will you date/hookup with someone that cannot speak your own language?

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    Nov 29, 2015 12:27 PM GMT
    I had twice with mixed results (italians). personally I don't think I will ever do that again. I had to use google translation all the time, and during the sex I was not able to communicate properly, and I had the worst sex I ever had. I thought people from developed countries will be fluent in english. turned out I am dead wrong.
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    Nov 29, 2015 1:54 PM GMT
    funny you mention this.

    I'm black, and so is my family, so take this as a black/african american perspective.

    I have a really ghetto and independent aunt and she is in her forties who doesn't have any children and is now in a three year relationship with an older white guy from Germany. He speaks very little english, but enough to where he is able to work as a hotel manager here in Los Angeles.

    So maybe the language barrier brings their relationship closer together.

    It also got me thinking. I actually wouldn't mind if I found a lover who did not speak english as a first language, or very good at all. I'm currently learning how to speak French so.. Hmm.

    Sorry your experience was bad though.
  • SilverRRCloud

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    Dec 02, 2015 3:20 AM GMT
    ophis saidI had twice with mixed results (italians). personally I don't think I will ever do that again. I had to use google translation all the time, and during the sex I was not able to communicate properly, and I had the worst sex I ever had. I thought people from developed countries will be fluent in english. turned out I am dead wrong.


    Yup. You ARE dead wrong. Not all people from the developed countries want/need/speak English. Many do. Some do not.

    You can actually have a very good life in many European countries simply by speaking your native language only. Nope, you would not be looking into a major international career but you may be looking into a six figure income anyway. So why bother?

    SC
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    Dec 02, 2015 5:48 PM GMT
    Hookup yes, date no. As long as they understand; no, stop, if you do that again I will fucking kill you, and I am calling the police, its all good.
  • Destinharbor

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    Dec 02, 2015 6:38 PM GMT
    I did once hook up with a guy who didn't speak english. We communicated. It was fun. Kind of stripped the whole thing down to just raw sex.
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    Dec 02, 2015 7:38 PM GMT
    ophis saidI had twice with mixed results (italians). personally I don't think I will ever do that again. I had to use google translation all the time, and during the sex I was not able to communicate properly, and I had the worst sex I ever had. I thought people from developed countries will be fluent in english. turned out I am dead wrong.


    What a dumb thought! Why would developed countries be fluent in languages other than their own?
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    Dec 02, 2015 9:03 PM GMT
    Depends on how big his dick is.   icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 02, 2015 9:08 PM GMT
    never
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    Dec 03, 2015 12:41 AM GMT
    Destinharbor saidI did once hook up with a guy who didn't speak english. We communicated. It was fun. Kind of stripped the whole thing down to just raw sex.


    Same here. I dated a Brazilian for a while whose English was virtually non existent as was my Portuguese. The sex was great!
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    Dec 04, 2015 12:01 AM GMT
    Would, and have done in the past.

    Sex is sex. Speaking is not absolutely necessary. What if your hookup were deaf? You would not be talking to him.
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    Dec 04, 2015 12:33 AM GMT
    a good super fast way to learn a language.
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    Dec 04, 2015 5:50 AM GMT
    I definitely would date someone that didn't speak English. It would be good bonding between us, teaching him English and him teaching me his language. I dated a Japanese girl for a few years while I was taking Japanese classes in Uni. My conversational skills soared past my classmates because I was using it everyday. I had the accent down so well that even Japanese people (when I lived in Japan) thought I was half-Japanese.
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    Dec 06, 2015 6:13 AM GMT
    I went on a short date with a Mexican guy who speaks Spanish and barely speak English. It was okay but it was cute in the beginning, then I had no idea what he's talking about in front of his friends. So I kinda ignored him after 2 dates. And I hooked up with a foreign Czech student 2 years ago, he barely speaks English too. Lol, the kid was like 19, man I felt like a perv older man. But yeah his age was a factor, i want someone more matured. I don't think it's a deal breaker that someone doesn't speak English, as long as he tried I guess, having said that, I prefer someone speak Fluent English and maybe a bilingual or a cultured-linguist guy.
  • Import

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    Dec 06, 2015 3:55 PM GMT
    I've dated/hooked-up with tons of guys who's first language isn't english.
    Here in miami what choice do I have?

    I dated and hooked up with several men who barely spoke any english at all. No regrets here.
  • Crepuscule

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    Dec 06, 2015 4:53 PM GMT
    Dear Americans... Learn more languages FFS! I would definitely date a guy from English, French or Spanish speaking countries, because those are my second, third and fourth languages. And with the rest of Scandinavia I can pretty much communicate by speaking Swedish.
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    Dec 12, 2015 3:07 AM GMT
    I don't think I could. Communication is too important to me
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    Jan 27, 2016 5:45 PM GMT
    I absolutely would icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 27, 2016 7:08 PM GMT
    I wouldn't...

    "You're clean right?"
    "no comprendo..."
    "Good enough!"
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    Jan 28, 2016 11:38 PM GMT
    I wanna change my answer above. Yes. Lately i really like foreign Russian guys for some reason. I speak about 3 languages. I can teach him some pointers.
  • transient

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    Jan 29, 2016 7:37 PM GMT
    I'm successfully managing a relationship with a Portuguese native,it works well because his English is amazing&my vocabulair Portuguese improvement tudo da dia.
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    Jan 29, 2016 9:28 PM GMT
    Yes because firstly, I can speak more than one language and secondly, you can communicate even if you cannot speak the language. Besides I don't think petty things likes one's language skill is going to bother me only for a one night stand.
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    Jan 31, 2016 8:07 PM GMT
    I think this guy is the epitome of perfection, yeah I'd totally learn sign language to converse with him

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    Jan 31, 2016 9:21 PM GMT
    I really need to get to know someone before I get interested in them, so this would be a problem for me personally, although I think there is something really sexy about a foreigner. The give and take of getting to know someone would seem a lot more complicated with language issues.

    Thinking legally, here in Florida there are a lot of strange laws about consent. For example, someone who is too impaired due to alcohol can't legally consent to sexual activity in the state of Florida. This law can potentially pose a lot of issues for people at pickup bars. I could see some problems with someone who can't speak not being able to understand what you are suggesting and say "yes, please do."

    Just my two cents,
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  • Apparition

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    Feb 05, 2016 4:53 AM GMT
    no
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    Feb 14, 2016 7:01 PM GMT
    Omg its Nyle he's so cute. icon_biggrin.gif

    Painted saidI think this guy is the epitome of perfection, yeah I'd totally learn sign language to converse with him

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