Who proposes in a gay relationship?

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    Dec 02, 2015 3:27 PM GMT
    Curious for when that time comes.. Any thoughts?
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    Dec 02, 2015 3:36 PM GMT
    Who purposes in a gay relationship?

    Purposes or proposes?

    If it's "propose" then both my partners, late & current, proposed to me first. I suppose it's whoever wants to take the initiative.

    And even in the straight world the traditional pattern of male asking female is being abandoned. Sometimes it's the other way. I don't see a need for any pattern.
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    Dec 02, 2015 5:43 PM GMT
    The top, otherwise the marriage is morally invalid
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    Dec 02, 2015 5:48 PM GMT
    More often than not it's the assertive one although there are no hard and fast rules.
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    Dec 02, 2015 7:02 PM GMT
    The top, obviously
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    Dec 02, 2015 7:06 PM GMT
    UndercoverMan saidMore often than not it's the assertive one although there are no hard and fast rules.


    Or the insertive partner

    "no hard and fast rules."

    Better be sumthin hard.
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    Dec 02, 2015 7:06 PM GMT
    The one who has more $$ to buy the engagement rings.
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    Dec 02, 2015 7:49 PM GMT
    Between two men, the marriage fantasy seems more "bottomy", so it probably would be the more passive partner pushing it. Straight guys usually propose to women so they can own them (or because they're pregnant). It's a totally different dynamic with gays, so the roles there are a bit reversed.
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    Dec 02, 2015 8:30 PM GMT
    the OP will proposes first
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    Dec 02, 2015 8:41 PM GMT
    pellaz saidthe OP will proposes first


    What is an OP?
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    Dec 02, 2015 8:42 PM GMT
    CODY4U saidBetween two men, the marriage fantasy seems more "bottomy", so it probably would be the more passive partner pushing it. Straight guys usually propose to women so they can own them (or because they're pregnant). It's a totally different dynamic with gays, so the roles there are a bit reversed.


    You don't think It would be a mutual agreement simply because both individuals love each other?
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    Dec 02, 2015 9:14 PM GMT
    Geo46 saidWhat is an OP?

    you are the op sir
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    Dec 02, 2015 9:18 PM GMT
    The top, I would never do it, would feel weird
  • buddycat

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    Dec 02, 2015 9:22 PM GMT
    What your preferences are in bed doesn't make you the man or woman in a relationship. I don't think there is a rule, you just make that decision together. Gay marriage is so new that there is no traditions formed yet. Maybe whoever is prettier?
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    Dec 02, 2015 9:23 PM GMT
    proposal for marriage
    your big gay marriage is no less important than your what your parents had/have. Avoid divorce (its really bad) and date the man >3 years. That is a long time and bet the couple has worked on this issue plus many others.

    http://aplus.com/a/study-marriage-lasts-randy-olson
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    Dec 02, 2015 9:58 PM GMT
    Geo46 said
    pellaz saidthe OP will proposes first
    What is an OP?

    Geeze, haven't you ever heard of the game of Black Ops?
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    Dec 02, 2015 11:24 PM GMT
    theantijock%20engage%20stalker%20reducti

    If you are not a game player then it would be the one who thinks to ask first.

    If you are a game player then it is the one manipulated into saying it first.
  • David3K

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    Dec 03, 2015 12:10 AM GMT
    Just for the record I proposed to a guy once and he said yes but then things didn't work out.
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    Dec 03, 2015 12:47 AM GMT
    I would say the top or the more masculine one should. I never imagine myself proposing but being proposed to.
  • Apparition

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    Dec 03, 2015 1:32 AM GMT
    depends what you mean by ask...if it is woman ask...where she keeps mentioning it until the man cant stand it...then it is the top's job.
  • Webster666

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    Dec 03, 2015 7:44 AM GMT
    OP = Opening Post or Opening Poster

    One of the guys drops hints, hoping the other will propose.
    If that doesn't work, he accelerates to nagging.
    If that doesn't work, he pouts...
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    Dec 03, 2015 2:28 PM GMT
    Webster666 saidOP = Opening Post or Opening Poster

    One of the guys drops hints, hoping the other will propose.
    If that doesn't work, he accelerates to nagging.
    If that doesn't work, he pouts...


    Thanks for clarifying
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    Dec 03, 2015 2:34 PM GMT
    Why should it matter? Life is too short to feel each other out. Just do it when you feel like it.
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    Dec 03, 2015 2:39 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidWhy should it matter? Life is too short to feel each other out. Just do it when you feel like it.

    +1
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    Dec 03, 2015 2:45 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidWhy should it matter? Life is too short to feel each other out. Just do it when you feel like it.


    Your sooo right, I was just curious since it's a loosely defined situation.