you think people should help one another when they know it is a good thing, but they don't feel like it is coming from the heart

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    Nov 28, 2015 8:36 PM GMT
    For example charity, everyone knows charity is a good thing to help someone not getting any materialistic benefit in return in any form, weather it is money or helping someone

    MY question is do you think people should help one another when they know it is a good thing, but they don't feel like it is coming from the heart, you know what I mean?

    Do you think people should help if it is not coming from the heart and they don't feel like they should do it, but know it is good to do it?
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    Nov 29, 2015 4:41 AM GMT
    This was explained by Phoebe in an episode of Friends. There is no such thing as a selfless act of kindness.
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    Nov 29, 2015 7:27 AM GMT
    Sometimes you just do it because it is right. Then the heart may follow.
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    Nov 29, 2015 7:38 AM GMT
    I prefer to help people I don't know based on my conscience rather than my heart. And why is that? If you involve your heart, then that means you are involving emotions. I prefer to keep my emotions out of it!
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    Nov 29, 2015 11:22 AM GMT
    You always derive an intangible benefit when you practice charity (love).

    What harm is there in helping someone, the motivation notwithstanding?

    So yes, you should practice love even when you don't feel like it but you know it's the right thing to do. Why would you want to do the wrong thing?
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    Nov 29, 2015 12:45 PM GMT
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    Your question...

    "you think people should help one another when they know it is a good thing, but they don't feel like it is coming from the heart"

    ...answers itself,

    because even if you are not guided by your heart--and not everyone has the same level of empathy--then you'd be guided by principles governing the application of your intellect, be those highfalutin morals or merely aesthetics i.e. that you "know it is a good thing."

    Thinking it not a good thing to help, or more to that, thinking it a good thing to not just not help but to hurt, therein lies a measure of sociopathy.

    For even someone who doesn't feel the connection can intellectually connect and those who fail that isolate themselves that much more from society and from their own humanity though they might not realize that at the time. Thus you find people trying to purposely hurt each other: domestic violence, vindictiveness, cheating in business or in personal affairs, etc.
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    Nov 29, 2015 3:26 PM GMT
    I disagree with the answers, I believe the answers are very one sided and simple and I didn't see not a single complex and thoughtful answer, it's not just about doing good things, but mind vs inner gut/soul whatever you want to call it in every day life and i think the question is complex, because emotion is a result of a thought, but when you think it is a good thing, but genuinely don't feel like it is the right thing, there is an interesting disbalance and conflict


    And not always thinking it's a good thing does good, road to hell is paved with good intentions the saying goes. Isn't it better doing something you believe in and feeling like you are doing something good rather than a mind pattern that is logical, but empty.

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    Nov 29, 2015 4:07 PM GMT
    I've done a lot of things to causes and people, that at the time I did not feel it from my heart, nor felt they deserve it!? BUT sometimes doing what you don't want to do, at the end of the day, and specially in time, it makes you a much much better person! my point is that sometimes you can't trust nor should listen to one's mind and heart until you force your "INNER REBEL" to break through one's own prejudices, fears, doubts, and other countless negative feelings within you.

    So yeah, I truly believe the act of giving should NOT be carry on by a reason nor have a prize tag attach to it, but rather by the simple act of giving to those less fortunate, EVEN if they got there through their own fault or failures, because we've all being there too!

    HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE!
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    Nov 29, 2015 5:15 PM GMT
    I've been in many cases where people help me who i know dont want to. In a time of need, you really dont care, you just want help. I think people should help even if they don't have a passion for it. Even if they never feel the benefits of helping someone else who needed it appreciates it.

    If dont begrudgingly or it they would make it worst, then no they shouldnt.