I"m thinking about a big NO! The reason I say no is because time and again, I've witnessed guys in open relationships deteriorate, tear at the seams and ultimately crumble like the twin towers did.
Yes, I SUPPOSE there is some level of maturity, communication and respect that may be involved in establishing some basic ground rules and codes of conduct, but from the looks of what I have witnessed over the years with so called "open-relationships" I think not.
There really isn't anyway for me to put this then straight up, and many of you will disagree with me here, and that's fine. Here it goes:
Open-relationships are just a way to supplement for a relationship that isn't meant to be in the first place, or is just an excuse for one or both partners to justify cheating and promiscuity(which is rampant in the gay community). I do not see this as moral or justifiable.
Why would one or two partners want to engage in something damaging like an open relationship? Why do gay guys feel that they need to have more then one partner to be happy?
There is no logical reason for me to believe that an open relationship is moral or ethical because if you're happy with someone, why do you need to sleep with someone else? That just does't make any sense to me. I get that guys are hornbills and maybe want to taste from the tree of cum, but that doesn't mean that you have to just because it's there.
Here's the deal; at some point in a open relationship/love affair, someone is going to get hurt. people lie, they cheat, they lie about cheating, and they make excuses as to why it is okay, and that they will never do it again, or that you can also partake in this.
BULLSHIT! open relationships are just a pathetic excuse to lie and justify cheating and that to me is morally reprehensible. If you're going to do something like this, then just be friends with benefits(that I also don't agree with).
The thing that irritates me the most about "open-relationships" and "open-love affairs" is that gay guys are still humans, and humans have feelings regardless of how self-entitled and narcissist gay guys are(they are very much so), and feelings will always trump your dick and testosterone.
They gay community needs to move away from this if we want more acceptance. Too many relationships and now newly gay marriages are being destroyed all in name of open relationships and this notion of "free love" bullshit.
I don't agree with them, and yes, I do judge people in them, especially gay guys because they are more likely to be in one then heterosexual people. I find very few gay guys anymore who want to settle down in a relationship anymore. You're lucky if you can get more then one hangout session or what the fuck ever out of them because all they care about is how many guys they can fuck in one night.
I would never allow myself to be in an open relationship because I've seen first hand the damage and destruction that they do to people. NO one and I repeat NO one is truly mature enough to handle the complexity of an open relationship regardless of age or gender. They are so complex, and humans are very complex. Whoever says they are is lying to themselves and to everyone on here.
So that's my two cents. I don't agree with them, I frown upon them, and I will never partake in one in any form.