Who is the first male you can remember being attracted to in " that way "?

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    Nov 29, 2015 9:25 PM GMT
    Haha, obviously I mean physically, sexually, or a gay way, but I say " that way ", because despite not truly realizing I was gay until less then a decade ago, I DO remember finding a specific actor really attractive, & kept looking at the TV guide article. It was late 80's, & his name is Don Diamont. The article was about his character he plays on a soap, & how his new interest in body building played into his character having more shirtless scenes, lol. He is still just as good looking, & more built today. So who do you guys remember as your first?
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    Nov 29, 2015 10:16 PM GMT
    One of my dad's friends. He was also my basketball coach. I used to wish for him to touch me inappropriately whenever he drove me home from practice.
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    Nov 29, 2015 10:34 PM GMT
    My brother's best friend..i used to make out with my pillow thinking about him..i was like 11icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 29, 2015 10:45 PM GMT
    I remember way way back when I was in the 1st grade(!) that there was a guy who lived above us in the apartment complex. I don't remember him specifically being handsome, but I was definitely mesmerized by him and was always hoping I'd see him. In retrospect I realized that he was hot. He was also an Air Force officer from the nearby base (Vandenburg).

    Similarly, when I was in 2nd or 3rd grade we went to a place called Cyprus Gardens in Orlando Florida where they had these stunt water skiers and back then the guys didn't wear a wet suit or any sort of life preserver, just a skimpy tight bathing suit. Water skiers have muscular and very hard bodies. My stepfather had taken a bunch of slides of them which I always got excited about when we looked at them.

    The list goes on and on.

    But the lightbulb didn't go off over my head about being gay until I was 21.

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    Nov 29, 2015 10:49 PM GMT
    Gscepi917 saidI DO remember finding a specific actor really attractive, & kept looking at the TV guide article. It was late 80's, & his name is Don Diamont.

    Mine were male actors, too. Though obviously I couldn't do anything about them. Nor did I really understand my feelings.

    These were Hollywood stars of the 1930s & 40s, whose old movies flooded B&W TV in the 1950s, the perfect outlet for them. Adventure actors like Errol Flynn and Tyrone Power. To this day I still think they're beautiful men.

    And I never had any interest in female entertainers, in movies, TV or otherwise. Other than admiring their talent. And those I did single out are now recognized as gay icons. DUH!

    When I went to boys prep school at 14 there was a teacher in his mid-20s I thought absolutely gorgeous. I had a kind of dreamy crush on him, couldn't keep my eyes off him. But, again, I didn't understand what I was really feeling, how to express it, even form the concept in my mind.

    My life is littered with lost opportunities.
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    Nov 29, 2015 10:58 PM GMT
    Gscepi917 saidHaha, obviously I mean physically, sexually, or a gay way, but I say " that way ", because despite not truly realizing I was gay until less then a decade ago, I DO remember finding a specific actor really attractive, & kept looking at the TV guide article. It was late 80's, & his name is Don Diamont. The article was about his character he plays on a soap, & how his new interest in body building played into his character having more shirtless scenes, lol. He is still just as good looking, & more built today. So who do you guys remember as your first?


    One of my grade school classmates. Blonde, blue eyed, and I had such a crush on him. I still remember his name.
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    Nov 29, 2015 11:27 PM GMT
    CODY4U saidOne of my dad's friends. He was also my basketball coach. I used to wish for him to touch me inappropriately whenever he drove me home from practice.


    Haha nice!
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    Nov 29, 2015 11:50 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Gscepi917 saidI DO remember finding a specific actor really attractive, & kept looking at the TV guide article. It was late 80's, & his name is Don Diamont.

    Mine were male actors, too. Though obviously I couldn't do anything about them. Nor did I really understand my feelings.

    These were Hollywood stars of the 1930s & 40s, whose old movies flooded B&W TV in the 1950s, the perfect outlet for them. Adventure actors like Errol Flynn and Tyrone Power. To this day I still think they're beautiful men.

    And I never had any interest in female entertainers, in movies, TV or otherwise. Other than admiring their talent. And those I did single out are now recognized as gay icons. DUH!

    When I went to boys prep school at 14 there was a teacher in his mid-20s I thought absolutely gorgeous. I had a kind of dreamy crush on him, couldn't keep my eyes off him. But, again, I didn't understand what I was really feeling, how to express it, even form the concept in my mind.

    My life is littered with lost opportunities.
    Art Deco, I have 2 more questions for you on this topic if you don't mind answering? Ok, first of all of today's famous good looking guys ( actors, musicians, athletes, etc...) who do you find most attractive. The second being of all those potential guys from today, back to when you were little which do you think is the best looking, or more specifically which makes you feel that feeling the most no matter when he was big.
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    Nov 30, 2015 12:01 AM GMT
    There was a neighbour boy when I was 12/13 and to this day I can remember his name and what he looks like. His name was Chad and he had blue eyes and blonde hair. I didn't know it at the time, but I was intrigued by him.
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    Nov 30, 2015 12:59 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidAdventure actors like Errol Flynn and Tyrone Power. To this day I still think they're beautiful men.


    It's interesting you'd name those two, since it's been rumored for decades that they were lovers.

    The first one I remember having a serious crush on was Michael Ontkean, who starred in The Rookies (1972-74) on TV. He also starred in one of the first mainstream gay-themed movies - Making Love (1982); his gay love interest was Harry Hamlin (star of the original Clash of the Titans). For years and years I assumed Michael Ontkean was openly gay since he made that movie; I learned only recently that he's married with children.
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    Nov 30, 2015 1:04 AM GMT

    This was a toss up but I have mentioned it before, between these two actors, right around the time I hit puberty but didn't officially come out until 1990. I did have a 'secret' affair going on with a high school boy friend during the 4 year run of Matt Houston icon_razz.gif






    Lee Horsley plays Matt Houston 1982 to 1985


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    Greg Evigan, BJ and the Bear 1979 to 1981

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    Nov 30, 2015 1:18 AM GMT
    Mine was the boy across the street. Four years older and the star of the football team. I got to suck his dick in a camp out a few times. Good times!!
  • Here_n_Hairy

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    Nov 30, 2015 1:29 AM GMT
    Actually mine was animated, lol...I was a very very young boy, and when I watched old "Scooby Doo" re-runs, I found myself feeling all "a-tingly" over Fred...and I didn't understand why I felt that way, until I got older.

    Then the first real person male (lol) I remember being so innately drawn too was a Bible school counselor. He was probably a mid-to-late teenager and I was maybe 8 or so. Oh, the way he made me feel...
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    Nov 30, 2015 3:41 AM GMT
    I went to a small religious private middle school but I took swimming lessons in the summer at the public high school. There was a high school boy on the swim team who was ether an instructor or assisting the instructors name Ray who was had short but curly black hair, big brown eyes, olive skin, and had washboard abs. Being that he was wearing a very small swimsuit he was basically nude probably didn’t hurt either.

    I also think Zack (Actor Mark-Paul Gosselaar) on "Saved by the Bell" may have also affected my development.
  • Webster666

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    Nov 30, 2015 4:00 AM GMT
    First was a male model who appeared in a catalog, modeling underwear.
    In real life, it was a guy I happened to see around campus, in my first year of college.
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    Nov 30, 2015 8:57 AM GMT
    I remember going to the bathroom in like 6th grade when i saw this huge Puerto Rican dick on a classmate.
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    Nov 30, 2015 11:00 AM GMT
    It was during summer camp when I was 12 years old I was attracted to the other guys especially during swimming time, but particularly one individual and named mark, the attraction was purely physical.
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    Nov 30, 2015 1:24 PM GMT
    LostSailor saidI remember going to the bathroom in like 6th grade when i saw this huge Puerto Rican dick on a classmate.



    That's cool you saw a big one right off the bat ( pun intended lol ). You know I'll tell you a weird thing for me is after coming out it took me awhile to have any interest in dick. It was never something I noticed, or thought about on guys. Not butts either. It was just 2 things that attracted me. Faces, & muscles. Weird huh? Now however is anther story
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    Nov 30, 2015 2:21 PM GMT
    Gscepi917 said
    Art Deco, I have 2 more questions for you on this topic if you don't mind answering? Ok, first of all of today's famous good looking guys ( actors, musicians, athletes, etc...) who do you find most attractive. The second being of all those potential guys from today, back to when you were little which do you think is the best looking, or more specifically which makes you feel that feeling the most no matter when he was big.

    I'd be glad to answer you, if I could! Because truth is, I hardly know the names of today's young actors, entertainers, sports figures or popular celebrities, male or female. I'm kinda falling out of touch with that aspect of contemporary pop culture.

    You'd really have to name some candidates for me, to see if I know any of them. But I hardly watch weekly TV shows anymore, don't follow music or sports, and don't have a roving eye since settling down. Your OP asked for the "first male" we could remember, and this now would be the "last male". I'm not sure there is one, not very recently, other than my BFs and 2 partners (late & current).
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    Nov 30, 2015 2:55 PM GMT
    When I was a kid I remember being introduced to a new guy in the neighborhood nicknamed Biff. It was summer and we were all running around the neighborhood in shorts and shirtless. I remember his curly blond hair, big blue eyes, alabaster skin, and musculature. I only saw him that one summer and never again. He made such an impression on me to this day I wonder what became of him. If he's still alive and took care of himself I'm sure he's a striking man.

    Funny though, my taste in men has changed and I prefer brown, dark haired, dark eyed Latinos.
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    Nov 30, 2015 3:34 PM GMT
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    Art_Deco saidAdventure actors like Errol Flynn and Tyrone Power. To this day I still think they're beautiful men.

    It's interesting you'd name those two, since it's been rumored for decades that they were lovers.

    Yeah, that fact has not escaped me. Although I didn't know it when I was a kid. I also later learned that others of my favorite male actors were outright gay, or bi, or at least sexually ambiguous, long before I even knew what those terms meant. Clifton Webb, Monty Woolley, Cary Grant, among others.

    "The Gaydar is strong with him, Obi Wan."
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    Nov 30, 2015 4:04 PM GMT
    Another early remembrance in conjunction with this topic: boys summer camp in 1958, my second annual, when I was 9. Our cabin of 15 boys and 1 college-age counselor, along with another cabin of boys the same age, went on an overnight hike into the woods.

    Very primitive, almost Outward Bound in style. We had no tents or sleeping bags, just a single wool blanket for each of us to spread on the ground. Brought out by a rickety stake truck, along with hot dogs the 2 counselors taught us how to cook on an improvised campfire as our supper.

    About midday we went "exploring" (exploring exactly what besides more heavy woods I never discovered). We did come across a shallow mountain stream, and it was agreed we'd take a swim. We had brought no clothes with us other than what we wore, so we skinny-dipped, common for boys in the 1950s. Our counselors, too.

    Some of us, like me, had never seen a fully naked adult male before. There were exclamations from the boys that "He's got hair on his thing!" and similar. I found myself enjoying the sight. Not of the other naked boys, nothing new to me, but of how grown men looked, with all their hair and size.

    At one point the other counselor got a hardon. Why I can't say, maybe the shock of the cold water, or the air coming out, perhaps the boys still calling attention to his stuff. My own counselor was laughing hysterically, and told him to get back into the water and swim it off.

    I presume most of us had never seen a boner before, I know I hadn't. I don't recall having had one myself to that point, I think that was a year or 2 away. I didn't know a dick could manage that trick! I was incredibly naive.

    And each of the 3 summers I attended camp I thought my cabin counselor, a different one each year, was so good looking. Well, so were the other ones in the camp, too.

    Therefore I'd add summer camp counselors to my list of males to whom I was attracted at any early stage. In a way I didn't understand at the time, and wasn't able to comprehend for many more years.
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    Nov 30, 2015 6:52 PM GMT
    An athletic guy in my junior high school class.
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    Nov 30, 2015 6:52 PM GMT
    Does Johnny Quest's Ace Bannon, count?!

    Live action award, from me, goes to Tarzan's Ron Ely, however, I believe I did have stirrings for Lloyd Bridges of Sea Hunt fame.
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    Dec 01, 2015 2:44 AM GMT
    Zack Morris from Saved by the Bell. I was probably only 13 at the time.