I did try to date a guy in his 50s back when I was like 21 or 22 and while I was attracted to him physically, we had no mental connection. We grew up in different eras and it was just hard to connect. So after that experience, I felt it was better to just try and date men around my age. And I feel a lot of younger guys are like this too unless they can really connect with an older guy.

    I wish I had some advice to give OP but I can't think of anything. I mean... You could try the bear community, you have the look of a bear and some young guys like that. Or you can just try and date men around your age. There are some very handsome, charismatic older men out there.

    Good luck OP.



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    Nov 28, 2015 8:31 PM GMT
    BOOOHOOO I feel so sorry for you
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 28, 2015 8:32 PM GMT
    pick up a street hustler ... some of them are looking for a sugar daddy to take care of them
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    Nov 28, 2015 8:40 PM GMT
    Get off your fat ass, get in shape, and take up an active sport that is enjoyed by both younger and older guys.

    Or continue stay lazy, get rich and buy a guy who doesn't love you.
  • buddycat

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    Nov 28, 2015 8:50 PM GMT
    First off all, some older men on this site are in amazing shape and may also be stable as well, which younger guys may be attracted to. If you refuse to be with someone like yourself, you need to make a lot of money. I had a friend (platonic) who made a lot of money and you would be surprised the men that would be with him for security reasons and he made their life easy.
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    Nov 28, 2015 10:19 PM GMT
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    Nov 28, 2015 10:34 PM GMT
    truth in some of the answers in here. You want young and beautiful? then you need to work for it. Nothing in this world is free. Complaining about wanting young and attractive when you are not in shape or finacially secure is like wanting a high paying job without going to school to put in the work.

    Sounds pretty harsh but in this world nothing is ever for free or handed to you for nothing.
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    Nov 29, 2015 4:40 AM GMT
    Look at pics of older/younger couples on this site and on other gay sites. You'll notice a common theme.
  • jostam32002

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    Nov 29, 2015 4:45 AM GMT
    would younger guys like my body?
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    Nov 29, 2015 4:56 AM GMT
    I think it's safe to say you're hitting on young guys or dudes that are way out of your league?? I'd say that do a combination of things, be active, be more sociable, just focus on your job, work and making a good life for yourself. Positive energy attract good guys. As far as age goes, just be open-minded and don't just stick to **I'd only fuck or sleep with a 20 yo.** icon_razz.gificon_redface.gificon_biggrin.gif GL
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    Nov 29, 2015 5:10 AM GMT
    buddycat saidFirst off all, some older men on this site are in amazing shape and may also be stable as well, which younger guys may be attracted to. If you refuse to be with someone like yourself, you need to make a lot of money. I had a friend (platonic) who made a lot of money and you would be surprised the men that would be with him for security reasons and he made their life easy.



    "First off all, some older men on this site are in amazing shape and may also be stable as well"

    You don't sound so sure of this part.

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    Nov 29, 2015 5:17 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidI'm seeking younger men from 18 to 30 for companionship or more, but none of them seem to give me the time of day. My friends, who are close to my age, also have had no luck with anyone younger, unless the younger guys is really overweight or unattractive. Then I stumbled upon this site, where older men seem to report a lot of success getting younger guys... how do you people do it?

    Any advice will be much appreciated, thanks!

    there are some people like me who prefer older guys like 10-20 years older than me. (20 years is the strict limit, last time I got cheated and slept with a guy who claimed to be a 48 years old, but he was really 57!)

    I think a guy at 45+ looks wiser and more attractive. look for sapiosexuals who prefer mind over body

    and no, never attract a younger guy with money. you can hire prostitute with that money instead. when I hooked up with an older guy, I expect them to treat me as an equal (paid my own bill, dinner, etc)

    hilariously enough, because I stayed at this guy place for few days during my trip, he expected me to pay his dinner, said it's part of courtesy when you are in holland (he was a dutch). it was unexpected and made me awkward because I spent like 100 euro something to visit his place, transportation cost in holland is expensive.

    I didn't expect that coming, but if I had known that, I would have not stayed at his place and look for other people which wouldn't break my wallet.

    I also had a hookup with a 49 years old guy and I found him very sexy despite being a bit chubby.

    different people have different taste, so maybe look someone with daddy issues but have enough dignity and intelligence so he is not a money boy perhaps?
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    Nov 29, 2015 5:27 AM GMT
    Younger men don't really like older men unless the older guy has money, that's just how it goes. Being in shape doesn't make a difference a lot of the time, because most men prefer someone in their own age bracket. Problem is, older men tend to want younger men merely for sex and not much else, which is a put off to any sensible man.
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    Nov 29, 2015 5:33 AM GMT
    I don't think it's purely money or purely looks. Has to be a combination of the two. I don't think any youngster would want to be with a hot looking older guy that only takes him out to Taco Bell. And conversely, I don't think any youngster would want to be with a filthy rich older guy if he's 500 lbs of fat.

    But I do agree with your statement that the motive for most older men is sex. I mean, what does a 50 year old have in common with a 19 year old?
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    Nov 29, 2015 5:41 AM GMT
    seekingyounger saidalso have had no luck with anyone younger, unless the younger guys is really overweight or unattractive.


    hmm so you don't want younger guys that are overweight or unattractive. What would make you think a younger guy would want someone who is older, overweight and unattractive? Imo guys who are in really good shape and older are really hot. If you have a lot of disposable income disregard everything and just flaunt your money they will come... and go when the money is gone.
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    Nov 29, 2015 6:01 AM GMT
    Although, I'm not that young anymore, I'm dating a guy who's 11 years older and he has a nice body, is handsome, successful...

    My point is similar to MrAesthetic's, I take care of myself and have worked hard on my body and am also furthering myself in school, I wouldn't be interested in him if he were lacking any of those qualities I listed. (Alternately, he probably wouldn't be interested in me if I weren't working on myself.) I think there's an adage, "you attract what you put out."
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    Nov 29, 2015 6:20 AM GMT
    Post on silverdaddies.com and similar sites ?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Nov 29, 2015 6:24 AM GMT
    Ever try sticking around until closing time? icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 29, 2015 7:07 AM GMT
    xrichx saidI don't think it's purely money or purely looks. Has to be a combination of the two. I don't think any youngster would want to be with a hot looking older guy that only takes him out to Taco Bell. And conversely, I don't think any youngster would want to be with a filthy rich older guy if he's 500 lbs of fat.

    But I do agree with your statement that the motive for most older men is sex. I mean, what does a 50 year old have in common with a 19 year old?


    Good points, I can see how it probably is a combination much of the time when you describe it like that.
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    Nov 29, 2015 8:19 AM GMT
    dilfforrent saidYes it comes down to being generous. I've long since realized that the "success stories" here are just men angling to appear more desirable... a fake-it-till-you-make-it kind of scenario.


    LOL so true